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    (Original post by ScaryScience)
    I think essentially it comes down to digging your heels in, gritting your teeth, and telling yourself 'This is not how I want this story to end'. It sounds cheesy, but for me it worked. At the start of my second year, I had a module in cell biology. There was 120 people doing the course, and our marks were put up in a lecture. I had failed and performed the worst out of everyone. By the end of the year, I had ended up with a bit of rubbish grade. I remember sobbing for 13 hours straight, convinced my world had fallen in on me. But, after a time, I dusted myself off, got up again, and became determined that my story would not end up like this. I ended up with a solid 2:1 for my degree. I had so many set backs, day after day after day. And it was so hard, but with every tough day, I dug my heels in and was determined that I was not going to finish with a rubbish grade. I wish I could give specific advice, but honestly, take it a day or hour at a time. Take it one assignment and one exam at a time. Every time you feel yourself faltering and telling yourself you cant do it, remind yourself that you are going to carry on. Day after day. You will get there.
    Thank you so much for this Scary! :hugs: I love the phrase 'This is not how I want this story to end' because that's exactly what it is - a story. I read your post yesterday and it motivated me to read half a textbook chapter and do two of the online assignments. I will pass this class.

    Just had a 2.5hr lecture and the voices were so loud I couldn't concentrate but I think if I can do enough work when they're not so loud then I will pass.

    Thanks. And a 2:1 is awesome btw, go you! :five:
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    (Original post by Ezme39)
    Try not to think of others, and focus on what YOU want to achieve. My attitude is that every minute studying has the potential to be an extra mark
    I want to pass this class. Thanks for the advice, I think I'm getting back on track with the studying.
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    It's impossible to be happy rn I don't know whats wrong with me. I just feel really pessimistic and annoyed. Plus, I feel like I'm annoying others which just puts off wanting to talk to people altogether >
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    (Original post by titfortat)
    It's impossible to be happy rn I don't know whats wrong with me. I just feel really pessimistic and annoyed. Plus, I feel like I'm annoying others which just puts off wanting to talk to people altogether >
    I know exactly how you feel. Although the you may feel like you're annoying people, you're definitely not. Unless they're *******s, they will want to help you and support you x


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    (Original post by ahannah)
    I know exactly how you feel. Although the you may feel like you're annoying people, you're definitely not. Unless they're *******s, they will want to help you and support you x


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    Yeah, they say they don't care but something just tells me that they just want me to shut the hell up :dontknow: Thank you for responding Hope you're well :hugs:
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Thank you so much for this Scary! :hugs: I love the phrase 'This is not how I want this story to end' because that's exactly what it is - a story. I read your post yesterday and it motivated me to read half a textbook chapter and do two of the online assignments. I will pass this class.

    Just had a 2.5hr lecture and the voices were so loud I couldn't concentrate but I think if I can do enough work when they're not so loud then I will pass.

    Thanks. And a 2:1 is awesome btw, go you! :five:
    Oh good - after I posted, I was worried it came across a bit 'ooh look at me' etc. But I just want you to know, that whatever is happening now, doesn't mean things cannot be turned around. You will have something damn worth fighting for, and I believe you can do it. I'm not sure how sentimental etc you are, but it might be worth getting something to remind yourself each day why you are doing this/something to keep you going. For me, I bought a beautiful card which said 'Shine bright' on it, and it reminded me to dig my heels in and make the pain of it all worth it. I also had a card from my mentor who has been amazing to me, which reminded me that I wanted to make her proud, too. Sorry for such a ramble - that might not be your kind of thing at all, but just something which helped me. Well done on getting to your lecture, I'm so sorry that the voices were so loud though Can't imagine how tough it must be. Though I think you are right about doing what you can with what you've got. Although I tried to plough on during my final year, there were many days that I was in crisis that were a complete write off. Some whole weeks were too. But that is okay. Just keep picking yourself back up. I have all the faith in the world in you Saber. Big hugs :hugs:
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    (Original post by Indieboohoo1)
    Yeah hopefully she would have written it and I can collect it on Thursday when I meet her.
    Hopefully she will have done!
    I hope everything goes well for you!
    Will you let me know how it goes?
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    Starting to feel slightly less sure of myself these days.

    Exercise has come to a near complete halt. Work is becoming incredibly stressful, as many of you i'm sure are aware, young peoples mental health (and adults mental health for that matter too) in the UK is on the brink of remaining even quasi-functional. Looking after kids in AEN is challenging enough, and without the right support in place it has become even more difficult to setup these kids for a positive future.

    Then there's big questions for the future; jobs, owning a home, caring for a family as a lonely child, and a business idea that has stalled entirely....

    I'm going to wait till summer and then see how i feel. I never went to a doctor about my depression and thoughts in sixth form. I thought i'd beat it, however i feel that it may still be there, hidden away; possibly one of the reasons for my overhwelming lethargy when i get home.
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    (Original post by titfortat)
    Yeah, they say they don't care but something just tells me that they just want me to shut the hell up :dontknow: Thank you for responding Hope you're well :hugs:
    Yeah I know what you mean, it sucks. Try not to let it get to you no problem! I'm actually good today, I feel the happiest I've felt for weeks, I just can't help feeling tomorrow I'll feel awful again. Anxiety sucks if you ever want to talk send me a DM or something :hugs:


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    Ok a post with a quite a few questions but could really use some advice so bear with.... (some of it is probably common sense and me being stupid but can't think straight...)

    1: had my last a level exam today and started dissociating which caused a panic attack cos I couldn't remove myself quick enough to make it stop... I asked to go to the loo and told the teacher escorting me I was having a panic attack and sat and waited for it to pass. Oh god I'm waffling... the question is does anyone know if you can tell exam boards etc if you have a panic attack during an exam/anything you can do/will it make a difference...?
    2: I was never planning on applying for DSA for my MH only ever my physical but recently began to realise this is a crappy idea as I really benefit from the arrangements I have in place i.e. own room for exams. But, also, when things get bad having someone know about the situation prior to this may help... idk...? If so what specific evidence is needed...?
    3: I'm debating dropping out of my therapy- I've finished all my exams and that was the most stress I've ever been under and yet I went the entire without an appointment. I have one tomorrow though. My therapist inly sees me every other week and with going to uni in September, having only started seeing her at the end of April, I just feel like is pointless and we're hardly gonna achieve anything especially as all my stress/MH 'triggers' as such are a lot less evident/non-existent during the holidays...?

    I'm so sorry for rambling guess if anything personally being able to see it all down on paper helps... Open to any and all advice/experiences etc
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    (Original post by ahannah)
    Yeah I know what you mean, it sucks. Try not to let it get to you no problem! I'm actually good today, I feel the happiest I've felt for weeks, I just can't help feeling tomorrow I'll feel awful again. Anxiety sucks if you ever want to talk send me a DM or something :hugs:


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    Thank you! Same to you too glad to hear you're well!
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    (Original post by eleanor27)
    Ok a post with a quite a few questions but could really use some advice so bear with.... (some of it is probably common sense and me being stupid but can't think straight...)

    1: had my last a level exam today and started dissociating which caused a panic attack cos I couldn't remove myself quick enough to make it stop... I asked to go to the loo and told the teacher escorting me I was having a panic attack and sat and waited for it to pass. Oh god I'm waffling... the question is does anyone know if you can tell exam boards etc if you have a panic attack during an exam/anything you can do/will it make a difference...?
    2: I was never planning on applying for DSA for my MH only ever my physical but recently began to realise this is a crappy idea as I really benefit from the arrangements I have in place i.e. own room for exams. But, also, when things get bad having someone know about the situation prior to this may help... idk...? If so what specific evidence is needed...?
    3: I'm debating dropping out of my therapy- I've finished all my exams and that was the most stress I've ever been under and yet I went the entire without an appointment. I have one tomorrow though. My therapist inly sees me every other week and with going to uni in September, having only started seeing her at the end of April, I just feel like is pointless and we're hardly gonna achieve anything especially as all my stress/MH 'triggers' as such are a lot less evident/non-existent during the holidays...?

