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    (Original post by CaptainDudeson)
    They shag each other. There have been several cases of man on man rape in these places.
    I said heterosexual. Not bisexual/homosexual.
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    (Original post by effofex)
    Really?

    If so, how do the (heterosexual) guys on the oil rigs nr. Equatorial Guinea and Angola manage? How do the (heterosexual guys) in the construction industry in Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Sharjah, Oman, Saudi and Qatar manage?
    Bromide in their tea, it is a well known libido suppressant.

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    (Original post by Louise1787)
    Seriously, no-one is saying that he should be having sex with her and because he's not he's a terrible boyfriend. I suspect the reason that all the posts about him not having to have sex with her are getting negged is because they are tied to some bull**** about 'libido suppressing drugs' which, FYI, don't exist. Also, just as it is perfectly natural and acceptable for the boyfriend to not want sex, it is also perfectly natural and acceptable that the OP does!! How exactly are drugs going to help, how? Are you seriously trying to tell me that there is some magic drug out there that will help the OP feel perfectly happy and fulfilled despite the deep emotional response she is having to this situation?!

    Seriously, men are forever whinging on about how double standards exist in society, and maybe in a lot of cases that is justified but this is NOT one of them. Get over yourselves. Most people are saying 'back off and give him time, but if you aren't happy then break up' which is what they would say if the OP were a man having problems with his GF.

    Also, you are forgetting the fact that generally in our society, it is believed that men always want to have sex and women often don't. That is why people are saying that he is probably cheating, because it seems inconceivable that a man might just not want sex. This is also why the more sensible posters are saying to talk to him about it and that he probably has an emotional issue that has caused the change in his behaviour. Good luck OP, hopefully your man is more enlightened than some of the daft people on here.
    Umm you deleted the part of my reply which said to talk to him about it.... and fyi I'm a girl not a guy. And I never said anything about drugs...? I merely said to talk it out and if there were differences then it's probably best to break it off...
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    That sounds really strange is things were fine at one point.. can you think about when he changed? Has anything happened in your relationship which may have triggered this?
    You say he's slept with 7 people, but can you have evidence for them? I'm sure you don't want to think your boyfriend is lying but he may not want to seem incompetent?
    Also, religiously has he been in any situations which could lead him to see sex before marriage as wrong its just a thought.
    At the end of the day though, you just need to confront him, perhaps even show him this post but it shouldn't matter if he's 'too tired' to talk about it or whatever you need to resolve it, it will hopefully make you stronger!
    My ex boyfriend used to tell me I wanted sex too much and it did turn out it was only because he was cheating on me and didn't have the ability to satisfy me (loserrrr) but don't make this feel like he is absolutely cheating on you, just talk to him
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    (Original post by Sherlockedd)
    Umm you deleted the part of my reply which said to talk to him about it.... and fyi I'm a girl not a guy. And I never said anything about drugs...? I merely said to talk it out and if there were differences then it's probably best to break it off...
    I was mainly aiming my comments at effofex actually. I deleted the bit about talking to him because that was sensible advice :-) What I was saying was that people are focusing on the bit in effofex's response about 'if it was the other way round and she was a guy blah blah blah', but he was also going on about drugs which was probably why it was negged. Sorry for the confusion :-)
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    (Original post by Louise1787)
    I was mainly aiming my comments at effofex actually. I deleted the bit about talking to him because that was sensible advice :-) What I was saying was that people are focusing on the bit in effofex's response about 'if it was the other way round and she was a guy blah blah blah', but he was also going on about drugs which was probably why it was negged. Sorry for the confusion :-)
    Oooh right I get you, I got a little confused then :L
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    (Original post by effofex)
    Really?

    If so, how do the (heterosexual) guys on the oil rigs nr. Equatorial Guinea and Angola manage? How do the (heterosexual guys) in the construction industry in Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Sharjah, Oman, Saudi and Qatar manage?
    From what I hear, having a boyfriend that works in Oman inspecting oil rigs on occasion, through lots and lots and lots and LOTS of pornography. If you think drugs would work for you, fine, but don't try to push them on the OP when she clearly has an emotional issue, not a physical one. You can't solve relationship problems through drugs.
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    (Original post by Sherlockedd)
    Oooh right I get you, I got a little confused then :L
    Yeah, sorry. Should have quoted him in the first place, or both of you to clarify, but I don't really know what I am doing with this forum business!
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    Maybe he considers you as his sister now, rather than a lover?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's not a helpful reply, I'm not a rapist! Boyfriends are supposed to want to have sex with their girlfriends!
    God dammit, I am entitled to his ****.
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    (Original post by Louise1787)
    Yeah, sorry. Should have quoted him in the first place, or both of you to clarify, but I don't really know what I am doing with this forum business!
    Ahaha no worries, this stuff happens
 
 
 
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