Parents wanting money

manx1991

12

Well, basically, last year I stopped on a phone contract because I couldn't keep up with the payments and my mum agreed she'd pay it as long as I stopped using the phone. I did, went onto a pay-as-you-go on another network. However, a few months later, my mum gave me a bill for £300 and threatening court- she hadn't been paying, and now she was demanding me to pay. So now I have to pay her £25 a month.

My dog also needed to go to the vets because he couldn't shut his mouth. My mum said I had to take him (which meant I'd also have to pay) and she'd pay me back. The general check up cost £45 which my mum paid me back that night, and then he had to go for an xray which cost over £150- which I couldn't afford, and paid £60 of it and owed £90. My mum said she'd pay it, so for over 3 months I handed her the bills that were sent to me, and finally when they started threatening court, I had to pay, which she is now refusing to pay back.

I also have to buy all my new school stuff (revision guides, clothes) and a new phone, and £35 a month for my MMA club. She's also threatening that I'll have to start paying rent when I'm 18.

Is this usual for others? I earn £172 a month and sometimes I simply can't afford anything else past all these bills.

Sorry- rant :P

Reply 1

Lordzola

Wow.... and my mum tried to give me fifty quid for good a level results last night..

Reply 2

username196545

19

Jesus - what!? :lolwut:

My mum's awesome, she's giving me the money (£80!) to pay off my library fines, and my dad's giving me spending money on holiday. Your mum sounds... scary.

Reply 3

manx1991

OP

12

Lordzola

Wow.... and my mum tried to give me fifty quid for good a level results last night..

Wow, I told my mum my AS grades and she was just like 'what was the U in? What was the E in? Are you back into year 13?' But my dad (who I haven't heard from in 16 years) is sending my £200!

Reply 4

inksplodge

17

I don't pay anything to my parents but I give them money when they're struggling.

Reply 5

manx1991

OP

12

Bubbles*de*Milo

Jesus - what!? :lolwut:

My mum's awesome, she's giving me the money (£80!) to pay off my library fines, and my dad's giving me spending money on holiday. Your mum sounds... scary.

Haha, be glad you haven't met her :wink:

Reply 6

cpj1987

15

I'd consider it normal to have to pay for your own things, yes. It's a bit irresponsible to commit to things you can't afford.
It is ridiculous that she didn't tell you she wasn't paying, though.

Reply 7

Lucyyy

12

Seems a little.. harsh. The idea of rent isn''t so bad - most people I know who have jobs pay rent of some amount or another to their parents now that they're 18. Is the dog your own or a family pet? If it belongs to the family then it seems unfair that you should be the one paying out for vet bills when you're only earning £172.. Seems a bit bad about the phone though, by which I mean you should have considered whether you could afford the contract before you signed up! However, it also seems unfair when she agreed to pay it and is now refusing. Strange mother, you have.

Reply 8

manx1991

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12

Lucyyy

Seems a little.. harsh. The idea of rent isn''t so bad - most people I know who have jobs pay rent of some amount or another to their parents now that they're 18. Is the dog your own or a family pet? If it belongs to the family then it seems unfair that you should be the one paying out for vet bills

Family, but when I took it to the vets I had to switch it from my mum's ex's name to my name (she asked for my name so I should probably have given my mum's- she clearly thought I was older than I am, she asked if I was married!) on the account, so the bills are sent to me... but my mum did agree to pay it back otherwise I wouldn't have considered it.

Reply 9

manx1991

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12

cpj1987

I'd consider it normal to have to pay for your own things, yes. It's a bit irresponsible to commit to things you can't afford.
It is ridiculous that she didn't tell you she wasn't paying, though.

Well that's the point, I can handle paying for the school stuff, holidays etc (I don't even ask her for money anymore) but she agreed to pay the phone bill and the vet's bill.

Reply 10

wizz_kid

16

Bubbles*de*Milo

Jesus - what!? :lolwut:

My mum's awesome, she's giving me the money (£80!) to pay off my library fines, and my dad's giving me spending money on holiday. Your mum sounds... scary.

£80 for library fine?! Did u borrow the whole library out?

Reply 11

username196545

19

wizz_kid

£80 for library fine?! Did u borrow the whole library out?

Senate House UoL FASCIST LIBRARIANS.

Reply 12

Rozzo89

12

Ive paid £160 for library fine..thts were the bastards make their money, no library fines = closure.

Reply 13

cpj1987

15

manx1991

Well that's the point, I can handle paying for the school stuff, holidays etc (I don't even ask her for money anymore) but she agreed to pay the phone bill and the vet's bill.

Yes, but you took out the phone contract. And it's your dog, isn't it?

Reply 14

Elementric

10

Call social services or something? She's still your guardian and should be supporting you... sounds like a bitch tbh.

Reply 15

manx1991

OP

12

cpj1987

Yes, but you took out the phone contract. And it's your dog, isn't it?

No, my mum took out the contract for me because she broke my old phone. And the dog's the whole family's, the only reason I took it to the vets was because I didn't need to go to work/school that day.

Reply 16

psychocustard

18

I find it a little odd that she agreed to pay your phone if you stopped using it, and then didn't actually pay it :s

I also think it's pretty unfair she asked you to pay for the family pet. Ok, she paid you back the first part, but it's bloody irresponsible to get you to get into debt for it.

She's hardly setting a good example, tbh.

Reply 17

manx1991

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12

Rozzo89

Ive paid £160 for library fine..thts were the bastards make their money, no library fines = closure.

:O I'm never going to your libery lol

Reply 18

cpj1987

15

manx1991

No, my mum took out the contract for me because she broke my old phone. And the dog's the whole family's, the only reason I took it to the vets was because I didn't need to go to work/school that day.

I see. Fair enough.If the contract was in your Mum's name, though (and it would have to be, otherwise you agreed to it), then it'll affect her, not you, anyway.

Reply 19

Callipygian

2

my mums similar, she wont pay for anything for me, my dad gives me money for uni though, i live with my dad so i guess its a bit different.

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