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    (Original post by The_Lonely_Goatherd)
    Don't hate yourself - you took appropriate action given your concerns and the situation, 100% sure of that xxx :jumphug:

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    :hugs: how are you


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    (Original post by bullettheory)
    :hugs: how are you


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    I'm ok thanks! Though back to TSR not working on laptop :cry: I celebrated too soon yday :getmecoat:

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    (Original post by bullettheory)
    Had a bit of a disappointing encounter at work today. One of my service users has been harming someone else and I became concerned. I spoke to his care coordinator and she told me not to worry about it. I wasn't happy so I spoke to my manager who agreed with me that it was concerning and would possibly be a safeguarding concern. I emailed the care coordinator again and she didn't respond. My manager asked me what was going on so I spoke to the deputy manager of the cmht to seek advice. After this the care coordinator sent me a blunt email saying we will talk today. So I had a chat with her. She was quite confrontational around how I went to the manager and it wasn't needed. She said she was going to report me but didn't in the end.

    I'm so confused and annoyed. I was just following up a concern - there was risk of real harm to someone. I feel like ****. Feel like I did the wrong thing and I've pissed off the staff. I don't know what to do. Just feel like not going into work tomorrow. Theoretically I think I did the right thing, but maybe I was harsh to speak to the manager. I don't know. Just hating myself.


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    You deffo did the right thing!
    You were concerned so spoke to your manager, thats what anyone including myself would do!
    I personallh dont see why the CC ISNT concerned?!?

    Try not let it get to you, you did no wrong

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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Hmm I guess that's true
    Wait what!!! Yeah that's ****ing ridiculous! Ugh that's just awful! Man you deserve to see someone actually capable of curing you!

    Maybe hats the only options! Is there a train service you can use at all? I don't know if they trains over there a lot tbh but I thought I'd ask. Yeah that's quite long but surely it's worth it though?
    Ah well that's not ideal but maybe it would help you overcome your dislike of driving?

    Did they ask for permission to put them in? If not that's a breach of privacy and they need to be removed asap! Why does she get angry at you? Surely if you're in discomfort she should comfort you? Why were they installed?
    Aw no I'm sorry to hear that! Well just take things one step at a time and you'll defo get there! I promise!

    No worries! Always here if you need someone!
    Hmm well defo look into it and just see how you feel about it.

    I'm improving! My new therapist is helping a lot and I'm starting to feel less and less anxious about things, even if I was diagnosed with 'High Anxiety' today. But yeah I'm defo improving and I can feel the difference already!
    Thanks for asking!
    Nope, no trains nearby. Rail services are really bad in the US if you live outside of certain cities - hell, there aren't even buses where I live. :eek2: My wife works and my uni classes start in August so it would be difficult to put aside 3 hours to get see someone.

    No, they didn't ask permission. The government put them there to see how their plan of making me do what they want turns out. I'm finding it very difficult to cope with. My wife shouts and gets angry because apparently it's "all in my head" and there are no cameras but I know she's wrong. That's why they put me in the hospital so they could bug my apartment without worrying about me catching them in the act.


    I'm really glad to hear that you're feeling better already Sounds like your therapist is great, though, of course, it takes effort on your part too so well done, mate!
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    Idk why im sad my maths teacher is leaving, it's not like i even do maths or like maths in any way but ik that without her i would have failed, she really brought me on and to me that A belongs to her tbh.
    I'm also sad she had to leave like that bc i do strangely care about her in a professional kind of way
    She is like one of the last teachers there that have known me since year 7, It just reminds me that everyone moves on regardless of how hard you work and that one day it will be so that no-one there will remember you for your efforts which is quite sad i think.
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    (Original post by tanyapotter)
    would I'm i be willing to help with SH urges over pm? i realise we're not allowed to talk about it in this forum anymore because it's too triggering, but i really need some help right now (my family doesn't know and i don't want to upset my friends so i can't talk to any of them about it) i'm sorry
    I'm more than willing to chat and support you via pm.
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    (Original post by tanyapotter)
    would anyone be willing to help with SH urges over pm? i realise we're not allowed to talk about it in this forum anymore because it's too triggering, but i really need some help right now (my family doesn't know and i don't want to upset my friends so i can't talk to any of them about it) i'm sorry
    I hope the urges have passed now. If you ever need anyone to talk to, my inbox is always open :hugs:

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    No idea whats going on anymore. Feel like i have depression (ive not been diagnosed with it officially yet)
    Im not in control of my mind anymore, its just taken over me and i do whatever it says. I need to fight it but its just not happening at the moment!
    Argh my life is just all over the place and im fed up of it!
    I just wanna be happy but OCD has decided to make that an impossibility in recent times! Even though im getting better it still dislikes me and is trying harder to make me miserable
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    I just hate doing everything.
    I make mistakes each day at work since I started a few weeks back
    I've had depression but I'm slowly getting out of it. My anxiety has lessened considerably although it's still there.
    I'm 20 years old
    I just needed to say these things
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    Fed up of the constant pain. Physio are seeing if doing certain things are going to help but I seriously doubt it. I'm just wanting to be pain free for once! I was having a bad MH day at work on Monday and I messed everything up. One of my managers are keeping a close eye on me at the moment and I just feel it's because im just so **** at my job. I try so had to please everybody and it just gets thrown back in my face.

