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Would you marry a person who couldn't give you children?

well? Set aside all the messing around with adoption, as its not an option for many couples becuase of cost etc..

Would you marry a partner who couldnt give you children?

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Reply 1

eurasianfeline

yes.

because in a marriage, i would regard love as the most important thing.

and by "couldn't give you children", do you mean he's infertile?

and what do you mean by people can't afford adoption? surely if a couple can afford the expense of supporting a child for at least 18 years, they can pay for the little charge for adoption? besides, many places don't require that charge.

if i really want a child of my own, i'd rather adopt one from places like vietnam / cambodia.

Reply 2

frost105

My boyfriend is in that position and he has agreed to stick with me in the long term. I accepted my infertility a long time ago but its difficult because whenever I've started to get a bit serious with a boy then I've had to fess up really. All I know is that I'm lucky to have my boyfriend and I know at one stage we'll adopt and we're happy with that.

Reply 3

frost105

Everdawn

well? Set aside all the messing around with adoption, as its not an option for many couples becuase of cost etc..

Would you marry a partner who couldnt give you children?

Cost of adoption isnt as high as you'd think in this country and you dont even have to own your own house, just as long as your stable fiancially and have a long lease.

Reply 4

JaF

I really want kids so I don't think I would marry someone who couldn't/wouldn't give me children.

Reply 5

Sam_B

yeh, if she was the right girl for me.

it wouldnt bother me much.

Reply 6

xxSpicyChickenxx

yer course i would. if its love then it would be ok. but there would be a little disappointment in the back of my mind that i would never be able to have children. but they would be just as up-set i suppose...

Reply 7

john !!

No, but then that's because marridge is stupid... I wouldn't break up with someone if they couldn't have children,.

Reply 8

SciFi25

Sam_B

yeh, if she was the right girl for me.

it wouldnt bother me much.

Precisely!!! Now there is something i have to do! *runs off to find and ask chembabe*

Reply 9

SciFi25

lessthanthree

yes. Best excuse ever not to have them.

Awwww, but your kids would be sooooooo cute!! :p:

Reply 10

Acaila

Easy question, definitely would. I would never marry someone just to have kids with them, so it wouldn't stop me marrying them if I couldn't.

Reply 11

Sorani

If I was in love with him, I'm not that bothered about having children at the moment. Suppose that could change but just can't see it at the moment.

Reply 12

Butterfly

Hmmm...that is so hard! I think yes though, because if I wanted to marry them, I'd be totally in love with them, so the pain of letting that go would be worse? I'd use a sperm donor :smile:

Reply 13

No Future

Yes. I'd marry them because I loved them.

(Besides, you don't HAVE TO have children...)

Reply 14

Debussy

you'd just adopt. besides, labour is overrated...

Yes I would :smile:

Children arent really that important to me, but I supposed if the guy said "look, I cant have kids, ever." I'd have to think about wether in the future I might want them, and what it would do to our relationship if I did.
At the moment my feelings on the topic seem to be that I'll probably be swayed by what my partner wants, as I dont care either way about kids, so if I meet a guy who really really wants them, I'll probably have them, and if I meet a guy who really dosent want them or cant, it wont be any big loss to me.
I think if you love someone it would be really hard to walk away from them when they told you that, even if you really did want kids one day.
There are plenty of other ways though, like adoption and all the wonders of modern medicine and science. Im sure it would be a pretty big issue that would require talking, but at the end of the day, it wouldnt make me split up with someone I loved.

Reply 17

puk2184

If I was with the guy already and he found out he couldn't have kids, then I'd stand by him. But if he already knew when I first met him, I'd have to have a really good think about the future.....