need advice on how to get my man!

ok, so basically, i have liked this guy ever since i started high school so i guess i was about 12. im 18 now and its just gone too far. he knows i like him coz there has been the occasional night where i have sent him a drunken email or txt after too many cocktails but you know how it is... we do talk occasionally coz he has been in a lot of my classes over the years and we get on well. The thing is, he's just not interested and im so frustrated coz, without sounding big headed i hope, evryone says i am too good for him. he isnt even that nice looking but i cant stop fantasising about him! He is good friends with one of my friends and she keeps telling me he keeps moaning about being single so why doesn't just ask me out.
So, getting to the point, our leaver's dance is next week and this may be the last time i ever get to see him. I have bought a fabulous dress and am doing evrything i can to make myself look gorgeous - i even joined weight watchers to loose a few pounds! lol So i need some tips to seduce him. How do i act to make him want me. I think that I need something to happen between us before i go to uni so i can get him out of my system otherwise im just gonna keep thinkin 'what if' .
Please don't tell me im desperate, my friends already do that. I know i am. I admit it. I juat want my man. So practical advice evryone. Please help me!

Reply 1

Ribomania

11

lauzt

ok, so basically, i have liked this guy ever since i started high school so i guess i was about 12. im 18 now and its just gone too far. he knows i like him coz there has been the occasional night where i have sent him a drunken email or txt after too many cocktails but you know how it is... we do talk occasionally coz he has been in a lot of my classes over the years and we get on well. The thing is, he's just not interested and im so frustrated coz, without sounding big headed i hope, evryone says i am too good for him. he isnt even that nice looking but i cant stop fantasising about him! He is good friends with one of my friends and she keeps telling me he keeps moaning about being single so why doesn't just ask me out.
So, getting to the point, our leaver's dance is next week and this may be the last time i ever get to see him. I have bought a fabulous dress and am doing evrything i can to make myself look gorgeous - i even joined weight watchers to loose a few pounds! lol So i need some tips to seduce him. How do i act to make him want me. I think that I need something to happen between us before i go to uni so i can get him out of my system otherwise im just gonna keep thinkin 'what if' .
Please don't tell me im desperate, my friends already do that. I know i am. I admit it. I juat want my man. So practical advice evryone. Please help me!

I was kinda in a similar and believe it or not talking works..........

Also he could be gay................ or seeing some1 but moaning to put every1 off the scent if you get me?!

Reply 2

lauzt

OP

doubt he is gay coz he has been out with a few people. but that does make me feel better!

Reply 3

lauzt

OP

does anyone think it's possible to 'make' a man like you? i've never really thought about it like that before.

Reply 4

niamhster

10

lauzt

does anyone think it's possible to 'make' a man like you? i've never really thought about it like that before.

It is possible to get a man to look at you in a way he hasn't before. Nights like leavers dances can be emotional nights as it may be the last time you see people for a while as everyone is moving onto new things so use this as an opportunity to wow him!!! :wink:

Get yourself glammed up and looking hot for the night, possibly suggest some time alone together such as even just going for a walk or sitting down having a drink together and maybe be more open with him face to face about how you feel about him. You will be feeling confident as you will be all glammed up so it is the perfect opportunity to talk to him.

You could even suggest meeting up with him somewhere and doing something like going to see a film or going out for something to eat, try to keep it casual just like you are hanging out together. Don't be afraid in opening up a bit more and telling him you like him. If he feels the same way, then great!!!! :smile:

If he doesn't then, it is his loss, move on and i am sure you will find someone even better!!! :smile:

Reply 5

lauzt

OP

thankyou, thankyou, thankyou! Finally, someone who doesnt think im desperate and pathetic!

Reply 6

niamhster

10

lauzt

thankyou, thankyou, thankyou! Finally, someone who doesnt think im desperate and pathetic!

aww, of course you aren't!!! :smile:

Go get your man!!!! :biggrin:

Reply 7

at least lara

1

I think that the more you try to force a relationship, the less likely you'll develop onw with him.

