Got a boyfriend and I'm having a sleepover (with my guy friend)

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I feel bad for both guys. Your boyfriend because you actually think this is a good idea, and the other guy for being so friend zoned that he's eligible to have a sleepover with a girl.

lol'd

Reply 121

Musie Suzie

You're 19 and having platonic, planned sleepovers....?

Anyway, your boyfriend's right to be annoyed. It's inappropriate.

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Stupidity.

bbb 3some?

Original post by icup12

What do you think of this?
What are your thoughts and opinions on this?
Is it okay?
What about if it's vice versa?

I'm 19 and he's 20 and I told him I'm having a sleepover with a guy and he was pissed. He's just a friend - nothing more. What can I do?

seriously!!it's so wrong in many ways!!!wouldn't you dump him if he suggested something like staying over at a girls place?!!

Reply 125

BunnyMisery246

Original post by Secretnerd123

lol'd

So did I, brilliant. :biggrin:

Reply 126

WaywardWriter

Sleepover? More like fk over...

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Reply 127

SarcasticMel

Original post by Four Queue

I feel bad for both guys. Your boyfriend because you actually think this is a good idea, and the other guy for being so friend zoned that he's eligible to have a sleepover with a girl.

Lulz.

What is wrong with a sleepover? I mean if it is just 1 guy and her I would ask what the occasion is. But otherwise...

Reply 128

BunnyMisery246

Original post by SarcasticMel

Lulz.
What is wrong with a sleepover? I mean if it is just 1 guy and her I would ask what the occasion is. But otherwise...

It sounds like it is, she never mentioned any other people.

Reply 129

TwistedStar

I did the same i have a bf and had my male childhood friend visit me at uni and he obviously stayed at mine. I suppose it depends how long you have known the friend, if you bf knows him and the kind of friendship you have. If you have trust in a relationship it shouldn't be a problem. Yes, your bf might be pissed but he needs to trust that you will stay faithful. Just think if it was the other way around and he was having a female friend stay over how would you feel? If you wouldn't allow him to do it or it would really upset you then maybe you should rethink it? Having a bf shouldn't have a negative effect on your relationship with your friends.

Reply 130

Ladymusiclover

"sleepover" Is that what you call it. Don't think so. NO NO NO DON'T DO IT. Why do you need to sleep over at his house? The last time I had a sleepover was when I was in my mid teens and that is most likely the last one I will have. Even if it's all innocent I don't think it's fair on your boyfriend.

just dont **** him

Original post by icup12

Why?!

I think it's a bad idea. Even if you're "just friends", he might make a move you don't know what he's thinking. I would not be ok with it the other way around. Would you like a girl sleeping at your boyfriend's? I certainly wouldn't.

Reply 133

elmosandy

Original post by porn induced coma

Its sad that this is a question.

Your username man

Reply 134

porn induced coma

Original post by elmosandy

Your username man

Is a Stewart Lee quote.

Reply 135

carlaraptor

I think it's absolute madness that most people are all 'omg I'd dump my girlfriend for even suggesting it'. I'd say it would depend on the friend and how well they know each other.

I've been best friends with my male friend for nearly four years. I've slept in the same bed countless times - after nights out, late nights hanging out, etc. Nothing has ever happened. Not sober, not drunk. My boyfriend wouldn't mind in the slightest, especially as he's met him loads and they get on well, and he can see we are just friends.

If it's the first time and it's planned, that's a bit weirder I guess. I've only slept over at my mate's when I've been too lazy to walk home. :tongue:

Reply 136

shyaamb

You can have a sleepover with whoever you want. I would not be mad at my gf/bf if they had a sleepover with their friend. If the friend they are sleeping over with was an ex, then yeah maybe I would be worried.

Reply 137

Andy98

Original post by icup12

I'd trust you but if it became a regular thing I'd start to think you were cheating. Same story the other way around. It just seems odd to have a sleepover at that age.

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Reply 138

T3ch

I was wondering. What's so special about your friend that you like go through all that trouble to have a sleepover with him? As you mentioned earlier that you want to 'talk' to him face to face why can't you just skype him? What's the point of having a sleep over when you fan skype him? If you have a sleepover with him it puts your relationship in jeopardy and if you don't have a sleep over then surely your mate would understand or he won't as you are giving him a wrong sign because he may intend to think that he's getting laid tonight. To be honest why go through that trouble when your bf is gonna feel insecure about your decision as he may know your mates intention. To be honest your bf is thinking what's the main idea why she wants to have a sleep over with him?

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Reply 139

Mitta2345

Having a sleepover with someone of the opposite sex doesn't immediately make sex the ultimatum.
"He definitely wants to bang you" is a bit sexist and overly stereotypical don't you think? Especially considering you haven't even met him.
Girls with guy friends can have sleepovers in the same way girls with girl friends can have sleepovers, there's no difference when between friends :smile: