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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a Muslim girl and I've had sex before marriage and no regrets. If you save it for marriage there's the possibility you'll be stuck with someone your sexually incompatible with for the rest of your life. You've got to experiment and enjoy yourself beforehand
    Do you plan on marrying a muslim guy in the future, and if you do are you worried about a muslim guy being put off by the fact you're not a virgin? Btw I'm not judging, I think it's a personal choice. Just curious
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    (Original post by upperechelon)
    or facetime me those wrists if its coo


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    lolol u better hop my third wifey dnt see this
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you plan on marrying a muslim guy in the future, and if you do are you worried about a muslim guy being put off by the fact you're not a virgin? Btw I'm not judging, I think it's a personal choice. Just curious
    I won't tell him I've had sex, simplez. Too many Muslim guys nowadays have sex before marriage and then expect their wives to be perfect virgins, no sir. If they can sex then so can I. And if he desperately wants a virgin I'll just lie, there's no real way he could tell otherwise.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I won't tell him I've had sex, simplez. Too many Muslim guys nowadays have sex before marriage and then expect their wives to be perfect virgins, no sir. If they can sex then so can I. And if he desperately wants a virgin I'll just lie, there's no real way he could tell otherwise.
    Are you serious? What if they are virgin themselves? That is ****ing evil.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Oh so that's why so many White British women convert to Islam every year..so that's why Islam is the fast growing religion in this country. You're a joke mate. If you lot are so happy then why you find the need to drink yourselves to oblivion to have a good time every Friday night? PMSL. I'd be happy too if I iddnt know who my dad was...lol what a joke. The number of single & teenage parents, broken families in your culture is something I definitely want to strive for.
    there aren't loads though that's a bare faced lie. Concerts are so small in number they're not even worth mentioning. and for your god forsaken info mate secularism is growing faster than islam so put that in your pipe and smoke it.

    the number of nasty arranged marriages and warped, sick notions of honour and piety is what's truly gross in your culture. Something I won't strive for and this is coming from a muslim
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Are you serious? What if they are virgin themselves? That is ****ing evil.
    unlikely. I live in a muslim community and I don't know a single guy over like 17 who hasn't had sex. and how would I know he's a virgin though ?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    unlikely. I live in a muslim community and I don't know a single guy over like 17 who hasn't had sex. and how would I know he's a virgin though ?
    I don't know. But if they were saving themselves then poor them for getting stuck with you.
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    I don't know. But if they were saving themselves then poor them for getting stuck with you.
    unlikely. And if someone had that attitude I'd run a mile. Virginity isn't a prize or possession that I have to hold close and give in some special sex ceremony.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    unlikely. And if someone had that attitude I'd run a mile. Virginity isn't a prize or possession that I have to hold close and give in some special sex ceremony.
    Alright then
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    I would say just over half of my friends from Muslim backgrounds are. I would say it's more common these days and will be even more common for the next generation of Muslims and so on until it mirrors the amount of Christians who save themselves until marriage.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I won't tell him I've had sex, simplez. Too many Muslim guys nowadays have sex before marriage and then expect their wives to be perfect virgins, no sir. If they can sex then so can I. And if he desperately wants a virgin I'll just lie, there's no real way he could tell otherwise.
    Why not just leave Islam? I have no problems with muslims having sex without marrying but what I do object to is girls like you who deceive their potential husbands. People they supposedly love and will spend the rest of their lives with. Kind of shows what type of a person you are.
    Personally I value it because I know how hard it is it to keep it - I'm a guy. It routes out the strong from the weak like you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I won't tell him I've had sex, simplez. Too many Muslim guys nowadays have sex before marriage and then expect their wives to be perfect virgins, no sir. If they can sex then so can I. And if he desperately wants a virgin I'll just lie, there's no real way he could tell otherwise.
    That's a lie. I guess it depends on the people you surround yourself with though.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's a lie. I guess it depends on the people you surround yourself with though.
    not a lie I dont know any pious Muslim males
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why not just leave Islam? I have no problems with muslims having sex without marrying but what I do object to is girls like you who deceive their potential husbands. People they supposedly love and will spend the rest of their lives with. Kind of shows what type of a person you are.
    Personally I value it because I know how hard it is it to keep it - I'm a guy. It routes out the strong from the weak like you.
    O get off your high horse and stop judging. It's the ridiculous and warped culture around this notion of virginity that forces ' girls like me ' to have to deceive in the first place. And there's no way to know if the guy a girl is getting with isn't deceiving her too. it's not hard to stay a virgin, if you don't want to have sex before marriage then don't, but this disgusting culture around girls who have had sex as being nasty and impure needs to change. It roots out the judgemental and naive Muslims like you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    O get off your high horse and stop judging. It's the ridiculous and warped culture around this notion of virginity that forces ' girls like me ' to have to deceive in the first place. And there's no way to know if the guy a girl is getting with isn't deceiving her too. it's not hard to stay a virgin, if you don't want to have sex before marriage then don't, but this disgusting culture around girls who have had sex as being nasty and impure needs to change. It roots out the judgemental and naive Muslims like you
    Wow you're dumb
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    (Original post by donutellme)
    Wow you're dumb
    Beat me to it!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    OP most muslims from "decent" families do stay pure. I'm 21, and I'm a guy. I've been blessed/cursed with an insanely high sex drive..instead of messing around with girls, I work out and study or drive exciting cars to get my kicks. I honestly believe staying a virgin up to your marriage night is the best. Those who weren't, get upset and think about this myth of "Sexual compatibility" and needless to say..the marriage often fails within a year. Sexual compatibility does not exist. If two virgins go at it for the first time, not only is it completely emotional bonding process, they have no previous partners to compare their experiences with. Hence pure for pure, impure for impure. The Quran does have a logic.Its when people compare that we have issues i.e. if you've been banging since you were 16 and you sleep with a virgin..ofc its not going to be good for you..things take time and practice.. Sex gets better and better as the married couple communicate and teach one and another what works for the best sexual experience for both of them. fast forward time, after they've tailored eachother to their sexual preferences married couple will have the best sex into the best years of their lives.
    Just being virgin until marriage isn't enough though. Copulations are not supposed to be a recreational activity, there is no merit in 'getting better over time', it is purely an act of reproduction; of sustaining the next generation of muslims. Following the Deen and practising good Dawah is the only 'kick' one needs.
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    Lol, some do and some don't. I prefer waiting until marriage. It's silly when people say that the view is dumb and stuff, it's not going to change our minds. :laugh: I have friend's that have had sex without marriage and stuff, that's their choice.
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    (Original post by StudiousRoadman)
    Just being virgin until marriage isn't enough though. Copulations are not supposed to be a recreational activity, there is no merit in 'getting better over time', it is purely an act of reproduction; of sustaining the next generation of muslims. Following the Deen and practising good Dawah is the only 'kick' one needs.
    Actually it's not only allowed, but encouraged to do it for recreation only. Not just reproduction.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    not a lie I dont know any pious Muslim males
    Urgh you're giving the impression that all muslim males are like that. The ones I know aren't. But I guess you never know its not something they would openly talk about. Hmmm.
 
 
 
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