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James T
Ive not had a girlfriend now for over 2 years and i was wondering what i should do. Ibe felt ive lost all my confidence and what should i do to impress them. Anyone i see remotely nice i feel shes outta my league. I need advice ladies please!!! what should i do?
That's the problem - by seeming to lack confidence and fancying girls who you don't think are attainable, you don't fulfill you're potential.
You know the old cliche about how the moment you stop looking, someone falls right in your lap? Although not always true, the reason it works for some people is that when you're looking for a relationship, you can come across as desperate and lacking in confidence. When you're not, you can be more relaxed and open.
My only advice is to try not to think about it - be cheerful and confident with who you are and find a way to be happy as you are. Try and meet lots of people, but don't make finding a girlfriend no.1 priority. Instead, flirt with people, talk with people, spread yourself around as a friend, and be confident - take risks, go and talk to people you don't know. It will pay off.
Aaah, so many people feel just like you do - don't worry! I'm just about the worst person to ask about relationships, but this is my two pennies worth:
1. Don't feel that she is out of your league!
2. Try to be relatively outgoing
3. Make jokes! (only if they're funny though hehe)
4. Smile - people subconsciously find you more attractive if you look happy
5. Don't try too hard - you'll just put girls off
6. Act or be interested in her and her life - don't just talk about yourself, but equally don't make your conversations seem like question and answer sessions!
7. Try and seem confident but not arrogant
8. Take pride in your appearance - even just having a great haircut can make you feel ten times more confident and will be a talking point when people notice the difference
9. Don't ever criticise her friends
10. Make sure she knows that you're single!
11. Girls don't always like guys that seem 'nice', try and be a bit cocky - most girls find this attractive, at first at least - very grounding!
You probably know all this already, and in some ways the best advice I could give is to just be yourself - that's the best anyone can do!
Hope things work out for you x x x
1. Don't feel that she is out of your league!
2. Try to be relatively outgoing
3. Make jokes! (only if they're funny though hehe)
4. Smile - people subconsciously find you more attractive if you look happy
5. Don't try too hard - you'll just put girls off
6. Act or be interested in her and her life - don't just talk about yourself, but equally don't make your conversations seem like question and answer sessions!
7. Try and seem confident but not arrogant
8. Take pride in your appearance - even just having a great haircut can make you feel ten times more confident and will be a talking point when people notice the difference
9. Don't ever criticise her friends
10. Make sure she knows that you're single!
11. Girls don't always like guys that seem 'nice', try and be a bit cocky - most girls find this attractive, at first at least - very grounding!
You probably know all this already, and in some ways the best advice I could give is to just be yourself - that's the best anyone can do!
Hope things work out for you x x x
Hiya,
I felt this too. I didn't have a gf until I was fifteen. My first gf was one of mates, who i grew to fancy, so maybe look to see if you have any female friends like this.
Also my most recent girlfriend was a friend of a girl I used to like and out of the blue she sent me text message asking how I was and that she had seen me at a football match that day. At the time I thought why is she texting me?! I thought that she was miles out of my league!! But we arranged to meet and then went out. I think the key is to actually meet girls, you can't get a gf unless you meet some! So you've gotta think of the best way to meet some nice girls. Also follow the advice above, you won't have a long relationship if you try to be something that you are not. So just be yourself, and if they don't like you then there are plenty more fish in the sea that will see your true colours!
I felt this too. I didn't have a gf until I was fifteen. My first gf was one of mates, who i grew to fancy, so maybe look to see if you have any female friends like this.
Also my most recent girlfriend was a friend of a girl I used to like and out of the blue she sent me text message asking how I was and that she had seen me at a football match that day. At the time I thought why is she texting me?! I thought that she was miles out of my league!! But we arranged to meet and then went out. I think the key is to actually meet girls, you can't get a gf unless you meet some! So you've gotta think of the best way to meet some nice girls. Also follow the advice above, you won't have a long relationship if you try to be something that you are not. So just be yourself, and if they don't like you then there are plenty more fish in the sea that will see your true colours!
Lauren18
Aaah, so many people feel just like you do - don't worry! I'm just about the worst person to ask about relationships, but this is my two pennies worth:
1. Don't feel that she is out of your league!
2. Try to be relatively outgoing
3. Make jokes! (only if they're funny though hehe)
4. Smile - people subconsciously find you more attractive if you look happy
5. Don't try too hard - you'll just put girls off
6. Act or be interested in her and her life - don't just talk about yourself, but equally don't make your conversations seem like question and answer sessions!
7. Try and seem confident but not arrogant
8. Take pride in your appearance - even just having a great haircut can make you feel ten times more confident and will be a talking point when people notice the difference
9. Don't ever criticise her friends
10. Make sure she knows that you're single!
11. Girls don't always like guys that seem 'nice', try and be a bit cocky - most girls find this attractive, at first at least - very grounding!
You probably know all this already, and in some ways the best advice I could give is to just be yourself - that's the best anyone can do!
