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    (Original post by GottaLovePhysics! :))
    Poor kitty cat no one should have to be alone at uni!
    See my post above. It appears there are quite a few people who feel a bit isolated at QM, I think we should sort this out.
    But isn't classes and lectures a problem? I don't want to feel all sad just because no-one is talking to me.


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    (Original post by JulietheCat)
    But isn't classes and lectures a problem? I don't want to feel all sad just because no-one is talking to me.


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    You know, the funny thing is that I have no qualms of speaking to the teacher or lecturer when I have a question but with classmates, I'm shyer than a funny ball.
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    (Original post by rock_climber86)
    mate i had the same problem. White people into their clubbing, drinking, shagging and all that ****. I'm indian and just never was into that stuff and found myself isolated too. Any society event i went to revolved around getting trashed.

    In the end I felt I left uni not really having made any good friends except this one guy who was similar to me and a fitness freak. I just hung around with him and *****ed about how **** uni was.

    I'm sure there must be someone like you around, but the problem is how on earth do you find them without there being a "i hate drinking, partying, uni" society? That I cannot answer, but I wish you the best of luck.

    My post was just to let you know that you're deffo not the only one out there in that situation! Uni was the worst time of my life and I NEVER EVER want to go back! Hell I turned down a MSc scholarship because i hated uni so much!
    Wow, it must have been that bad, huh? I don't know why but I always thought that you were white. Lol don't ask

    To OP: I absolutely hated, I mean HATED uni with a bloody passion the first 3 months. I used to come home and cry my eyes out almost every night. I hated how uptight the people used to be, even in certain religious societies were you're suppose to be humble and welcoming! Most people already found their 'clicks' a week after freshers and I was completely lost. I spent most of the first semester in the library.

    However, come second semester and I made some awesome friends in my course! I havn't actually seen them before the second semester, I don't know why to be honest. So all I am saying is don't lose hope! You will soon hopefully find some friends! I don't like telling others 'to put themselves out there and they will make friends' because that is absolute bs, but I really hope you do!
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    (Original post by ElChapo)
    Lol, awkward TSR meeting I take it
    Hahaha, exactly my thought!
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    (Original post by PrettyLittleLiars)
    Wow, it must have been that bad, huh? I don't know why but I always thought that you were white. Lol don't ask

    To OP: I absolutely hated, I mean HATED uni with a bloody passion the first 3 months. I used to come home and cry my eyes out almost every night. I hated how uptight the people used to be, even in certain religious societies were you're suppose to be humble and welcoming! Most people already found their 'clicks' a week after freshers and I was completely lost. I spent most of the first semester in the library.

    However, come second semester and I made some awesome friends in my course! I havn't actually seen them before the second semester, I don't know why to be honest. So all I am saying is don't lose hope! You will soon hopefully find some friends! I don't like telling others 'to put themselves out there and they will make friends' because that is absolute bs, but I really hope you do!
    I'm really hoping to make friends finally. Hopefully the societies will give me that necessary push to get to know people
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    I feel the OP unhappiness.

    I too finished the first year with zero friends.

    I had acquaintances (small talk), but no friends. To me, a friend is someone you can just have downtime with in your room and regularly go out with. I did not have that, and to be honest it was my fault.

    I went to University with people I already new. 4 people I knew from College so in Freshers Week, I didn't branch out AT ALL. Didn't speak to no one but to the 4 I already knew.

    Then one by one, they all slowly dropped out leaving me by myself. I have since switched courses because I really wasn't feeling my course (I pass and all that), so I'm effectively a first year again at the same University in Halls again.

