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eating disorder

ok i guess this is the first place ive found that i can write about this.

recently ve been having problems with bullemia, its not so bad now but it got quite bad at one point. ive only ever told one person and she reckons i should get medical elp - im not so sure.

i was wondering if there was anyone out there who could offer some advic maybe you've been through this. i guess its easier saying this on here than to someone face to face.

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Reply 1
Get help.

I've suffered from both Anorexia and Bulimia in the past - getting help (OK more getting found out!) is the best thing that has ever happened to me, although I didn't appreciate it at the time.
Reply 2
If it interferes with your physical/emotional wellbeing you could see your GP and they'd refer you to someone else for help. How much does it affect your day to day life? How long have you had it? (if you don't mind answering)...

If you'd like to talk, you can PM me.
Reply 3
help from where? and i'd feel too weird telling anyone, i didnt intend to tell my friend i didnt want anyone to know
Reply 4
i know how you feel, but talking to someone you trust will help. :smile:

you're not alone in this.
Reply 5
No Future
If it interferes with your physical/emotional wellbeing you could see your GP and they'd refer you to someone else for help. How much does it affect your day to day life? How long have you had it? (if you don't mind answering)...

If you'd like to talk, you can PM me.


I would get help no matter how it's affecting you - bulimia is more deadly than anorexia because of the effect on the potassium levels in your body - if your potassium levels go heywire (and they will), you run the risk of having a heart attack.

Get help - please [hugs].
Reply 6
madisonn
help from where? and i'd feel too weird telling anyone, i didnt intend to tell my friend i didnt want anyone to know
For like, proper medical treatment your GP would be best. If your school/college has a nurse/counsellor you could see them. Talk to an adult you trust? Phone a youth helpline? Visit the EDA website?

Fluffy
I would get help no matter how it's affecting you - bulimia is more deadly than anorexia because of the effect on the potassium levels in your body - if your potassium levels go heywire (and they will), you run the risk of having a heart attack.Get help - please [hugs].
Yes, true. I wasn't saying it was not always serious... I just meant it was more urgent if it was severely affecting her life...
madisonn
ok i guess this is the first place ive found that i can write about this.

recently ve been having problems with bullemia, its not so bad now but it got quite bad at one point. ive only ever told one person and she reckons i should get medical elp - im not so sure.

i was wondering if there was anyone out there who could offer some advic maybe you've been through this. i guess its easier saying this on here than to someone face to face.


I have suffered from anorexia and bulimia for quite a long time and so i've been through the mill quite a bit in terms of treatment - my biggest regret is not getting help at an earlier stage. Don't leave it so long so that it deteriorates and you end up having to go for inpatient treatment like I did, I did not enjoy it one bit and tbh was embarrassed that it got to that stage. You are lucky in the sense that yours can hopefully be nipped in the bud before it causes you long-term damage (which it almost certainly will if it's left to do it's own thing). My advice is to try and talk to your parents - it will feel like a betrayal to your ED, you will wish you'd never done it but PLEASE so - your parents love you and their support is so valuable. See your GP as soon as you can and they should refer you to a psychiatrist/psychologist - don't let them just give you antidepressants (although they can be helpful, I don't believe they solve the problem on their own at all). I would do this as soon as you can because it can take ages on the NHS to see someone. If there's a Priory near you that deals with EDs then ask about that, I know it's pricey but from my experience they really know what they're doing.

Best of luck, you're not alone and feel free to PM anytime, I'm always here.
:hugs:

we're all here for you. many people here have ED's, so don't be afraid to ask if you have any questions. it's going to take a long time to overcome it, but you've now taken the first and most important step. you'll make it if you're determined. :smile:
http://www.purplechocolate.co.uk/ also has a great forum for eating disorders. it's down at the moment, but there are many people in similar situations and i'm sure they can help you as well.
Reply 11
thanks x
Reply 12
Fluffy
Get help.

I've suffered from both Anorexia and Bulimia in the past - getting help (OK more getting found out!) is the best thing that has ever happened to me, although I didn't appreciate it at the time.

:eek: :dito: :frown:
madisonn
ok i guess this is the first place ive found that i can write about this.

recently ve been having problems with bullemia, its not so bad now but it got quite bad at one point. ive only ever told one person and she reckons i should get medical elp - im not so sure.

i was wondering if there was anyone out there who could offer some advic maybe you've been through this. i guess its easier saying this on here than to someone face to face.

Wow, congratulations.
One of the biggest challenges in bullemia is that the sufferer feels such deep shame of their condition, and goes all out to try and hide it.

