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    (Original post by Andy98)
    Thought he'd be the one who made the comment

    It's ok, you don't need dates to be happy

    The alcohol is what gives you the confidence...

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    It'd make sense if he did, but no it was someone else.

    True, very true.

    But I still don't drink. Never want to.
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    I forgot to mention something...

    FireFreezer77 There's a reason I started to follow you on TSR. I see you everywhere. You are a social, friendly person. If you keep up the attitude of being outgoing then you will be successful.
    PRSOM :yep:
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    (Original post by Mr Smurf)
    Been on two "dates" in my life. One of the girls is now my girlfriend.
    That's still two more than me!
    But yeah I heard, congrats!
    How's it going btw?
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    You don't wanna have sex? :erm:

    What do you base that belief on?

    If I can go pickup random hotties with cold approaches in libraries, as someone with ME/CFS + electro-sensitivity, then anything's possible! :yy:
    It's not a major concern of mine. I'd much rather have a strong relationship tbh. Sex isn't important to me!

    Well I've never been able to have a proper conve with a girl (well I've had one). They never give me a chance to do so. So it must mean I'm hopeless at this!

    If I tried that I'd get slapped! No joke!
    Well I can barely go out without getting all anxious and I end up freaking out at somepoint. Places where there are lots of people, or that lots of people have been in, are not good for me at all.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Well you're awesome and confident though, that works massively in your favour!
    Well you're very lucky! And have achieved much in life so far!
    I on the other hand, haven't. People usually steer clear of me and never want to talk to me. Not great.
    1: Advice on how to do that?
    2: Hmm never thought of that, shall do!
    3: Can you explain further please?
    I'll agree, I have achieved more than average and I wasn't always confident my confidence came when I started trading back when I considered a £10 profit to be a fortune and picked up a severe caffeine habit I can't advise that as it could be horrible

    putting yourself out there I'd advise you join a dating website something genuine, I use Zoosk
    I have to admit my habits were helpful in that I'd either ask for a lighter or provide a lighter to someone and have a conversation spark from there (sorry for the terrible pun though one can be a good conversation starter)

    moving in similar circles in easy I normally hang around places where I can find people who I can educate on jewellery so jewellers window fronts are good to me, you're a car guy so just seek out luxury/ sports car events is likely your best bet

    my accessories are my back story I have a big ruby ring, my diamond encrusted gold bracelet and my watches so I have something that I can talk about if I can't just jump into a conversation that's already happening (even if it's a subject I know very little about)
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    When I was in High School I spent every moment of my day being mocked for being unattractive. I'd always walk down the corridor with my head held low, but I could always hear the passing comments people made or the giggling from a group of girls. Same with college. I was told the same thing; that I would never get a girlfriend because I was ugly.

    Once I left education I entered into a relationship.

    Not making false promises that it'll happen to you, but I'm pretty damn sure it will happen for you. We chatted briefly yesterday and you were very friendly and could hold a conversation, two great characteristics to have. As another poster said, you don't have to be the best looking guy out there to get a girl to fancy you.
    Damn I'm sorry to hear that! That's never a nice thing to experience!
    But just remember that you've got the maturity to be able to deal with their immaturity! You know that what they're saying isn't true! They've got no confidence in themselves and are always feeling miserable, so they take it out on someone else to make themselves feel better! They're cowards!
    They don't want to fix their lives because they can't be bothered to put in the effort, so they just take the piss out of us, because it's easier for them. What they don't realize is that they're not gonna get anywhere in life. Whilst you'll go on to have a successful happy career, they'll be stuck working an awful dead end job! Then you can feel happy that you're the successful one and they're even more miserable!

    Nice one! How was it?

