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    (Original post by Ribbit1234)
    Loooool Asian guys in general are okay and chill. Whitewashed Asian guys like u who beg it off white people and think they're special cuz they don't act 'asian' are embarrassing. Get over urself and go back to playing ur guitar
    Lol so mean but true.


    They worship english people. Non asian girls can actually use this to their advantage they'll do anything you say lol

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    (Original post by wass_khan1)
    Ladies, what are your thoughts on Asian guys? Be honest - good or bad will do!


    THE REASON I ASK:

    I’m obviously an Asian dude asking here lol

    So a few times I’ve found or seen that some (not all) girls that are NOT asian, can be a little dismissive or quite hesitant when it comes to asian guys who show interest. If thats the case for you, why? Or if thats not the case for you, why?

    I’m just quite curious to hear the female opinion on the matter, as I've had both positive AND negative responses when I've been interested in girls, like any guy does, but some I’ve asked why when getting a negative response, have bought up first or secondhand experiences involving the roadman/hootrat type that are from backward or strict families, maybe are drug dealers and/or treat their girlfriends like rubbish, and all the other typical stories and generalisations you probably hear or might have seen. Is that the usual worry, or is there something else we lack/don't quite do right for you? Or vice versa?

    I'm not bitter, or looking to have a rant. As I said, I'm just curious to hear peoples opinions

    Cheers

    Blame the western narrative, asian guys (brown) are high quality. I'm not a woman, perhaps I shouldn't have commented.
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    (Original post by OGFakiie)
    girls don't care about good heart, just if you're a spice or not
    I agree. My cousin married a spice and he was abusive AF and she ended up with a divorce after 4 years.

    And everything that happened around me in a young age even with my parents are all a lessons. I never want to date a man or anything, ill only date the man i want to get serious with and that would lead to marriage and he would ask come to my father and ask for my hand. Coz most guys are ****boys at this age and i want to get married in about 5/6 years or maybe later.

    But I personally never gave a **** about looks because i never got the true love of a daughter, my mum never got the true love of a husband. Therefore, i want a man who would be an amazing husband and child no matter what his class is, no matter what race or culture.
    I also want to be his first girl he has ever had as he would appreciate me more as he has been patient all those years 💕❤️ This is justa dream, guys are fake af from my experience 😴


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    (Original post by Habina786xx)
    I agree. My cousin married a spice and he was abusive AF and she ended up with a divorce after 4 years.

    And everything that happened around me in a young age even with my parents are all a lessons. I never want to date a man or anything, ill only date the man i want to get serious with and that would lead to marriage and he would ask come to my father and ask for my hand. Coz most guys are ****boys at this age and i want to get married in about 5/6 years or maybe later.

    But I personally never gave a **** about looks because i never got the true love of a daughter, my mum never got the true love of a husband. Therefore, i want a man who would be an amazing husband and child no matter what his class is, no matter what race or culture.
    I also want to be his first girl he has ever had as he would appreciate me more as he has been patient all those years 💕❤️ This is justa dream, guys are fake af from my experience 😴


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    this brought a tear to my eye. Anyway good luck with the first girl thing aha
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    (Original post by OGFakiie)
    this brought a tear to my eye. Anyway good luck with the first girl thing aha
    Aw haha thank you ♥
    I know that's just a dream hah X

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    (Original post by mercuryman)
    Lol what on earth...
    Lemme guess, you either live/work in the West Midlands or Bradford/equivalent
    Are you paki?

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    (Original post by wass_khan1)
    Pakistani. I'm kinda leaning towards agnostic these days rather than religious to be honest lol.
    I get what you mean, I hate having to conform with a societal norm that portrays over 1 million people in this country to be overly religious and uneducated when I'm none of those things, I mean I go to parties I've drank before and so have many other Asian guys, luckily I live in a relatively mixed area that is mostly white so I don't have to be around people with that kind of mindset too often
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    (Original post by PrincessBO$$)
    From my experience. Ive never seen an asian and a black couple in real life. It obvs can happen. But its rare
    (Im not asian)
    I've never seen it too lmao
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    (Original post by Habina786xx)
    Are you paki?

