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Reply 20

StevieP

OP

but whatever you do I wouldn't try and fix the situation with another text.

agree totally on that...a phone call is the only way forward

Reply 21

Apricot Fairy

16

Don't be ridiculous. There could be many reasons why she hasn't replied. Maybe she just hasn't had time! I take ages to reply to emails, and that's free!

Reply 22

StevieP

OP

susiemakemeblue

Don't be ridiculous. There could be many reasons why she hasn't replied. Maybe she just hasn't had time! I take ages to reply to emails, and that's free!

not too sure bout that....if someone asked you out on a monday by text message asking to go for a drink that night that you would wait till a week or 2 later to reply regardless of whether or not you were interested....without meaning to offend im a realist and i dont believe that is possible

Reply 23

Apricot Fairy

16

Well fine then. Give up now. What if she likes you and there is a real reason why she hasn't replied? Oh well. Never mind. She might be a great girl but I guess you'll never know.

No one likes a pessimist anyway.

Reply 24

StevieP

OP

susiemakemeblue

Well fine then. Give up now. What if she likes you and there is a real reason why she hasn't replied? Oh well. Never mind. She might be a great girl but I guess you'll never know.

No one likes a pessimist anyway.

oh dont get me wrong as i said earlier she's fantastic girl, has the personality and looks to match, and im gonna wait till next before ringing her up but if shes not interested which is almost a certainty at this stage theres nothing i can do...as i said earlier im feeling things for her that i havent felt for a long time for any other girl so id love her to be interested

edited to say theres big difference between being a realist and being a pessimist , for me the pessimist doesnt ask the girl out cause he thinks shes too good for him&she'll never say yes....a realist asks the girl out but knows a nod is as good as a wink & 3 days without a reply only means one thing in the realist's (my)eyes

Reply 25

tvi675

no offence, but it probably aint gonna happen. from what youve described youve probably come across to her as too needy and clingy. You did something right because she made the first move, but then you became clingy by texting her and thats destroying what shes done. youre surrendering power to her and basically making yourself look like a bit of a wuss. wait for her to get in contact with you. if shes interested she will, if shes not she wont. harsh but true.

Reply 26

aleathiel

16

just give her some space and then try and contact her again in a casual way, see where it goes from there..

Reply 27

StevieP

OP

last thing i want to appear to be is clingy and needy!!...so i think ill wait till next week & probably ring her up to suss out her reasons...i know at this stage is almost certain that its a no go-er but id still like to get some sort of reply

Reply 28

Xulfer

1

Maybe the message didn't get through and all the worrying could be for nothing. Maybe send her another text asking her if she got the first one, or say something like "hey, how about that pint?" or something, if she did get the text.

Reply 29

khil

15

StevieP

last thing i want to appear to be is clingy and needy!!...so i think ill wait till next week & probably ring her up to suss out her reasons...i know at this stage is almost certain that its a no go-er but id still like to get some sort of reply

Just RING her, man! Don't be so paranoid. And just to say, ringing her now wouldn't make the girl run a mile - I wouldn't run a mile just cus a guy rang me after a text. I probably would if he rang me after a few hours telling me I didn't text back with a reply - but you've waited 3 days! - or is it 4 now? To an extent ringing her can seem sweet to some girls cus it shows you care.

And regardless of everything else, what I personally can't stand is not knowing. I'd much rather confront the matter - even if it's bad news, but at least then I *know* and can stop frigging guessing! Or maybe that's just me - I'm not the shy type. Just give her a ring, and just drop a friendly hint saying, hey did you get my text? If she says no, then there's your answer. If she says yes, then just ask - how come you never texted back? Were you busy? Just make it sound innocent and simple curiosity, as anyone would if they didn't get a reply for no reason. But other times people are just busy - sometimes I don't get a text back from friends til a few days later, or a few weeks!

Best of luck anyway :smile:

Simply not replying for 3 days does not necessarily mean she's not interested so stop being a perssimmist. A realist would go find out and quit guessing. Just be neutral about it - all hope is not lost, but at the same time don't get your hopes up too high.

Reply 30

girlafraid

1

wait a few days and call her, dont leave a text.

i dont understand how sending someone a text message asking them to go out would make you come off as clingy.

Reply 31

StevieP

OP

cheers guys...well ive decided i'll wait till the next wednesday before i ring her up to try and suss out whether or not she is interested.. i still reckon the chances she didnt get that message or lost the message or has been unable to reply for 5 days is mere wishful thinking....but one way or the other all will be revealed next week!

Reply 32

Zerforax

21

its me again, mr negative
well anyway i was txting a girl i think i kinda like, replied back and forth a bit, we talk a fair bit - kinda situation like yours a bit
but yea like a week ago, she stop replying back, i txted a couple of other times, still no reply so i was like screw it - both been on exam leave so havent seen her
but today i saw her, and she was saying sorry she couldnt reply but her phone broke
:O:O:O
in conclusion, dont be a pessimist, theres always an excuse, and anything your thinking is in your head :biggrin:

when your ready, just give her a ring - im sure she'll be flattered

Reply 33

StevieP

OP

sarforaz

its me again, mr negative
well anyway i was txting a girl i think i kinda like, replied back and forth a bit, we talk a fair bit - kinda situation like yours a bit
but yea like a week ago, she stop replying back, i txted a couple of other times, still no reply so i was like screw it - both been on exam leave so havent seen her
but today i saw her, and she was saying sorry she couldnt reply but her phone broke
:O:O:O
in conclusion, dont be a pessimist, theres always an excuse, and anything your thinking is in your head :biggrin:

when your ready, just give her a ring - im sure she'll be flattered

now thats the kinda result i could do with when i ring her next week ! :smile:

Reply 34

visesh

17

sarforaz

its me again, mr negative
well anyway i was txting a girl i think i kinda like, replied back and forth a bit, we talk a fair bit - kinda situation like yours a bit
but yea like a week ago, she stop replying back, i txted a couple of other times, still no reply so i was like screw it - both been on exam leave so havent seen her
but today i saw her, and she was saying sorry she couldnt reply but her phone broke
:O:O:O
in conclusion, dont be a pessimist, theres always an excuse, and anything your thinking is in your head :biggrin:

when your ready, just give her a ring - im sure she'll be flattered

Intriguing*-)

Reply 35

Zerforax

21

visesh

Intriguing*-)

omfg! not you! *runs*
stop reading my posts :frown:

you damn gossip

Reply 36

visesh

17

sarforaz

omfg! not you! *runs*
stop reading my posts :frown:

you damn gossip

eh?

Reply 37

spoonofdeath

... I'm not sure what's going on with the last few posts but Stevie you are over-analysing the situation, A LOT. You can't read that much into that little information, just give her a ring, don't think about it, seriously you think about stuff far to much, just be simple do what you need to get a response. I doubt she'll analyse it anywhere near as much as you have!

Reply 38

StevieP

OP

spoonofdeath

... I'm not sure what's going on with the last few posts but Stevie you are over-analysing the situation, A LOT. You can't read that much into that little information, just give her a ring, don't think about it, seriously you think about stuff far to much, just be simple do what you need to get a response. I doubt she'll analyse it anywhere near as much as you have!

agree with you that i do tend to over analyse things, that said though i'll know next week if i was correct in my post-mortem!....hope im wrong and shes interested but i just cant see it happening now as its nearly 5 days without a reply!!

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