    Well I'd like to think so tbh!
    Indeed we did! Damn thanks! That's made me feel better! Thankyou!
    Except if you live where I do! It's impossible otherwise!
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    But seriously how the hell is it possible for people to go on so many dates!
    Ive tried to get to know girls but they just arent interested, none of them!
    One even lead me on but thats another story!
    So how do you guys get to go on so many dates and have 4000 girlfriends by the time your 20?
    I mean i only want to have 1 in my life, someone i can be with forever!
    Thanks!
    That's the thing though, they don't last from my experience, they guys I say 'yes' to are friendly and forward- 'I'd like to get to know you better, can I take you for a coffee?'
    Don't get me wrong, friends first etc is lovely, but if you're angling for a date then just put it out there
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    Everyday, that's a piss take. But I certainly have casually dated before, sometimes I ask them out, sometimes they ask me out, it's really no big deal.
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    (Original post by Emily.97)
    I dont think its an achievement to have been on tons and tons of dates. Have you ever seen first dates?
    You'll see a pattern of behaviour where people sift through so many dates because they expect to find some kind of "spark", "click" or "connection" within an hour of talking to someone, when in reality, things take so much more time. So when things dont go perfectly, people give up too soon. People expect too much too soon, and so it isnt necessary to go on loads of dates with loads of people- lets slow things down.
    Or maybe they just don't want a monogamous relationship at the moment. Not everyone dates for it to be successful, to find someone, expecting a thing, they just want fun. And the person on the other end is either mutual or not.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    You're more awesome though!
    I feel embarrassed now!
    Oh well that's good then I suppose!
    Don't make me blush you're equally if not more awesome! Have confidence in yourself (says the shyest girl on earth haha)
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    Dateless and Proud.
    It's better to go on one or two dates at a later date and be succesful and find someone perfect, the love of your life, than go on tens and hundreds and be left in tears.
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    Don't despare you'll find that perfect, beautiful, and succesful one! Just like yourself
    FireFreezer77
    & Always remember:
    'When a relationship is over, leave. Don't continue watering a dead flower'.
    xx
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    (Original post by jamesthehustler)
    I'll agree, I have achieved more than average and I wasn't always confident my confidence came when I started trading back when I considered a £10 profit to be a fortune and picked up a severe caffeine habit I can't advise that as it could be horrible

    putting yourself out there I'd advise you join a dating website something genuine, I use Zoosk
    I have to admit my habits were helpful in that I'd either ask for a lighter or provide a lighter to someone and have a conversation spark from there (sorry for the terrible pun though one can be a good conversation starter)

    moving in similar circles in easy I normally hang around places where I can find people who I can educate on jewellery so jewellers window fronts are good to me, you're a car guy so just seek out luxury/ sports car events is likely your best bet

    my accessories are my back story I have a big ruby ring, my diamond encrusted gold bracelet and my watches so I have something that I can talk about if I can't just jump into a conversation that's already happening (even if it's a subject I know very little about)
    Yeah you do seem successful!
    Ah i see, well I guess you've just to do something you enjoy and become good at it!
    Hmm the caffeine bit doesn't seem too good, I'll avoid that bit.

    Hmm I've not tried Zoosk yet tbh. POF is my current location, but it's not working for me.
    But yeah I'll take a look at Zoosk and see what happens!
    That's a good pun actually. But that could work I suppose, not keen on dating a smoker though.

    Ah right I see, yeah that's a good thing to do then! It already shows that you've got a common interest! A very good start indeed!
    Indeed I am! I had a feeling that would be the best bet! I've not been to one yet seeing as my current car isn't exactly anything to shout about (it's only my first one).
    But yeah shall be upgrading soon to something better and will go from there!