    I'm so sorry for rambling guess if anything personally being able to see it all down on paper helps... Open to any and all advice/experiences etc
    Hey I'll do my best to provide some advice for you!

    1. I'm not sure if they'll listen I'm afraid. But I'd defo tell them just so that they're aware of the situation!

    2. You should go for it! It wouldn't hurt to give it a go and see what they say!

    3. Well if you don't feel therapy is helping you then you might aswell end it! But I'd keep it going for a little bit yet. Just to make sure that you're fairly certain that you're ready to stop it!

    Apologies I couldn't be more help, my OCD is playing up so I'm struggling to type currently!
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    I am so sore, i dont often say that but my whole body aches and idk why, just so tired tbh
    Goodnight hope everyone is well

    ~Anon 1
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    I'm just feeling sad 😢 I think I'm going to cry tomorrow because I don't think I can keep it in any longer. I was asked today by an old friend if I was okay and to let him know if I'm not and if not then give him a call - I might take him up on that offer.

    Everything is annoying me and the only thing that's helping rn is my music and the fact that I have so much work to do that my mind is all engrossed in it.

    I haven't even heard back from the hospital about my latest tests so I don't know how to feel haha and I want to be calm but I cant if I haven't heard back from them.

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    I don't get people sometimes you know they make me wonder. Half the time they want something. and when you give it to them they either don't want it or don't appreciate it, or when you don't give it to them they accuse you of being horrible or a terrible person. Like why?

    Just **** off already.

    Tfw you've been waiting for a response from a PSV for god knows how many days and they still haven't got back to you haha.

    Hfiaoqpeirughsjsoamcoaja. Just blargh. That's all I want to say right now. Blargh.
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    Never good enough for anyone ever
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    Never good enough for anyone ever
    Well you cant say that as you haven't met everyone why do you think that?


    -titfortat
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well you cant say that as you haven't met everyone why do you think that?


    -titfortat
    Because every friend i've ever had has just gotten bored of me/dropped me/stabbed me in the back. This is happening with someone inrl atm who I thought acc cared about me but i'm getting the distinct impression of 'cba with you' so yeh :/ I'm so fed up of it all. No matter how hard you try with people they always want more and are never satisfied and fundamentally no-one cares. I have lost all self-confidence because I have so many failed friendships or people who have just randomly stopped talking to me and i'm the common factor in it all so it is clearly my fault. I don't blame them, I wouldn't want to be friends with me either but i'm so so lonely atm because I can't confide in anyone about anything not even my mum because I don't want to freak her out and she doesn't know a lot of all this stuff that is muddling up my head rant over im sorry

    hope you are ok, i feel selfish for writing all that :/ :hugs:

    ~Anon 1
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Because every friend i've ever had has just gotten bored of me/dropped me/stabbed me in the back. This is happening with someone inrl atm who I thought acc cared about me but i'm getting the distinct impression of 'cba with you' so yeh :/ I'm so fed up of it all. No matter how hard you try with people they always want more and are never satisfied and fundamentally no-one cares. I have lost all self-confidence because I have so many failed friendships or people who have just randomly stopped talking to me and i'm the common factor in it all so it is clearly my fault. I don't blame them, I wouldn't want to be friends with me either but i'm so so lonely atm because I can't confide in anyone about anything not even my mum because I don't want to freak her out and she doesn't know a lot of all this stuff that is muddling up my head rant over im sorry

    hope you are ok, i feel selfish for writing all that :/ :hugs:

    ~Anon 1
    Hey don't apologise! It seems like you got some stuff out of your chest, which is good. I'll be your anon tsr friend yes its not as good as confiding in someone irl but you have someone there who is willing to listen, especially if they can relate :yep: Seriously, drop me a pm whenever, please don't hesitate. I'm sure others in here will say the same thing

    I was literally about to post that - that no matter how hard you try and help it please others, they'll never seem to appreciate the fact that you're trying and disregard this fact or just in general as a whole.
 
 
 
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