You've taken the biggest step already.
Reply 14
you have to kind of realise that it's not a good thing to do and have the will to stop - which you've got. now you have to force yourself not to do it, it's like a bad habit you gotta get rid of.

eat smaller meals. dont binge. dont eat things that are easy to throw up. it wont happen overnight but you can decrease the amount you do it. tell yourself you can only be sick once a day, then once every two days, then three days etc. eventually you won't need/want to be at all. you could try stopping completely straight away but if you ever do end up being sick you'll feel v disappointed when you shouldn't. but just see whatever feels best for you. you can stop without help from doctors, you just need lots of willpower.
Lozza
you have to kind of realise that it's not a good thing to do and have the will to stop - which you've got. now you have to force yourself not to do it, it's like a bad habit you gotta get rid of.

eat smaller meals. dont binge. dont eat things that are easy to throw up. it wont happen overnight but you can decrease the amount you do it. tell yourself you can only be sick once a day, then once every two days, then three days etc. eventually you won't need/want to be at all. you could try stopping completely straight away but if you ever do end up being sick you'll feel v disappointed when you shouldn't. but just see whatever feels best for you. you can stop without help from doctors, you just need lots of willpower.

Seeing the doctor isn't just about getting help to stop, its also about checking how much damage has already been done.
Reply 16
foolfarian
Seeing the doctor isn't just about getting help to stop, its also about checking how much damage has already been done.


didn't think of that...
madisonn
ok i guess this is the first place ive found that i can write about this.

recently ve been having problems with bullemia, its not so bad now but it got quite bad at one point. ive only ever told one person and she reckons i should get medical elp - im not so sure.

i was wondering if there was anyone out there who could offer some advic maybe you've been through this. i guess its easier saying this on here than to someone face to face.


Most people have said go the the doctor, but thats not always the right or the easiest person to go to. Do you have someone that you are close to and can talk to them about getting advice? A lot of people find it easier though to go to someone that they don't know at all like a counsillor, who is trained to deal with stuff like that.

I know from past experience (With 2 of my friends who have been anorexic, i personally have never suffered with an eating disorder) that is often easier to talk about it with someone that doesn't know you, so this is what i recommend you do.
bohogirlie
Most people have said go the the doctor, but thats not always the right or the easiest person to go to. Do you have someone that you are close to and can talk to them about getting advice? A lot of people find it easier though to go to someone that they don't know at all like a counsillor, who is trained to deal with stuff like that.

I know from past experience (With 2 of my friends who have been anorexic, i personally have never suffered with an eating disorder) that is often easier to talk about it with someone that doesn't know you, so this is what i recommend you do.


That's what you go to the doctors for, to get referred to a counsellor. You can easily request to see a different doctor if you know one too well and aren't comfortable with telling them. Talking to a friend or trusted adult is good, but ultimately they will encourage you to see a doctor so you may as well get it over with first. They won't do anything immediately anyway...eating disorder treatment is chronically under-funded in the UK, with waiting lists of over 6 months pretty much normal for none-urgent cases. (ie. none emaciated BMI, none potentially fatal potassium levels etc)
Lozza
you have to kind of realise that it's not a good thing to do and have the will to stop - which you've got. now you have to force yourself not to do it, it's like a bad habit you gotta get rid of.

eat smaller meals. dont binge. dont eat things that are easy to throw up. it wont happen overnight but you can decrease the amount you do it. tell yourself you can only be sick once a day, then once every two days, then three days etc. eventually you won't need/want to be at all. you could try stopping completely straight away but if you ever do end up being sick you'll feel v disappointed when you shouldn't. but just see whatever feels best for you. you can stop without help from doctors, you just need lots of willpower.


I'm sorry but this is the attitude towards eating disorders that really pisses me off, that as soon as you're "eating properly" you're healthy - I've never known a belief that can be so detrimental to recovery. EDs are symptoms of poor self esteem, low self worth and distorted thinking patters - they are NOT ABOUT FOOD OR WEIGHT. To truly recover you have to work out what's going on in your head apart from the calories and weights and get that sorted out. I agree that regulating your eating patterns is incredibly important but if you don't sort out what's really bothering you then it will just manifest itself in other ways - self injury, drinking, drugs, promiscuity, depression to name a few. And I don't get the link between smaller meals and not bingeing - say you finish your meal and you're still hungry. You have another snack to try and fill up. You feel guilty, you feel like a failure - you binge. Someone with an eating disorder just does not know how to eat. You can't go it alone and shouldn't be expected to.