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    Paki....?? I'd strongly advise you against using that word

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    (Original post by maggie43)
    Paki....?? I'd strongly advise you against using that word

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    I'm a Paki myself and proud?

    Eh?

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    Asia is a big and varied place, but from my opinion, I don't really care as long as they are a nice person and they make me happy. I've had different experiences.. For example, I've had several men who I believe are from India adding me on Facebook and acting really creepy. Like one of them sent me my profile picture and starting commenting on it. Once I accidentally accepted one and whilst trying to find out how to de friend them and block them (a matter of minutes) he had liked every status or picture I had put up, commenting on 90% of them. I really didn't like that.
    On the other hand I have met many men of Asian decent and really, I've had no problem, honestly I really liked a lot of them and fancied one or two. Just like any other ethnicity.
    Regarding the 'creepy men', I've since upped my FB security and am very careful when going to click the delete request button.
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    What you guys haven't figured out yet, is that generally speaking CULTURE and attraction are intertwined.

    if you like a persons culture, or you embrace a person culture, then chances are much higher you will be attracted to that race.

    Whites are generally considered the most attractive race. It is no coincide that white culture has dominated most of the world. You will find white culture everywhere. The TV for example. White Invention, white culture. Almost everyone has a TV or knows someone who has one. Who invented the Toilet? the white man. White culture again. Almost everybody has a toilet or knows someone who has. I could go on and on...

    If you embrace a certain race's culture then there is a high chance you will be attracted to that race.

    now lets examine these races who seem to do worst when it comes to white women.

    Asians - oriental
    Asians - pakistani/Indian

    white culture has embraced or adopted virtually nothing from these cultures. Asians and pakistani do not have hardly any music influence on white culture. Also these races do not get involved in white popular sport much at the professional level.

    There used to be an old joke about why don't you see any Asians in football ...but i'm not going to repeat it here....

    Lets now look like at blacks ..who tend to do slightly better with white women than Asians.

    r n b/ hip hop [musics of blacks origin] are regularly in the charts
    sports - many black football players or Athletes

    culturally blacks have integrated more and had aspects of their culture adopted into white culture better than Asians.

    when was the last time you heard a black man say he can't eat pork?
    or can't drink Alcohol because it's against his religion.

    a great deal of why Asians don't do that well with whites is because culturally there are many differences and whites have embraced little of your culture
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    (Original post by beehall)
    Asia is a big and varied place, but from my opinion, I don't really care as long as they are a nice person and they make me happy. I've had different experiences.. For example, I've had several men who I believe are from India adding me on Facebook and acting really creepy. Like one of them sent me my profile picture and starting commenting on it. Once I accidentally accepted one and whilst trying to find out how to de friend them and block them (a matter of minutes) he had liked every status or picture I had put up, commenting on 90% of them. I really didn't like that.
    On the other hand I have met many men of Asian decent and really, I've had no problem, honestly I really liked a lot of them and fancied one or two. Just like any other ethnicity.
    Regarding the 'creepy men', I've since upped my FB security and am very careful when going to click the delete request button.
    truss, most are butters anyway
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    (Original post by Sherlyyyn)
    Wth is with all these people attacking the poor guy's post lol? It's just a question...

    Seems more than obvious that although there aren't any blatant racists here, people tend to think Asians are somewhat inferior to white people tbh. I mean, that's the kind of vibe i'm getting. People need to chill about Asian people being 'desperate to get white blood in the family' or 'Worshiping' whatever. Rude much? Y'all must think too highly of yourselves.