Hope things work out for you x x x
1. Don't feel that she is out of your league!
2. Try to be relatively outgoing
3. Make jokes! (only if they're funny though hehe)
4. Smile - people subconsciously find you more attractive if you look happy
5. Don't try too hard - you'll just put girls off
6. Act or be interested in her and her life - don't just talk about yourself, but equally don't make your conversations seem like question and answer sessions!
7. Try and seem confident but not arrogant
8. Take pride in your appearance - even just having a great haircut can make you feel ten times more confident and will be a talking point when people notice the difference
9. Don't ever criticise her friends
10. Make sure she knows that you're single!
11. Girls don't always like guys that seem 'nice', try and be a bit cocky - most girls find this attractive, at first at least - very grounding!
You probably know all this already, and in some ways the best advice I could give is to just be yourself - that's the best anyone can do!
Hope things work out for you x x x
That's very good advice - it pretty much sums up everything. All I have to add is make sure you're not too critical of anything she really likes...that can be very off putting.
just remember: you don't need to be in a relationship to validate your life. you are an amazing person (ok, so i don't know you but i'm sure you are) and there are lots of things out there that you can do that are more fun than worrying about silly girls.
Once you perfect this frame of mind, they usually come flocking
Once you perfect this frame of mind, they usually come flocking
naelse
just remember: you don't need to be in a relationship to validate your life. you are an amazing person (ok, so i don't know you but i'm sure you are) and there are lots of things out there that you can do that are more fun than worrying about silly girls.
Once you perfect this frame of mind, they usually come flocking
Once you perfect this frame of mind, they usually come flocking
Couldn't have put it better
Eye contact.
Lauren18
Aaah, so many people feel just like you do - don't worry! I'm just about the worst person to ask about relationships, but this is my two pennies worth:
1. Don't feel that she is out of your league!
2. Try to be relatively outgoing
3. Make jokes! (only if they're funny though hehe)
4. Smile - people subconsciously find you more attractive if you look happy
5. Don't try too hard - you'll just put girls off
6. Act or be interested in her and her life - don't just talk about yourself, but equally don't make your conversations seem like question and answer sessions!
7. Try and seem confident but not arrogant
8. Take pride in your appearance - even just having a great haircut can make you feel ten times more confident and will be a talking point when people notice the difference
9. Don't ever criticise her friends
10. Make sure she knows that you're single!
11. Girls don't always like guys that seem 'nice', try and be a bit cocky - most girls find this attractive, at first at least - very grounding!
You probably know all this already, and in some ways the best advice I could give is to just be yourself - that's the best anyone can do!
Hope things work out for you x x x
1. Don't feel that she is out of your league!
2. Try to be relatively outgoing
3. Make jokes! (only if they're funny though hehe)
4. Smile - people subconsciously find you more attractive if you look happy
5. Don't try too hard - you'll just put girls off
6. Act or be interested in her and her life - don't just talk about yourself, but equally don't make your conversations seem like question and answer sessions!
7. Try and seem confident but not arrogant
8. Take pride in your appearance - even just having a great haircut can make you feel ten times more confident and will be a talking point when people notice the difference
9. Don't ever criticise her friends
10. Make sure she knows that you're single!
11. Girls don't always like guys that seem 'nice', try and be a bit cocky - most girls find this attractive, at first at least - very grounding!
You probably know all this already, and in some ways the best advice I could give is to just be yourself - that's the best anyone can do!
Hope things work out for you x x x
thats a great list! lol i literally repped someone just now so cant rep u ill try and remember tomorrow...
can u make one for what girls have to do?
mangomaz
thats a great list! lol i literally repped someone just now so cant rep u ill try and remember tomorrow...
can u make one for what girls have to do?
can u make one for what girls have to do?
Thanks, I feel a bit happier than I did five seconds ago after reading that! I'm not so sure I'd be any good at making one for girls, seeing as I am a girl myself; but here's my (probably appalling) effort!
Ok, here goes, for any girls wondering what may help them find a Maaaan, I'd recommend:
1. Make sure any guys you like know that you're single - I think that most people are scared of rejection (or, like me, absolutely terrified!) - so don't give him a reason to not ask you out by being ambiguous about your love life
2. Try and perfect the skill of appearing relatively confident but positively non-arrogant - if you're trying to make yourself seem girlfriend material then you want to make him imagine you as his lover, not his mother!
3. Most people become uncontrollably addicted to a good sense of humour - try and use yours to its full potential! No one dislikes funny people - but don't appear desperate to make people laugh - moderation, moderation, moderation!
4. Try to smile as often as you can - just think about when you walk through a crowd of people - you often notice people who are smiling, I find - so get yourself noticed!
5. Don't try too hard. In general, people think that guys should be the ones doing the asking out; although some guys love a girl to make the first move! If you're not sure of his views on this issue, try everything in moderation! Brushing him on the arm on purpose (but portraying it as a mistake) can be a great opportunity to make eye contact and could be the start of something booootiful!
