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    (Original post by daisychain_)
    One of my mum's closest friends remarried her ex-husband who had cheated on her. They were separated for 13 years, and got married very soon after the guy split up with the woman he'd been cheating on his wife with. Not only did he cheat on her which is bad enough as it is, he told her that if she didn't divorce him he would tell everyone that it was her who had cheated on him (which is a big deal in a religious country). But she was in love with him and they have children together so its understandable, in a way.
    It honestly breaks my heart at how little your mums friend values herself she waited 13 years for that pathetic excuse of a husband to leave his mistress (who blackmailed her) so she could go back with him? Idc if they have 10 kids together. THATS UNACCEPTABLE!
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    Hell no! Its gonna be their loss anyway.
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    If he cheated ONCE, then maybe. If it was an affair, then hell no.
    ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER
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    (Original post by молодой гений)
    I'm in this dilemma right now. Boyfriend slept with someone when he was abroad, planned it for ages, etc. Says he's sorry, will do anything etc etc, but I just can't make myself... I dunno. It's hard.
    Two words. DUMP HIM
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    (Original post by Dalek1099)
    Relationships aren't supposed to be monogamous evolutionary science shows this though concepts like sperm competition.I personally think people who believe so strongly about monogamous or else are living in denial and are very selfish,why can't someone go with someone else as well as you?Of course you don't love the person if from the smallest of things you dump them/divorce them you seriously are in denials if you think having an affair is the worst thing a married couple is going to have to face, we forgive much worse things happening to us and being so prone to holding a grudge shows immaturity.I would advise being grateful for what you have if you are happy with your relationship then you shouldn't let small incidents ruin it.
    While I agree with you to a point. There are such things called open relationships. If someone thinks that they can't be in a monogamous relationship then they should be clear with their future partner(s) that they want to be polyamorous and find a partner that also wants this. If a person knowingly enters a relationship where they know that they are expected to be faithful and cheats then that is wrong (of course it is relative to the situation sometimes there are exceptions)


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    (Original post by Josb)
    Even if you had kids and a massive debt to pay for your house?
    My mum was a single mother of 4, we lived pretty much the broke life with very little leg room for luxuries

    I'd still take that upbringing any day over keeping a cheating ******* father in the same house.
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    (Original post by Dalek1099)
    Relationships aren't supposed to be monogamous evolutionary science shows this though concepts like sperm competition.I personally think people who believe so strongly about monogamous or else are living in denial and are very selfish,why can't someone go with someone else as well as you?Of course you don't love the person if from the smallest of things you dump them/divorce them you seriously are in denials if you think having an affair is the worst thing a married couple is going to have to face, we forgive much worse things happening to us and being so prone to holding a grudge shows immaturity.I would advise being grateful for what you have if you are happy with your relationship then you shouldn't let small incidents ruin it.
    This^^^, great post!


    hypergamy for women and polygyny for men, its genetic for women to marry up and men to desire more women i.e sperm competition like you said.
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    (Original post by PrincessAlexis)
    These people have low self esteem.

    'love is not enough.
    Not really, maybe they have accepted the biological nature of men and women.
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    (Original post by Tom_Ford)
    Tbh I can admit that I am a cheat, but, I would dump any gf in an instant if she cheats. It's hypocritical, but then again I am not going to admit I am a particularly selfless person, I am pretty honest with myself.

    I don't think anyone would admit it here, but having an affair is exciting. The sneaking around, the amazing sex, the fact that you know it is the absolutely wrong thing to do. Why do men see escorts, prostitutes, strippers, office girls, girls from the gym, other people's gf's/wives? It's sexually exciting. It's seedy. Does not mean they are emotionally tied to these women, far from it, but it makes you feel alive.
    I agree with you men hunt for women to spread genes women don't do the same
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    Ah it won't past couple girls that cheated on me, I did not give them another chance. I mean once you cheat then all trust is broken and to be honest it can't really be repaired.
    Those girls that cheated on you make me feel sick, men are the ones that are polygamous, and we are the ones that have sperm!:mad:
    I don't have a problem with women desiring a wealthy man (biological nature and hypergamy) but they shouldn't have a problem with men either 2 partners (polygamy) or more
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    (Original post by ubi1)
    Not really, maybe they have accepted the biological nature of men and women.
    Maybe they realise that human beings are more than 'caveman biology'.

    Do you live in a cave rn, or are you writing this on a computer?
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    (Original post by ubi1)
    Those girls that cheated on you make me feel sick, men are the ones that are polygamous, and we are the ones that have sperm!:mad:
    I don't have a problem with women desiring a wealthy man (biological nature and hypergamy) but they shouldn't have a problem with men either 2 partners (polygamy) or more
    God damn, you're just a bad person, aren't you?
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    (Original post by молодой гений)
    God damn, you're just a bad person, aren't you?
    Saying the truth makes me a bad person :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by treasureBelle)
    Cheating is something done deliberately. You choose to do it. It's not something that just "happens". Even if it was a drunken mistake, it was intentional, even if those intentions were alcohol/drug-fuelled. Cheating is not an "accident". Falling down the stairs is an "accident".
    Even if you can't control your feelings, you can control your actions. No longer feel the same way you used to? Fine. But break up with me, don't cheat on me. At least then I can respect you as a person, no matter how upset I may be at breaking up.
    I agree with this and a few times I have tried to make this point to others that have cheated (not with me) and their reaction is generally the same:

    you don't know what you are talking about, how can you possibly understand unless you have found yourself in that position, it doesn't mean you don't love your partner, these things just happen
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    (Original post by ubi1)
    Saying the truth makes me a bad person :rolleyes:
    How is it "true" that penis = cheat all you want, vagina = stay faithful and put up with the cheating?

    Seems to me you're just trying to excuse your own shady behaviour.
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    Depends how hot my girlfriend was obviously.

    If she was a 10/10, and thus would be very difficult to replace, I'd probably let her off with it. I always cheat on my girlfriends anyway so meh. So long as she's still taking my **** it's not like it's an insurmountable issue.

    If she was a 6/10, show her the door.
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    (Original post by молодой гений)
    How is it "true" that penis = cheat all you want, vagina = stay faithful and put up with the cheating?

    Seems to me you're just trying to excuse your own shady behaviour.
    Men are more polygamous than women? Yes or no?

    They are more prone to desiring more women just as much as women desiring to have the best partner. I didn't accept cheating on any gender just that men are more prone to it.
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    This is hard. I'm gonna say yes, maybe, depending on the situation. I could almost understand if maybe we weren't doing well, partner got drunk etc, emotions were high. But just cheating, nothing spurring it, I couldn't forgive. Though even if it were a situation where they were drunk and I forgave them, I feel I wouldn't trust them after that, and that could eventually end the relationship.
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    Once they cheat, they could always be capable of doing it again.
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    Its hard to tell.. It depends if there were emotions or it was just sex.

    And what he thinks about me? If he is feeling guilty ...
 
 
 
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