    Hmm I see, also a very good idea! I should probably get some accessories tbh. I have none like that.
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    (Original post by Platopus)
    Don't make me blush you're equally if not more awesome! Have confidence in yourself (says the shyest girl on earth haha)
    I seem to be good at that (making people blush).
    But that's not possible against someone as awesome as you!
    (I'm the shyest guy on earth) How on earth do I do that?
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    I seem to be good at that (making people blush).
    But that's not possible against someone as awesome as you!
    (I'm the shyest guy on earth) How on earth do I do that?
    Thank the powers that be for TSR. Without it, us shy *losers could never hold a conversation together hahaha

    EDIT: *AWESOME losers
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    (Original post by Platopus)
    Thank the powers that be for TSR. Without it, us shy *losers could never hold a conversation together hahaha

    EDIT: *AWESOME losers
    TSR is just the best!! Fact!

    Us shy *BRILLIANT humans can now have AWESOME conversations with each other and have lots of fun!

    *had to eliminate the losers part :yep:
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Yeah you do seem successful!
    Ah i see, well I guess you've just to do something you enjoy and become good at it!
    Hmm the caffeine bit doesn't seem too good, I'll avoid that bit.

    Hmm I've not tried Zoosk yet tbh. POF is my current location, but it's not working for me.
    But yeah I'll take a look at Zoosk and see what happens!
    That's a good pun actually. But that could work I suppose, not keen on dating a smoker though.

    Ah right I see, yeah that's a good thing to do then! It already shows that you've got a common interest! A very good start indeed!
    Indeed I am! I had a feeling that would be the best bet! I've not been to one yet seeing as my current car isn't exactly anything to shout about (it's only my first one).
    But yeah shall be upgrading soon to something better and will go from there!

    Hmm I see, also a very good idea! I should probably get some accessories tbh. I have none like that.
    as they say- if you do something you love then you never work a day in your life
    definitely, avoid the caffeine bit
    Zoosk works wonders I have a message a week at least as long as you have a picture and a profile description
    I would date a smoker as I'm a smoker and I assume you're not a smoker so steer clear of smokers
    those puns are great openers
    I just upgraded my car to a Mercedes e-class (i picked up from the dealership earlier on today)
    for accessories look at something affordable and that you like I'll find you something if you give me a budget and a style (i like to have custom stuff the watches are stock but my jewellery very rarely is)
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    (Original post by Ezme39)
    That's the thing though, they don't last from my experience, the guys I say 'yes' to are friendly and forward- 'I'd like to get to know you better, can I take you for a coffee?'
    Don't get me wrong, friends first etc is lovely, but if you're angling for a date then just put it out there
    True but it'd be nice to go on a date at least once in the not too distant future! I'd like to be given a chance in life. And I'll take it, if I do get one that is!

    That's exactly what I do!!!!!!! Every single time I've said "I'd like to get to know you better, would you like to meet up sometime" something along those lines!
    Once it lead to me being lead on. The other time it lead to a nice convo but then she ignored me from then on, and the other 3 times it didn't work at all!
    Yeah I agree, but I have no friends and no one wants to be my friend!
    Have done before!
    Thanks!
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    (Original post by SpiritSharD)
    I feel your pain, OP. Girls avoid me like I'm the plague and being on dating apps, Tinder etc is utterly pointless.

    I've pretty much just come to terms with the fact I'm unlovable and undesirable. I'll continue doing my own business with a smile on my face, and that'll be fine because I have a good life, but women won't ever be interested in me. It's a shame because I have a lot to offer.

    Now, I don't know you, but here's what I suggest if you haven't already, and that's improve yourself. Be happy. It's a tried-and-tested method for getting dates and it seems to work for the majority of people; just live your life the way you want to, and good people will come your way...including potential dates.
    ...You depress the **** outta me boi
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    True but it'd be nice to go on a date at least once in the not too distant future! I'd like to be given a chance in life. And I'll take it, if I do get one that is!

    That's exactly what I do!!!!!!! Every single time I've said "I'd like to get to know you better, would you like to meet up sometime" something along those lines!
    Ahhh, they're just not the one then! it will happen, believe me!
    I used to get heavily bullied at school, and thought no one would ever date me, but once I got out of there and gained some confidence, it got much easier don't give up on love aha
 
 
 
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