    I'm determined not to have the feeling of loneliness again, hopefully it goes well this time.
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    Making true friendship does not happen over night in my opinion.
    Sure you can meet someone you are Leo they are Aries,you like cake so do they but true friendship takes a good while to develop.
    To the OP,I am not going to tell you it will work out and you will make friends because maybe it is not to be.
    You have already said you have tried with some people and they phased you out for shisha.
    As long as there is interaction when asked for,seminars and so on,sitting with a book or your music while having a bite to eat at lunch is not so bad.
    Maybe your personal path at uni is to focus mainly on your course work and less on friendships,the fact you can make friends and have done suggests you are doing all you can.
    The forming,norming and storming process can be quite intense.
    I do hope you connect with at least one pal as it is important to you hence your concern here,however to reiterate,even if you find over time it Is just not working maybe look into joining groups here that interest you,I am New so not sure but maybe some of these groups arrange one of latte meets:-)
    I nearly forgot,uni has only just begun so..... try not to stress to much.
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    Making true friendship does not happen over night in my opinion.
    Sure you can meet someone you are Leo they are Aries,you like cake so do they but true friendship takes a good while to develop.
    To the OP,I am not going to tell you it will work out and you will make friends because maybe it is not to be.
    You have already said you have tried with some people and they phased you out for shisha.
    As long as there is interaction when asked for,seminars and so on,sitting with a book or your music while having a bite to eat at lunch is not so bad.
    Maybe your personal path at uni is to focus mainly on your course work and less on friendships,the fact you can make friends and have done suggests you are doing all you can.
    The forming,norming and storming process can be quite intense.
    I do hope you connect with at least one pal as it is important to you hence your concern here,however to reiterate,even if you find over time it Is just not working maybe look into joining groups here that interest you,I am New so not sure but maybe some of these groups arrange one of latte meets:-)
    I nearly forgot,uni has only just begun so..... try not to stress to much.
    Thank you
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    Yeah, I decided that I'm not ever going to make friends here. Everyone keeps ignoring me and are still in their groups. I don't fit in at all. :cry2:
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    I'm in my third year and I can completely understand...........I suppose I "know" a lot of people, but in all honesty to me they are just all strangers.
    I haven't come across anyone who gets me and are friendly and wanna hang out.

    Luckily I still got my college friends who are still there for me, luckily most of us are in London so we do see each other.

    Today was my first day back after summer holidays and already depressed.
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    London uni's dont sound great for social life then?
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    London uni's dont sound great for social life then?
    Doesn't look like it. I think that for a greater social life, cities like Manchester or Leeds is better. Here, I just don't see it. Makes even a popular kid at school be a loner.
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    (Original post by ElChapo)
    London uni's dont sound great for social life then?
    Nope. Social life is basically **** at QMUL, no matter what the others say.


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    Doesn't look like it. I think that for a greater social life, cities like Manchester or Leeds is better. Here, I just don't see it. Makes even a popular kid at school be a loner.
    No offence but were you really so popular at school lol?
    (Original post by JulietheCat)
    Nope. Social life is basically **** at QMUL, no matter what the others say.


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    Hmm, what do you put that down to then?
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    (Original post by ElChapo)
    No offence but were you really so popular at school lol?

    Hmm, what do you put that down to then?
    Well, more people are lonely there than in any other uni


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    No offence but were you really so popular at school lol?

    Hmm, what do you put that down to then?
    Yeah, I was. Had a great social life and everything.
    The same with my work experience.

    I'm thinking that it was just never meant to be. I have success everywhere else but uni.
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    I like my course but don't like the social life. :cry2::cry:


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    (Original post by JulietheCat)
    Nope. Social life is basically **** at QMUL, no matter what the others say.


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    (Original post by ElChapo)
    No offence but were you really so popular at school lol?

    Hmm, what do you put that down to then?
    I have to agree with her..............I go to the same uni, yet in my 3rd year, I don't really get on people, there just isn't any connection.
    Its affected my mentality and my grades....really lonely.
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    I don't really fit into the uni life. I don't think there is an inbetween. Its either everybody wants to go out and get really really drunk or on the other end of the spectrum they don't want to go out at all and just sit in their rooms alone and clearly don't want to make an effort. Im in between im not a wild party animal but I want to be social I like going out for coffees or out for dinner that sort of thing not clubbing. Im quite lucky that im only 40 minutes from home so if it all gets a bit much I can go home and see my friends or there come up and see me. University was most certainly not what I expected. Im only staying because I need my degree to get the job I want otherwise I would have left.
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    I don't really fit into the uni life. I don't think there is an inbetween. Its either everybody wants to go out and get really really drunk or on the other end of the spectrum they don't want to go out at all and just sit in their rooms alone and clearly don't want to make an effort. Im in between im not a wild party animal but I want to be social I like going out for coffees or out for dinner that sort of thing not clubbing. Im quite lucky that im only 40 minutes from home so if it all gets a bit much I can go home and see my friends or there come up and see me. University was most certainly not what I expected. Im only staying because I need my degree to get the job I want otherwise I would have left.
    Me too. I'm in uni, mainly to study an interesting subject and get a good job afterwards. I had loads of school friends and with the atmosphere of school, it was impossible not to make friends. In my work experience, once again, impossible not to make friends either. I don't really know why uni is like this.
 
 
 
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