(Original post by Lyrical Prodigy)
Yeah I imagined she was, I just asked to be sure because it's rather odd. The Chinese people treat her differently to you because you're white yet she's Chinese herself?
It is wierd.. never seen a country where there is such a difference between the way they treat each other, and the way they treat certain groups of tourists...
you know - I really dont like telling people that my wife is chinese, because it comes with 1 of two connotations:
1 - older lonely english man, who resents english women for rejecting him, and idiolises chinese/eastern women as some sort of old fashioned ideal.. and wants to go over and meet an asian bride, etc.
2 - younger english guy who is obsessed with asian culture, and actively likes women because they are east asian, and not because of who they are.. usually coupled with obsessive watching of anime, etc.
genuinly dont really like telling people, because I just presume they think the worst.
In reality though, her being chinese is never something I wanted - just something that happened.. your at uni, you go out for the night, meet a girl.. the last thing that is on your mind is where she is from. - until years later your married, and fighting visa battles, and having to deal with the real possibilties of living in china.
I wrote a whole post about this ages ago on TSR, in response to a guy who thought that having an international girlfriend was so so cool... tried to brign him back to reality - by explaining how yes, it can be wonderful, and having two cultures in a relationship brings so many special moments.. showing my wife, who had never known anything about it, an english christmas was amazing.. getting to experiance a proper family chinese new year.. having a wedding where half your guests travelled round the world, and watching as two groups of people who could barely speek to each other, danced together and laughed.. was brilliant..
But then you can have visa issues, cultrual differerences, which wont become apparent until your in a serrious relationship.. different values, the fact that one of you will likely be appart from your family for most of your life.. language problems at first. etc. and in reality, it is a very mixed bag, it adds a lot of good, but there is also nothing easy about having a relationship with someone who is not from the uk, or even the EU.
I have a friend who is the 2nd catagory.. activly chases chinese women - swear every single girl he has ever liked has been either chiense or japanese.. and I just want to slap him sometimes.. and say that forget about where they are from, and how they look.. are they actually a person you like.. or are you just chasing the idea that you like of having an asian wife
.. - it really pisses me off.