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    I am a girl and yes I get on with girls
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    I am a girl and no, I prefer boys or mixed groups
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    I am a boy and yes I get on with boys
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    I am a boy and no, I prefer girls or mixed groups
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Movies always show girls with lots of girlfriends, and guys with guy friends, and people always seem to assume you have friends of the same gender. How common is this actually? I've never had female friends, ever. Even as a little girl, I played with boys. My teachers used to remark on it. Even though I now have some female friends, my friendship group is mixed and very male heavy. I've never got on with girls, on the whole they just don't like me. I tend to find girl groups *****y and I can't be arsed with it
    oh of course, because it can't be your fault, every girl you've met is to blame for you not making female friends, it's not one of your own personality traits causing this... :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Skratch My Itch)
    Yeah of course many types can fall under a category, but if people didn't ever generalise, no-one would ever be able to get a point across, but I do agree that having friends with some degree of varying interests can have its benefits. Most of my friends all have different interests. Like no-one in my circle is remotely interested in Music Production, other than me.
    True but in this case the generalisation is too broad and effectively meaningless. OP stated she gets along with 'guy girls' but then this isn't true if a significant proportion of guy girls don't share her interests/personality like myself.
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    I think straight men get away with being *****y much more though - I know some really *****y straight men but no-one sees them as a ***** because people just don't call them that. Girls are also encouraged into competition with each other in a more serious way than men are which does affect our relationships with each other, but I think mainly it's down to perception. We pick up on certain traits and behaviour because we're looking for them.

    I find it odd that most girls hate you. What are you doing for most girls to hate you?
    I find guys just come put and say it a lot more rather than being *****y to be honest. I know one guy that's quite catty but that's it out !y straight friends.

    Girls ****ing hate me. Whenever I meet a new group of girls one of them will always take it upon them to systematically try and destroy my life. So that's always fun.

    Having mainly male friends is a big one - girlfriends hate me. I've had numerous incidents where a friends been cheating on their gf and the gf has had a vendetta against me, about the only ****ing person who hasn't slept with them.

    My flatmate hated me because I got on with our male flatmates better than her and didn't pander to her by doing her washing up/ letting her do whatever she wanted and order me around. My housemate in second year hated me for calling out her passive aggressive post it notes and the fact she was a total ***** to one of our other housemates.

    I was bulloed very very badly at school because some of the girls were just addicted to drama, they'd find it any way they could. When I didn't go along with their narrative of me being at their beck and call and making other peoples loves miserable they victimised me and ostracised me to the extent no one in the schools would speak to me, culminating in a serious physical attack.

    At primary school of was the same, girls didn't like me because I played with the boys and called them out when they were mean to others. At least then I could just punch them though so it was OK, they'd leave me alone, once you get to secondary school that's not OK...
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    No, you're boring because you don't have a life outside of your partner. They're the worst type of people to be friends with (much worse that *****y women!).

    If we say 10% of the population is classed as intelligent (it's probably more than that),don't you think it's a bit suspicious that someone would say they've never met an intelligent woman? I would think they were so blinded by prejudice that they didn't recognise one when they saw her.
    I do have a life outside my partner. I wouldn't say being interested in comics, animation, antiques, art, galleries and museums, politics, is boring but each to their own.

    I can see your point but I don't think someone is necessarily prejudiced just because they've only met one type of person. They could be. But they could also be truthful!

    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    Super man is such a lame hero.

    Most DC heroes are lame tbh.

    Marvel ftw.
    You have a guy that turns green when he's angry. :facepalm2:
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    (Original post by redferry)
    I find guys just come put and say it a lot more rather than being *****y to be honest. I know one guy that's quite catty but that's it out !y straight friends.

    Girls ****ing hate me. Whenever I meet a new group of girls one of them will always take it upon them to systematically try and destroy my life. So that's always fun.

    Having mainly male friends is a big one - girlfriends hate me. I've had numerous incidents where a friends been cheating on their gf and the gf has had a vendetta against me, about the only ****ing person who hasn't slept with them.

    My flatmate hated me because I got on with our male flatmates better than her and didn't pander to her by doing her washing up/ letting her do whatever she wanted and order me around. My housemate in second year hated me for calling out her passive aggressive post it notes and the fact she was a total ***** to one of our other housemates.

    I was bulloed very very badly at school because some of the girls were just addicted to drama, they'd find it any way they could. When I didn't go along with their narrative of me being at their beck and call and making other peoples loves miserable they victimised me and ostracised me to the extent no one in the schools would speak to me, culminating in a serious physical attack.