    Anyway though, in response to the actual point of this thread, i think it's because Asian people sometimes tend to have strict traditions, religion and culture and sometimes don't really date outside their race.
    Inferior? Not really, that's what many ppl think deep inside when they think of black/asian ppl, but I now live in a predominantly Scottish white ppl, and I feel no inferior at all. Coming from a medium class family, with enough study and manners and an open-minded attitude, why the **** I must feel inferior compared to a lot of douchebags and ********s here, because they are Caucasians? Many of them are wandering around on streets begging for money, and there are tons of useless ppl here, SHould I feel inferior? Hell no, I'm friendly to everyone every race and understand what is right or wrong but this comment is so annoying. Again, I respect all ppl and race but the word "inferior" is so incompatible and annoying, use it for such dudes whining and begging all the time coz they don't have white gf, not us.

    (Original post by loveleest)
    Would she let you date outside your race? Is yes then that is so rare tbh.
    Since I came here to study, my parents said that they don't care what girl I go for, as long as we feel happy and okay about each other(we are atheist btw). I do find girls of all races attractive, even white Brit girls, but I'm not any whitewashed or begging for white wife/gf...etc. Those guys are embarrassing us, by whining and begging such sensitive things. I just go for a girl who is compatible with me, that's it.

    (Original post by Habina786xx)
    I agree!

    I know many Asians and they just fall for either Asians or white girls.

    But the thing is they do everything in life when it comes to marriage they want the perfect girl, who has never dated anyone or been looked at in a different manner and i just find that ****ed up.
    Its the mindset of most Asians, even my family. You could go have sex before marriage, date, drink, smoke and enjoy life but when it comes to marriage they want the opposite to whatever they did in life.

    ^^ From previous experience


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    Sorry that you had such experience, yes I would say a lot of men are like that. But a big majority are less reserved, they accept girls no matter how the girls are, also like how the girls accept the guys, coz they know everyone must love someone before, even had sex, but as long as she slept with her ex coz she loved him, not a slut sleeping around, then I see no point putting pressure on the girl. And I distinguish the South East Asian ppl (Oriental: China, Japan, Indo, SIngapore, Vietnam....) and the South Asian ppl (India, Middle East...), absolutely different about appearance and mindset.
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    Listen man.. i have seen too many posts about this women are attracted to confidence and unfortunately alot of asian guys are too scared to even approach a girl i was the same till a few years back i used to think im too ugly and girls out there dont like asians till i decided to man up go to the gym take pride in my appearance and grow some balls to talk to a girl...to then realise the story is quite different i have managed to attract girls of all races..... im pakistani btw
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    I am an asian myself and also grew up in asia, but my family (mum and dad) are actually very supportive and doesn't impose that I should date/marry any specific type/race of girl. All they want is someone who can look after me (i.e. when I am ill) and who's loyal and committed to protect our relationship through thick and thin (cause there will always be challenges up ahead that could shake both of you off together), but most importantly they want someone that I am happy with, after all I will be the one who will marry the girl, so final decision should always boil down to me.
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    (Original post by Dan.N)
    Since I came here to study, my parents said that they don't care what girl I go for, as long as we feel happy and okay about each other(we are atheist btw). I do find girls of all races attractive, even white Brit girls, but I'm not any whitewashed or begging for white wife/gf...etc. Those guys are embarrassing us, by whining and begging such sensitive things. I just go for a girl who is compatible with me, that's it.

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    Maybe it's because you are an atheist. But understand that that is still rare.
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    So much generalisation and garbage in this thread.

    Truth is, if you're physically attractive and socially adjusted within the group of people/girls you socialise with, you'll do fine.

    I couldn't care less what preconceived notions a girl has about 'Asians' (which is far too general a group to begin with), especially if they're not true about me.
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    (Original post by loveleest)
    Maybe it's because you are an atheist. But understand that that is still rare.
    Hmmm, I will admit that my parents are a combination of both traditional-conservative and open-minded-innovative. My father went to different countries across the world for his career and study so he understands the lifestyles of Western ppl. However, since they don't live in foreign countries for long so they still have some negative preferences and prejudices against some specific ethnics and races, sadly. I myself also misunderstood lots of things before I came to UK.

    I really doubt if religion truly has anything to do with this? Or maybe it's because I'm from a country where most ppl have no religion, so I don't see the effects of religions on this issue.
 
 
 
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