6. Take pride in your appearance. Guys will be thinking about what their friends will think of you. He might not want someone who never brushes her hair or looks like she's made no effort on a night out. Girls who obviously look after themselves give out a message that they would look after their boyfriends too - so make sure you fulfill your potential
7. Don't even try to recite the offside rule - it's not impressive when you get it wrong!
8. Try not to be labelled 'one of the lads' - don't drink pint after pint of Stella down at the pub! You want that special person to think of you as a significant other, not a beer lover!
9. Try and get on well with his close friends - this can only do you good and might get you some inside info on whether your feelings are reciprocated
10. Try and have some self-confidence - girls who moan about their appearance or slag off other girls are not attractive as potential girlfriends. And anyway, if he likes you, he won't understand why you lack confidence - and you don't want to make him think twice about whether he likes you! It's annoying to keep hearing someone complain about their hair or mascara or new shoes - instead focus your attention on complimenting him - nothing too full on, just little hints - he'll be secretly flattered
And again, just try and be yourself!
I hope that was sort of useful - I'm really no expert AT ALL on this - so it would be great if other people could add their tips! x x x
Butterfly
Out don't think someone is out of your league: we're all humans, we're all equal.
please folks read this post above:
its so so true! there was this HOOOOT guy who looked like a male model in a club, he was my friends bf's best frind. so i started chatting him up after giggling with everyone how gorge he was, just to prove i was well 'ard. but actually he was soo nice!
if you ask out someone they are unlikely to laugh at you nastily and say 'im well betta than you mate' so MAKE THE MOOVE!!!
James T
Ive not had a girlfriend now for over 2 years and i was wondering what i should do. Ibe felt ive lost all my confidence and what should i do to impress them. Anyone i see remotely nice i feel shes outta my league. I need advice ladies please!!! what should i do?
Im in the same boat!
Ive actually gone as far as reading websites on dating tips! but my main problem seems to be a general lack of people to 'pull'.
All the girls I meet/associate with either bore me quickly, or have major personality defects!
Maybe I just aim to high and am too picky though, but I seriously need a g/f...not for the obvious reasons
but just for the random texting, phoning, msn-ing etc...I need some of that time consuming relationship stuff.Anyone got any ideas for meeting people, except for the obvious, go to the pub (and get ID'd! grrr) or the zany, join a yoga class.
Im just stumped for ideas on meeting a person thats even slightly worth trying to be nice to, its been so long!
And if any females are out there and feeling bored!, and arnt't related to Mary from BB6 you know how to get in touch
Rooftopcowboy
Im in the same boat!
Ive actually gone as far as reading websites on dating tips! but my main problem seems to be a general lack of people to 'pull'.
All the girls I meet/associate with either bore me quickly, or have major personality defects!
Maybe I just aim to high and am too picky though, but I seriously need a g/f...not for the obvious reasons but just for the random texting, phoning, msn-ing etc...I need some of that time consuming relationship stuff.
Anyone got any ideas for meeting people, except for the obvious, go to the pub (and get ID'd! grrr) or the zany, join a yoga class.
Im just stumped for ideas on meeting a person thats even slightly worth trying to be nice to, its been so long!
And if any females are out there and feeling bored!, and arnt't related to Mary from BB6 you know how to get in touch
Ive actually gone as far as reading websites on dating tips! but my main problem seems to be a general lack of people to 'pull'.
All the girls I meet/associate with either bore me quickly, or have major personality defects!
Maybe I just aim to high and am too picky though, but I seriously need a g/f...not for the obvious reasons
but just for the random texting, phoning, msn-ing etc...I need some of that time consuming relationship stuff.Anyone got any ideas for meeting people, except for the obvious, go to the pub (and get ID'd! grrr) or the zany, join a yoga class.
Im just stumped for ideas on meeting a person thats even slightly worth trying to be nice to, its been so long!
And if any females are out there and feeling bored!, and arnt't related to Mary from BB6 you know how to get in touch
Yeh same!! i can't remember the last time i pulled. I mean i've not been out for a bit now coz of exams. But its like ive forgot to pull lol. I dont know whats happened to my confidence. Im going on holiday to mallorca in 4 weeks so hopefully that will come to an end. I find it really hard just to go to random group of girls and say "hi im balh blah" i just know their gonna say go away or just think im a desperate geek or a weirdo or sumfin. How should i get to know people without them thinkin im looking for 1 thing
Lauren18
6. Take pride in your appearance. Guys will be thinking about what their friends will think of you. He might not want someone who never brushes her hair or looks like she's made no effort on a night out. Girls who obviously look after themselves give out a message that they would look after their boyfriends too - so make sure you fulfill your potential
I think the flipside to this point is that a lot of guys (or the ones I'm friends with, at least) don't want a girl to look like she's trying too hard. I think it's a case of finding balance - effortless chic, if you will.
James T
Ive not had a girlfriend now for over 2 years and i was wondering what i should do. Ibe felt ive lost all my confidence and what should i do to impress them. Anyone i see remotely nice i feel shes outta my league. I need advice ladies please!!! what should i do?
i wanna say this to all guys:
PLEASE HAVE C0NFIDENCE!!!
its so hard talking to guys who are shy!(although it is sometimes cute).
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