    At primary school of was the same, girls didn't like me because I played with the boys and called them out when they were mean to others. At least then I could just punch them though so it was OK, they'd leave me alone, once you get to secondary school that's not OK...
    This! This is pretty much what happens to me. Even when I was little! I also used to punch them

    I refuse to play their silly games and so they turn on me and try to destroy me because someone being happy with themselves threatens their fragile egos.
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    Movies always show girls with lots of girlfriends, and guys with guy friends, and people always seem to assume you have friends of the same gender. How common is this actually? I've never had female friends, ever. Even as a little girl, I played with boys. My teachers used to remark on it. Even though I now have some female friends, my friendship group is mixed and very male heavy. I've never got on with girls, on the whole they just don't like me. I tend to find girl groups *****y and I can't be arsed with it

    My boyfriend, on the other hand, has loaaaaaaaaads of female friends. I'd say it's about a 50/50 split.

    This got me thinking, is it THAT weird to actually prefer friends of the opposite gender?

    Do you get on with your own gender? Why/why not?


    I'm a guy and although I have *more* guy friends, I'm closest to my female friends.
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    I'd class myself as a tomboy, I easily get on with males I like online gaming, football etc but I socialise mostly with females because it's easier for me to maintain a close relationship without any of the strings that could possibly arise.
    I'm the same, grew up with two older brothers so I ended up doing everything they did and also sometimes hanging with their friends. But as I've got older I've found it impossible to maintain a proper friendship with a guy because they always end up making a pass at me and then cut me off when I don't reciprocate. Too damn complicated.
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    Super man is such a lame hero.

    Most DC heroes are lame tbh.

    Marvel ftw.
    Repped.

    Batman doesn't even have powers.
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    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    I support equal rights too, I usually define as feminist so that people are aware that feminism is (or SHOULD BE) about equal rights, and not extremists. Yeah that is stupid. I hold the door for anyone male or female, because it's polite.

    I wish we didn't even have to have "isms" - why can't people just not be dicks?
    She should really be championing how you're fighting the patriarchy by having stereotypically male interests instead of female.

    But most loud feminists are stupid no offense.

    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)

    You have a guy that turns green when he's angry. :facepalm2:
    Tbh x-men and the spiderman movies (tobey mcguire) are the main ones I really like. Other stuff like Captain America are just cringe to watch lmao.

    But superman is such a crappy super hero how he's pretty much invincible and has a billion super powers.
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    You don't like going out without your boyfriend and you;re calling other women boring? Hmmm...

    Really? Really? Someone who's never met any intelligent women out of the thousands of people we probably meet in our lifetimes is not being sexist? You know that's not true.
    Why are you making a big deal about how she's been bullied by other women. Bit *****y of you no?
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    I picked the second one, I don't "prefer" either gender and my friend group's pretty mixed. I get on with some guys better, but that's not because I have anything against hanging out with other girls, it's just the people I've met.
    One of my best friends is a guy and he's one of the *****iest people I know, so I can't say the guys I know are less *****y than the girls
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    I tend to have closer girl friends.
    Guy are easier to have jokes with, just to have a more relaxed conversation and a few laughs, but I've always had deeper relationships with girls. I find boys sometimes tend to feel less uncomfortable talking about deeper things and like to keep it more jokey, light hearted. I suppose that's why I have guy 'mates' who you can joke around with, but then close girl friends who you can share your secrets with.

    To be fair I don't have much opportunity to meet new guy friends these days, especially as a Psychology student, where around 90-95% of my classmates are girls
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    I don't really understand it when girls say other girls hate them, why would an entire gender as a whole not like you?

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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    There's a few examples, my brother was very close friends with a girl who had many male friends (not many female) my brother fell for this girl and she used him for her own self esteem so many times, when she knew how he felt about her. If she was a nice person she would have distanced herself from him and allow him to move on. I've met quite a few other girls like this in my life, who use the friendships of these guys to make themselves feel better. I'm not saying all girls are like this but I've met a fair few in my time.
    This is very common. But those girls are very easy to spot. Only naive and/or desperate men end up as victims to them though. They're usually the ones that have the white knight mentality as well.
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    (Original post by redferry)
    I find guys just come put and say it a lot more rather than being *****y to be honest. I know one guy that's quite catty but that's it out !y straight friends.