TALK TO HIM.
this'll be the easiest time to do it. Say "Wow, I can't believe we're graduating (blah blah)...it seemed like such a short while ago that we just started high school. I used to have the biggest crush on you then ." ...and see what happens from there

Reply 8

cat_meiow

1

Omg i have/had exactly the same problem but things did happen between us. Like your friends, mine told me that I was too good for him but "we" never listen to advice. Seriously though just go and be the belle of the ball, flaunt it like girls know best and if he isn't interested stuff him. Or flirt like mad with all his friends, that helps a bit lol. I know this sounds corny but there really are plenty more fish in the sea and if he's not interested it's his loss not yours.

Reply 9

Rooftopcowboy

12

Pounce on him and use the famous Pot Noodle quote "its dirty and you want it" :rolleyes:

Seriously: go all out to make sure he realises, being male myself..I know fully well how bad we are at reading signals and stuff, so maybe he hasnt realised you like him yet. Make it obvious.

And if not, im allways free, single and available :wink:

Reply 10

cat_meiow

1

Rooftopcowboy

Pounce on him and use the famous Pot Noodle quote "its dirty and you want it" :rolleyes:

Seriously: go all out to make sure he realises, being male myself..I know fully well how bad we are at reading signals and stuff, so maybe he hasnt realised you like him yet. Make it obvious.

And if not, im allways free, single and available :wink:

if she don't take up your offer I will lol. :smile:

Reply 11

Phonicsdude

19

Talk to him. About anything.
Maintain eye contact.
Then when youve got his eye for a couple of seconds, look down.
Look back up 2 seconds later (no more than 5 seconds), if he's still looking in your eyes then he fancies you.

Reply 12

Rooftopcowboy

12

cat_meiow

if she don't take up your offer I will lol. :smile:

ooh aii!

is it really that easy to pull on TSR :wink:

lol

But back to the topic: I really do wish you ladies would make your intentions more obvious!! you expect us men to pick up on every little eye contact, body language, when mostly we don't have a clue!!

Im pretty sure that most men would be more flattered by a woman coming over and simply going "I want you" or something, I think men like things blatent more than women.

Reply 13

cat_meiow

1

Rooftopcowboy

Im pretty sure that most men would be more flattered by a woman coming over and simply going "I want you" or something, I think men like things blatent more than women.

Yeh but girls hate the thought of rejection don't they.

Reply 14

Rooftopcowboy

12

cat_meiow

Yeh but girls hate the thought of rejection don't they.

Yes but then in turn most men would get unconfident (unless they are cocky) and will either dither and go "ooh um im not sure" or will say yes.

Id say that the 'blatent' method would work more often than not. Obviously it depends on the male involved, and also the setting...if hes alone he would be more likely to answer nicely (ie let you down gently) but if he was in the pub 'with the lads' that might involve a cheeky response he'd read in Loaded and thought was funny!

Reply 15

benallen

I just think if he likes u he likes u if he doesn't then he doesn't! U can't change that. Just complement him alot but don't be too obvious. If he likes u then he'll pick up on the hints and ask u out.

Reply 16

rockprincess

the eye contact thing is a good plan. i accidnetally started doing that ont he bus today with this guy i was chatting to. ah well little flirting never did anyone any harm!

i say flirt your butt off and be touchy feely. if he doesnt get teh message hes an idiot

Reply 17

TOD100

You could bring another dude as your date to the ball or whatever it is.

Men want things more when someone else has them.

Then get talking to him, flirt, and he will be more likely to flirt back.

Make sure your 'date' is a mate who's willing to help you, or else you could be hurting someone :wink:

Good luck!

Motherless Child

Reply 18

username21537

2

^^
i wouldnt suggest this, as he may well think "Oh **** its too late, if shes onto someone else, I might as well as move to someone else too" and if youre trying to impress him then coming with one person and moving on quickly isnt going to make a great impression.

I say just be open and confident. If he sais he doesnt like you then you never have to see hgim again so its cool!

cat_meiow

if she don't take up your offer I will lol. :smile:

Lucky sod, its alright for some :smile:

Reply 19

pixie05

6

I had the same thing all through school, never spoke to the guy...ever. Too shy. But once we were out of school and saw each other around we were able to talk so easily, I guess cause all the cliques and everything and split up, it was good...but then I found mysef not fancying him anymore. Sometimes I think the mystery about a guy is what does it.

need advice on how to get my man!

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