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    (Original post by Trinculo)
    They're not mutually exclusive.
    Well nowhere did op mention someone's personality just looks.
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    (Original post by Ella-keturah)
    Well nowhere did op mention someone's personality just looks.
    Hint: That's because there's a very distinct type of man who really doesn't care about a girl's personality. They get rejected all the time because they narrow their options down to the most attractive girls they come across and pay absolutely no attention to unattractive girls regardless of how nice she is. It's why it makes me laugh when I hear "girls can have sex whenever they want" and, yeah, maybe if they're willing to sleep with literally any man no matter how vile but, sorry, I have seen girls get rejected. It's just that in these people's worlds, unattractive/overweight/crazy/dirty girls just don't exist.
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    (Original post by Ella-keturah)
    So you don't care about a woman's personality? Just that she's slightly attractive. Maybe that's where you're going wrong.
    If it's about sex then no I don't care about her personality. For a relationship I would care a little. At the moment I find there are girls who I find attractive physically but I don't think their personality is compatible with mine. Then I find women who I don't think are physically attractive but I find their personality attractive. Rarely do I find a girl that is physically attractive and also has a personality that is compatible to mine.

    The reality is attractive girls don't need to have a personality as they know they can get anything they want from a guy because they are beautiful and the guy will do whatever he can to go out with her.
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    (Original post by Ella-keturah)
    Well nowhere did op mention someone's personality just looks.
    (Original post by Sorani)
    Hint: That's because there's a very distinct type of man who really doesn't care about a girl's personality. They get rejected all the time because they narrow their options down to the most attractive girls they come across and pay absolutely no attention to unattractive girls regardless of how nice she is. It's why it makes me laugh when I hear "girls can have sex whenever they want" and, yeah, maybe if they're willing to sleep with literally any man no matter how vile but, sorry, I have seen girls get rejected. It's just that in these people's worlds, unattractive/overweight/crazy/dirty girls just don't exist.
    This isn't reality, you're talking about - this is some kind of idealised fantasy world.

    In reality, looks are overwhelmingly the reason people get together in the first place. I can't believe you don't accept this. I'm not necessarily saying that only good looking people get dates- I'm saying that your looks are of primary importance, wherever you might be on a hypothetical "scale".

    Of course, there are people who are funny, or congenial, wealthy or kind-hearted, and sure they might get some attention for those positive traits - but nothing like the effect of their looks. I don't even think this is a necessarily bad thing either. It's just natural. You can't see someone, you can't meet them. I'd say it's just kidding yourself on the idea that looks aren't the most important thing.

    Most people won't get the content of their character noticed if they're terribly unattractive. I'd also go so far as to say that most people who say they don't take looks into account isn't being truthful.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If it's about sex then no I don't care about her personality. For a relationship I would care a little. At the moment I find there are girls who I find attractive physically but I don't think their personality is compatible with mine. Then I find women who I don't think are physically attractive but I find their personality attractive. Rarely do I find a girl that is physically attractive and also has a personality that is compatible to mine.

    The reality is attractive girls don't need to have a personality as they know they can get anything they want from a guy because they are beautiful and the guy will do whatever he can to go out with her.
    I don't think that's necessarily true - but I would agree that there is nothing at all wrong with saying "I just want someone who is ok looking" there's nothing to say that those aren't absolute minimum criteria.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi

    So I've come to the decision at least for the time being that I'll visit an escort regularly because quite frankly women that I find attractive will simply not give me a chance. Tried everything, thrown a lot of money away trying to do it the normal way.

    Basically my childhood was dreadful and I was psychologically abused and bullied for years when I was growing up. This has meant that now as an adult I feel defective as a human being. I simply cannot change the past and I've thrown thousands of pounds at trying to recover from past events.

    I'd consider myself a physically attractive male. I have a good job and I'm intelligent but I'm simply not attractive to some women when it comes to my personality.

    What would you do in my situation?
    You do have a choice..
 
 
 
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