    Girls ****ing hate me. Whenever I meet a new group of girls one of them will always take it upon them to systematically try and destroy my life. So that's always fun.

    Having mainly male friends is a big one - girlfriends hate me. I've had numerous incidents where a friends been cheating on their gf and the gf has had a vendetta against me, about the only ****ing person who hasn't slept with them.

    My flatmate hated me because I got on with our male flatmates better than her and didn't pander to her by doing her washing up/ letting her do whatever she wanted and order me around. My housemate in second year hated me for calling out her passive aggressive post it notes and the fact she was a total ***** to one of our other housemates.

    I was bulloed very very badly at school because some of the girls were just addicted to drama, they'd find it any way they could. When I didn't go along with their narrative of me being at their beck and call and making other peoples loves miserable they victimised me and ostracised me to the extent no one in the schools would speak to me, culminating in a serious physical attack.

    At primary school of was the same, girls didn't like me because I played with the boys and called them out when they were mean to others. At least then I could just punch them though so it was OK, they'd leave me alone, once you get to secondary school that's not OK...
    I actually prefer *****iness to the people who "put it all out there". That can just hurt people's feelings and sometimes it's best to talk about them with someone else and then you feel better towards them once you've let it out. Some things need to be dealt with but *****iness serves an essential function.

    Well that's bizarre. People try actually bother to try and ruin people's lives in real life?

    The housemate thing sounds like typical housemate stuff to me. I lived in an all-male house for my 2nd and 3rd years and we had plenty of that drama. When you live in a small house together stuff is gonna happen.

    I was punched by a girl at school so I don't really approve of hitting other kids because they were being mean to you. It wasn't pleasant having people take her side despite the fact that I'd been hit.
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    (Original post by ArtGoblin)
    I actually prefer *****iness to the people who "put it all out there". That can just hurt people's feelings and sometimes it's best to talk about them with someone else and then you feel better towards them once you've let it out. Some things need to be dealt with but *****iness serves an essential function.

    Well that's bizarre. People try actually bother to try and ruin people's lives in real life?

    The housemate thing sounds like typical housemate stuff to me. I lived in an all-male house for my 2nd and 3rd years and we had plenty of that drama. When you live in a small house together stuff is gonna happen.

    I was punched by a girl at school so I don't really approve of hitting other kids because they were being mean to you. It wasn't pleasant having people take her side despite the fact that I'd been hit.
    You must be very sheltered or live in a fairy land.

    Also I don't see how saying nasty things about people behind their back, tarring their reputation without them having any clue whats going on is better than talking to them in a civilized manner and working out your differences.
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    Why are you making a big deal about how she's been bullied by other women. Bit *****y of you no?

    She's probably refering to women like you tbh.
    I'm making a big deal out of how she brands women (except for her guy girls) as dull.

    I don't care tbh because I can see why women dislike her. This is just going to confirm what she believes about other women, but she seems to have a complex about other women and believes herself to be better than them. It's shame because I used to enjoy her posts and find her interesting but she's become increasingly annoying recently.
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    Entitlement issues? Girls get friend zoned too, it's entirely natural if you spend a lot of time in someone's company you might start to develop romantic attachments to the other person. It's perfectly fine to have friends of the opposite gender but if the other person starts to fancy the other one it's entirely unfair to carry on the friendship as if nothing as happened,
    Yes exactly- it's nothing to do with entitlement issues. Attraction can so easily grow out of friendship, especially once you've had a chance to get to know someone. From experience, I tried to make a friendship work with my best girl mate after rejection but in the end I had to walk away. Even when I told her it was too painful me seeing her date other guys etc she ignored my side of things and made herself out to be the victim cos she was losing a friend. Having said that, I've had good friendships with plenty of other girls but always from a bit more of a distance.
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    You must be very sheltered or live in a fairy land.

    Also I don't see how saying nasty things about people behind their back, tarring their reputation without them having any clue whats going on is better than talking to them in a civilized manner and working out your differences.
    What exactly does trying to ruin someone's life involve? Cause I'm imagining a Cruel Intentions type scenario but maybe life ruining is less than that...

    Talking to them in a civilized manner is usually the best course of action but these "tell it how it is" people are usually way to blunt and are only doing it for their benefit. It can cause a lot more trouble.
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    Yes I get on with girls. We talk about girly things and just understand eachother better. I don't have much in common with guys.

    I do have some guy friends but we only like to party with them or just hang out but the convo usually becomes *****y on the male part!!
 
 
 
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