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Question for the girls

hey people

there is a girl I'm going to take out (not a date as such, but she is aware of my intentions) - however, she appears a little apprehensive - not sure why, but that's just how it is.

My question - I was planning on meeting her for an hour or so (maybe lunchtome and not a date) and walking her around an art gallery in a museum as it would be a good way to have a chat and get to know her in a 'safe' enviroment that would be non-date like.

Also a good way of sizing up if she has more than her looks going for her!

Girls - what would you think if this was you in her position?

Mr J

Reply 1

friendlyneutron

11

If I was in her position I would feel quite lucky as I don't know many guys that would take a girl to an art gallery! As for why she's apprehensive, I'm not sure. It could be that she's unsure as to how much/what way she likes you, maybe she's just shy. In any case it sounds like a good idea :smile:

good luck and just see how you feel after the non-date!

Reply 2

naelse

15

sounds good to me. though maybe i'd think from this that you were only after friendship. anyhow, if she's a bit apprehensive anyway this sounds perfect as it's not too full on and doesn't push her...

Reply 3

Mata

16

I think that you sound like a really nice guy (an art gallery?! you're gold!) and that she would really appreciate a gesture like that. Maybe if it goes well, you could take her out to lunch, to move things forward

You say that she knows your intentions... does she really? Maybe she thinks your intentions are just to get in her knickers (pardon me) and that's making her apprehensive. Total honesty might help... "Hey, I really like you etc etc etc" just so she's sure.

Reply 4

Steph!

13

wow.... art gallery..... why don't I know anyone like you?

my last ex thought mcdonalds constituted a date.... when I hate mcdonalds and fast food. sigh

anyways... sounds like a good plan! go for it and let us know how it goes!

Reply 5

Trigger

18

good plan

Reply 6

sugarplumc

1

hey that's a lovely idea. I'd love a boy to bring me to an art gallery!

Reply 7

friendlyneutron

11

sugarplumc

hey that's a lovely idea. I'd love a boy to bring me to an art gallery!

I know! Can we all come?

Reply 8

Rainy

16

Mr J

hey people

there is a girl I'm going to take out (not a date as such, but she is aware of my intentions) - however, she appears a little apprehensive - not sure why, but that's just how it is.

My question - I was planning on meeting her for an hour or so (maybe lunchtome and not a date) and walking her around an art gallery in a museum as it would be a good way to have a chat and get to know her in a 'safe' enviroment that would be non-date like.

Also a good way of sizing up if she has more than her looks going for her!

Girls - what would you think if this was you in her position?

Mr J

Tsch... cheers for making the rest of us look inept! Broadcasting to the world that this is directed at girls will always ensure you get plenty of males looking. God knows why. Maybe we think it'll be something juicy... when will we ever learn? :rolleyes:

But yeh, it's essentially a good plan. Just hold her interest, that's all.

Reply 9

KdySk8rGirl

Sound excellent! Better than a Happy Meal on a park bench followed by a booze up ending in a guy vomiting all over you then trying so kiss you. (Dont ask) :biggrin:

Reply 10

naelse

15

KdySk8rGirl

Sound excellent! Better than a Happy Meal on a park bench followed by a booze up ending in a guy vomiting all over you then trying so kiss you. (Dont ask) :biggrin:

i'm ashamed to say that's happened to me more than once :redface:

EDIT: I mean the happy meal on the park bench bit...

but now that i think about it, peter did get really drunk once after sharing a whole bottle of rum and threw up all over my bedroom floor. but once he'd finished he did ask permission to get back into bed after he'd washed his face. awww my little schnookie is so cute!

Reply 11

jd27

KdySk8rGirl

Sound excellent! Better than a Happy Meal on a park bench followed by a booze up ending in a guy vomiting all over you then trying so kiss you. (Dont ask) :biggrin:

I don't think we have to, you've given the salient details...

Reply 12

Mr J

OP

cool - sounds like a plan then - I'll ask her on Monday.

As for the apprehensive part, it's a long story. Suffice to say I've asked her for a drink a few times and not got a response to the question. Responses by email all the time, but not when I'm trying to get an answer! I've even asked her to confirm that she's got a guy / not interested etc. - and I then get a reply completely ignoring the question!

Anyhow, I sent her a rose with a jokey message written in Russian the other day, to try and get some definiitive movement from her, and as usual, not a whole lot ...same as usual - regular emails, but nothing to move things forward.

I'm at a loss as we've only met once and I see no way she can confuse my intentions and no reason for her to reply to my mails if she's not interested!

Women can be extremely confusing!

Mr J

Reply 13

queenselphie

Id be really happy if a guy picked a place like that to meet and go round - it shows depth. More interesting than a random bar, and gives you talking points! Its a good test of wether the girl is compatible with you - if she's bored out of her mind, you and her might be after different things.

Reply 14

Gwen

1

Very, very good idea! :smile:

I would be very impressed if a guy did that - as opposed to the standard dinner and a movie :frown:

Reply 15

L i b

19

A message in Russian! Damn you romantic bastards and your impressive foreign language abilities...

Unless you've got three heads or similar, you've got as good a chance as any of stealing your little friend's heart away. Good luck.

Reply 16

Onearmedbandit

17

Maybe she doesn't like art galleries....

Reply 17

dazednconfused

Mr J

Suffice to say I've asked her for a drink a few times and not got a response to the question. Responses by email all the time, but not when I'm trying to get an answer! I've even asked her to confirm that she's got a guy / not interested etc. - and I then get a reply completely ignoring the question!

So can men! I have exactly the same problem with a guy I know - always friendly, chatty, replies, blah blah, but ask any pertinent question and he just ignores it... :confused:

I feel your pain here!

Reply 18

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Mr J

hey people

there is a girl I'm going to take out (not a date as such, but she is aware of my intentions) - however, she appears a little apprehensive - not sure why, but that's just how it is.

My question - I was planning on meeting her for an hour or so (maybe lunchtime and not a date) and walking her around an art gallery in a museum as it would be a good way to have a chat and get to know her in a 'safe' enviroment that would be non-date like.

Also a good way of sizing up if she has more than her looks going for her!

Girls - what would you think if this was you in her position?

Mr J

i would be flattered actually....a fella with some taste finally lol!!!!! im sure she would feel comfortable as it is quite public, if that is her taste....also you can see when she decribes the paintings her personality.....

i'd go for it.....and we'll if you dont think you 2 would get on then ya know its not meant 2 be :p:

xoxo

Reply 19

Mr J

OP

it's a bummer to be honest.

She is interested in some way as she mails me, but won't go any further than the flirting stage. I've tried everything ...cheeky & funny, ignoring her, challenging her and the most I've managed to get out of her is a '(we might see you in such and such a bar', without showing).

Extremely frustrating as we've met just once and if not interested, then I'm guessing she wouldn't email me! I've even tried not emailing her and then about a week in, she broke tradition and mailed me!

Aghhh!

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