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    (Original post by Student10000)
    It's a similar feeling to when you graduate uni. Same issue here!


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    Yep. How do you meet ppl once you graduate? I feel like I haven't really found that "Friends" group of friends or started the dating game like in himym!
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    (Original post by James222)
    Give me an example of volleyball or bookclub I can join tomorrow.

    Im not turning down advice. I have never joined a sports club so I wouldnt know where to look.
    Ditto. I would gladly join a volleyball club full of hot women my age. Where are said clubs?
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    (Original post by It's a Classic)
    I'm only seventeen but I can only assume it's the same. You go out, you meet people - You click with a girl and you take things from there. Obviously I'm simplifying it a lot but that is generally how you find and make new relationships.
    I see what you mean, and that's what I did at that age and at uni. But now after graduation, all my friends are in different places, and it seems impossible to do the same at work or with strangers in London.

    People seem to be different! And most of my work colleagues are middle aged or older!
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    (Original post by James222)
    Give me an example of volleyball or bookclub I can join tomorrow.

    outside of London lets say Leeds.
    Are you unable to use google?

    First result for "leeds volleyball"

    http://www.leedsvolleyball.org.uk/

    First result for "leeds book clubs"

    http://leedsbookclub.com/
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    Are you unable to use google?

    First result for "leeds volleyball"

    http://www.leedsvolleyball.org.uk/

    First result for "leeds book clubs"

    http://leedsbookclub.com/

    How about in London? And also would there be girls our age? It's nice to meet people who are older, but then it's just friends or clubmates really.
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    (Original post by pshah2)
    How about in London? And also would there be girls our age? It's nice to meet people who are older, but then it's just friends or clubmates really.
    Yes there would be the same if not more in London and yes there probably would be girls of all ages.

    I'm not going to google it for you unless you're planning on paying me a consultancy retainer.
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    It's hard. Lots of people after graduating, just seem to continue with the drinking culture. Not sure it's easy to meet people generally like you see on movies or tv.

    Come on graduates, graduate in social skills instead of just downing drinks and being all cliquey!!
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    (Original post by neerajpatel)
    It's hard. Lots of people after graduating, just seem to continue with the drinking culture. Not sure it's easy to meet people generally like you see on movies or tv.

    Come on graduates, graduate in social skills instead of just downing drinks and being all cliquey!!
    It's not being cliquey, on the whole I think most people are willing to meet new people. You just have to be confident enough to make conversation.
    It can be difficult sometimes if they're in a group but you can always find ways.


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    (Original post by Student10000)
    It's not being cliquey, on the whole I think most people are willing to meet new people. You just have to be confident enough to make conversation.
    It can be difficult sometimes if they're in a group but you can always find ways.


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    I agree with confidence to go and say hi. But unfortunately it seems rare that you are suddenly invited to be part of that group/clique. Especially city folk who have grown up together in that city tend to just stick together.

    When they have other friends, it seems more like token friendship than part of the gang.

    It seems very hard to meet people and get a friendship group going when you're new in town.

    And honestly, does any girl in their 20s join the volleyball club? If so, I am there.
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    (Original post by neerajpatel)
    I agree with confidence to go and say hi. But unfortunately it seems rare that you are suddenly invited to be part of that group/clique. Especially city folk who have grown up together in that city tend to just stick together.

    When they have other friends, it seems more like token friendship than part of the gang.

    It seems very hard to meet people and get a friendship group going when you're new in town.

    And honestly, does any girl in their 20s join the volleyball club? If so, I am there.
    I don't think your sole focus, if you want to me women should be focussing on them directly. Meet new people and then you're bound to meet new people.

    If you're at work, you may all go out for drinks etc, mix with them. If you become good friends, then you may meet other people through them.

    When you mention "When they have other friends, it seems more like token friendship than part of the gang", if you are the friend who is "new" make them effort to get to know the others, ask them about themselves, what they're into, anything.
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    (Original post by Student10000)
    I don't think your sole focus, if you want to me women should be focussing on them directly. Meet new people and then you're bound to meet new people.

    If you're at work, you may all go out for drinks etc, mix with them. If you become good friends, then you may meet other people through them.

    When you mention "When they have other friends, it seems more like token friendship than part of the gang", if you are the friend who is "new" make them effort to get to know the others, ask them about themselves, what they're into, anything.
    Good post.

    This is the key: if you have an active and wide-ranging social life, then you will meet plenty of women as a matter of course. You won't need to worry about where to meet them, your life will just be one long stream of interactions with potential dates.

