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    (Original post by BristolFresher15)
    Who hurt you bro?
    Why does everyone keep asking me this? Use your imagination.

    (Original post by MevMev)
    bruh just wait for the right girl to come along who is not a ***** what ever that was meant to be
    Pigs will fly and the sun will shine out of my arse if a decent girl comes along.

    (Original post by MevMev)
    innit lemme sort her out fam
    You might have to spend a while sorting out lots of girls.

    (Original post by UnknownRoyalist)
    No I'm not open to have one lol. I meant I don't have anything against anyone that would be open to have one - some people (like that asif) haven't got a choice after they've been rejected so many times #shotsfired.

    I agree. Getting to know the real personality of a person takes time. For me, my way of thinking in general is different to most people's so there's no way I could take any steps without knowing the person properly

    asif007 I'm joking btw lol. Just messing with you
    Bro, relationships are actually a sensitive issue for some of us. I'm sure you can work out for yourself that I would rather spend the rest of my life alone instead of having an arranged marriage. Make fun all you want but unless I find someone for myself it ain't happening.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Seriously why are ppl acting if arranged marriages are the end of the world.
    Believe it or not there are actually successful arranged marriages. Yes shock horror.
    Srsly people grow up.
    Well at least now I know whose parents are the result of an arranged marriage.
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    Put it this way: your affinity for an arranged marriage depends on how much you trust your parents to find the right person for you. Studies have shown that parents are most likely to choose someone with similar personality traits to themselves as potential suitors for their children. My mum can be a ***** sometimes, even the smallest thing can set her off and she will have a go at me for trivial things - so obviously that puts me off anyone she tries to choose for me and I can't trust her with that kind of responsbility. Not to mention that girls change a lot after marriage - they let themselves go, they stop being innocent and they just ***** about everything. Why would I want any of that BS when I can live my life without any of those worries and **** all the girls I want? Food for thought.
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    (Original post by Redsauce)
    Arranged Marriages is a big no no to me lol & no anon they don't always work out and in some of the cases that they do as you say it's then called a "Stroke Of Luck" usually successful ones happen if the guy knows the girl well enough or vice versa.
    Its my opinion and not everyone has to agree :grin:
    You know arranged marriages don't happen as the OP says right? Looking for a spouse can take many months and involve a process of getting to know the person as well as their family. It's not like you wake up one day and bam a wedding with some randomer. Love can be learned, even in the case of dating or unarranged marriages where the initial infatuation begins to wear off.

    Of course some arranged marriages are effed up and rushed but on the one hand, there's sensationalism and on the other hand, actual facts.
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    (Original post by dairychocolate)
    Was she actually fit?
    that is an odd question coming from someone with the username of dairychocolate. Are you just checking because it's starting to warm up now. it's supposed to be really hot in America this weekend. I sure hope she taste great.tell me how licks does it take to get to her lollypop center. Was there a Creamy Filling there waiting for you? when you got there did it explode all over your face, so did it?
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    (Original post by asif007)
    Why does everyone keep asking me this? Use your imagination.



    Pigs will fly and the sun will shine out of my arse if a decent girl comes along.



    You might have to spend a while sorting out lots of girls.



    Bro, relationships are actually a sensitive issue for some of us. I'm sure you can work out for yourself that I would rather spend the rest of my life alone instead of having an arranged marriage. Make fun all you want but unless I find someone for myself it ain't happening.
    (Original post by asif007)
    Put it this way: your affinity for an arranged marriage depends on how much you trust your parents to find the right person for you. Studies have shown that parents are most likely to choose someone with similar personality traits to themselves as potential suitors for their children. My mum can be a ***** sometimes, even the smallest thing can set her off and she will have a go at me for trivial things - so obviously that puts me off anyone she tries to choose for me and I can't trust her with that kind of responsbility. Not to mention that girls change a lot after marriage - they let themselves go, they stop being innocent and they just ***** about everything. Why would I want any of that BS when I can live my life without any of those worries and **** all the girls I want? Food for thought.
    Wow, dude. You carry around a lot of damage. Let it go.
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    (Original post by BristolFresher15)
    LMAO

    Seriously, though, my dad doesn't even know anything about her. He said he wasn't sure how old she was, she estimated around my age. He also had no idea whether she was single or not. Just showed me her to see if I liked her, which was the most unnerving bit.
    Maybe it's your dad who wants a piece of her
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    (Original post by Serine Soul)
    "No, but they might be like their ancestors. You have to go for someone with a history of a high status, like one your father's family has."
    Does she believe in eugenics science? :rofl:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lol soo true. My parents told me noone will marry me if I don't have a degree and noone will respect me, even if I don't end up working after marriage I still have to go uni. Also they want a well educated husband for me with a good job.
    Asian parents care more about family image than ancient Scottish Highland clans smh
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    (Original post by RobML)
    Asian parents care more about family image than ancient Scottish Highland clans smh
    Don't make judgements on 'Asians' based on what you're told on TSR.

    The truth is that this forum is far from representative, is prone to exaggerations/BS, and you also find significant variation from one Asian community to the next.

    Honestly none of my recently married relatives even married a Sikh and nobody cared.
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    (Original post by dairychocolate)
    Don't make judgements on 'Asians' based on what you're told on TSR.

    The truth is that this forum is far from representative, is prone to exaggerations/BS, and you also find significant variation from one Asian community to the next.

    Honestly none of my recently married relatives even married a Sikh and nobody cared.
    It was meant to be a light-hearted comment, sorry
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    (Original post by RobML)
    Maybe it's your dad who wants a piece of her
    My dad's almost 60, and a grandfather.

    Not every guy is as pervy as you Rob.
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    (Original post by RobML)
    Asian parents care more about family image than ancient Scottish Highland clans smh
    Hahaha respect and wealth are the top of their list. I'm looking for a husband now and that's what I've noticed.
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    (Original post by RobML)
    It was meant to be a light-hearted comment, sorry
    I knew you were kidding but I was just letting you (and anyone else reading) know for future reference. I wasn't criticising you.
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    Wow, that's nice! Have a look if you want to actually talk to her. Best of luck!
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    (Original post by BristolFresher15)
    Wow, dude. You carry around a lot of damage. Let it go.
    I'll carry it around if I want, thank you very much. I have no problem admitting that I'm damaged goods.
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    (Original post by asif007)
    I'll carry it around if I want, thank you very much. I have no problem admitting that I'm damaged goods.
    That's heavy man. Let the love in.
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    (Original post by BristolFresher15)
    That's heavy man. Let the love in.
    If I find someone who will reciprocate, then yeah I will. But I've let my guard down and poured my feelings out in the past only to get **** in return. Never again.
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    Remember arranged marriages aren't necessarily bad.
    if you think of it it's just like when one of your mates introduces you to someone who you then get to know and decide if you wanna take it further. It's still your choice whether you want to get married in an arranged marriage. and remember you don't just see a photo and get married, you get to know the person until you feel you know them properly
    the only difference is that it's 'arranged' because your family are a bit more involved than normal.
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    :ahee: bless !
 
 
 
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