    Anxiety is really high tonight and I really can't deal with it.
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    Got an interview tomorrow and if i get it ill be working 6 days/evenings a week
    Felt burnt out today so hoping it doesnt make me worse!

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    Went somewhere really crowded today and, while me and my spouse were waiting in the park for a friend, I started to feel really anxious about the number of people nearby - especially the ones who I'm sure are government agents. Basically I told her that my anxiety was building and the voices were getting louder and she looked mad and said "control yourself". What ****ing useless advice that was; who knew the answer to my lifetime of anxiety was simply to get a hold on myself! :facepalm:

    I love her so much but sometimes she just doesn't understand.
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    Has anyone else had bad experiences when talking to doctors about your mental health?

    I recently went to the doctors as I was struggling mentally, depression and anxiety was getting the better of me despite private therapy.

    I was explaining and she was scribbling away, then I said something that triggered her... She looked at me in disgust, then she wouldn't drop the subject; putting words into my mouth
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Went somewhere really crowded today and, while me and my spouse were waiting in the park for a friend, I started to feel really anxious about the number of people nearby - especially the ones who I'm sure are government agents. Basically I told her that my anxiety was building and the voices were getting louder and she looked mad and said "control yourself". What ****ing useless advice that was; who knew the answer to my lifetime of anxiety was simply to get a hold on myself! :facepalm:

    I love her so much but sometimes she just doesn't understand.
    I concur, my partner is rubbish. They simple dont understand merely sympathise.

    For you to externally express you're having anxiety is amazing, I struggle to vocalise it. I internalise it all, I retract into myself and endure the pain and voices.

    When I do vocalise it, my partner replies "what, why?" or "Okay, distract yourself"

    How do you know they're government agents?
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    No idea whats going on anymore. Feel like i have depression (ive not been diagnosed with it officially yet)
    Im not in control of my mind anymore, its just taken over me and i do whatever it says. I need to fight it but its just not happening at the moment!
    Argh my life is just all over the place and im fed up of it!
    I just wanna be happy but OCD has decided to make that an impossibility in recent times! Even though im getting better it still dislikes me and is trying harder to make me miserable
    Look up 'Mark Freeman' on YouTube, when my anxiety hits me I tend to watch his videos
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    (Original post by Sabertooth)
    Went somewhere really crowded today and, while me and my spouse were waiting in the park for a friend, I started to feel really anxious about the number of people nearby - especially the ones who I'm sure are government agents. Basically I told her that my anxiety was building and the voices were getting louder and she looked mad and said "control yourself". What ****ing useless advice that was; who knew the answer to my lifetime of anxiety was simply to get a hold on myself! :facepalm:

    I love her so much but sometimes she just doesn't understand.
    My partner can be the exact same at times, especially with things like paranoia or an obsession or compulsion. He thinks because they aren't logical and clearly far fetched that I should see through that and be able to calm myself down in an instant which is close to impossible when you have a MH problem.

    He's great with things like panic attacks but he can be hit or miss with the more deeper MH problems. He tries though but I suppose its hard to understand exactly what the other person is going through if they have never been through it themselves.

    So I know how you feel and how frustrating it can feel when someone close to doesn't seem to realise how you feel or tries to play it down :hugs:

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    (Original post by WolfGangPro)
    Has anyone else had bad experiences when talking to doctors about your mental health?

    I recently went to the doctors as I was struggling mentally, depression and anxiety was getting the better of me despite private therapy.

    I was explaining and she was scribbling away, then I said something that triggered her... She looked at me in disgust, then she wouldn't drop the subject; putting words into my mouth
    O.O what did you say that got her so triggered :/??

    My doctor is a nutter too so I totally understand!
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    I can relate to those posts about anxiety in public places.
    In crowds I always feel like every white person hates me...
    It obviously got worse after Brexit. I was with my family out and I got huge ounce of anxiety so had to walk back to the car and I told my mum the thoughts in my head about white people and how I resented the life I have here in the UK and how I knew I'd have a better life in my 'mother country' if they hadn't brought me here.I'm such a terrible person:sad: . That night she went to bed early and had a massive headache because of what I had said according to my sibling.That was a huge wake up call to how bad my thoughts were..I can't believe I put myself under that all the time.
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    Feeling so angry and let down with IAPT. Travelled back home (a train and bus ride) today to see my therapist and after 5 minutes she said it looked like I was feeling better so that would be my last appointment and I was sent on my way. I had 5 sessions (with a break of 3 weeks because she was off sick) and she just didn't "get" me. I understand she probably sees loads of people a week but I felt like I was always having to repeat myself and remind her of stuff which was frustrating for me. She was visibly uncomfortable with any mention of SH and suicidal ideation and always whispered when they were brought up. Part of me is glad I don't have to see her again but at the same time I don't feel like I got any benefit from it and what if she's like this with others who deserve good treatment too?
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    Really finding it difficult to block out intrusive thoughts related to OCD, they just seem to come back with greater intensity.. Does anybody have any coping strategies?
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