    However, if you don't have an active and wide-ranging social life, then this is what you want to focus on. Forget about meeting women until you have sorted this out. Joining a sports club is a great way of doing this.
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    (Original post by Student10000)
    I don't think your sole focus, if you want to me women should be focussing on them directly. Meet new people and then you're bound to meet new people.

    If you're at work, you may all go out for drinks etc, mix with them. If you become good friends, then you may meet other people through them.

    When you mention "When they have other friends, it seems more like token friendship than part of the gang", if you are the friend who is "new" make them effort to get to know the others, ask them about themselves, what they're into, anything.

    I agree with being friendly. Don't get me wrong, I really want to go and hang out after work and stuff. But sometimes, and in my case for sure, the people at work aren't really your age group. Also, even when you hang out, it doesn't necessarily result invites to a string of parties, etc. where you meet other people too.

    I feel like a complete newbie in the city

    How do you engage in conversation so that you are part of a group and get invited to all the activities of said group?
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    Good post.

    This is the key: if you have an active and wide-ranging social life, then you will meet plenty of women as a matter of course. You won't need to worry about where to meet them, your life will just be one long stream of interactions with potential dates.

    However, if you don't have an active and wide-ranging social life, then this is what you want to focus on. Forget about meeting women until you have sorted this out. Joining a sports club is a great way of doing this.
    But even as a graduate in a job, would you meet people at a sports club? The hang out locations are going to be further away aren't they unless there are central city sports clubs.. also I haven't seen many 20-30 yr olds in loads of clubs. Seems more a mid 30s, couples type thing when people already have friends
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    (Original post by neerajpatel)
    But even as a graduate in a job, would you meet people at a sports club? The hang out locations are going to be further away aren't they unless there are central city sports clubs.. also I haven't seen many 20-30 yr olds in loads of clubs. Seems more a mid 30s, couples type thing when people already have friends
    Not my experience at all. All the sports clubs I've ever joined are mainly made up of guys in their 20s.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    Not my experience at all. All the sports clubs I've ever joined are mainly made up of guys in their 20s.
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    Still it is pretty hard if you have graduated, and start a new job with new people who sometimes aren't that outgoing/your age/friendly.

    How are you actually going to meet anyone when most of the bargoers are with their bf or are in their 30s and engaged?
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    (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
    I drink and complain about that. Smoking can also be a way to talk to people and make friends. Mid way though lecture the smokers all go outside and have smoke/chat. Should I smoke as well just to get a friend?
    Ha good point!

    I am trying, it's just that most people at the bar after work are just rowdy lads, or much older than me.

    Don't seem to meet many people my age and get invited to parties. Socialising seemed different in the US where I grew up. I'm not sure about going solo and just walking into a bar around London... they seem to noisy and do strangers talk to each other over here?!

    Advice pls... I'm a little shy, but when I meet people I am really fun, just want to meet people. Friends first and then also meet girls.

    Wish life was like FRIENDS!!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Still it is pretty hard if you have graduated, and start a new job with new people who sometimes aren't that outgoing/your age/friendly.

    How are you actually going to meet anyone when most of the bargoers are with their bf or are in their 30s and engaged?

    What are you asking about, meeting friends or meeting girls?
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    (Original post by James222)
    Not really
    If youve just moved to a new city after uni your friends will probably be in a different city.

    Pubs are full of a much older crowd generally
    Sport or Social Clubs - do they still exist ?
    Uni - not if you graduated
    Work - this is the most likely one but depends on the culture of were you work and again unless your on a large graduate scheme office will be full of older people.

    8-6 your working or traveling be surprised how hard it is to meet new people. If I didnt have friends from 6th form in London I would be screwed.
    Totally agree with you bro.

    Finding I am so busy with work and with little time/feeling dead by the end of the day.
    The work culture where I work is not that sociable. Wish it were more Barney Stinson, but it's more serious with older people. The few young people on my floor are too rowdy and don't seem to be into meeting girls.

    Unfortunately I have joined the firm being the only one from my uni and so am struggling to meet ppl and build a new friendship group.

    How do I do it? And how to meet girls? (As in attractive, but nice ones, not *****y arrogant ones!)
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    (Original post by pshah2)
    Totally agree with you bro.

    Finding I am so busy with work and with little time/feeling dead by the end of the day.
    The work culture where I work is not that sociable. Wish it were more Barney Stinson, but it's more serious with older people. The few young people on my floor are too rowdy and don't seem to be into meeting girls.

    Unfortunately I have joined the firm being the only one from my uni and so am struggling to meet ppl and build a new friendship group.

    How do I do it? And how to meet girls? (As in attractive, but nice ones, not *****y arrogant ones!)
    Out of interest, which firm do up work at?

    It sounds basically like you want to meet hot women?


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