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Living with my boyfriend?

i need a bit of advice...

in four weeks time im parents are going to be going on holiday for 2 1/2 weeks. leaving me at home, and with my boyfriend staying to look after me/keep me company.

it just feels to me like a HUGE step for me and my boyfriend as we havent spent any more than a week together at once. i mean obviously im over the moon about spending so much time with him but im also worried that we will be at each others throats after a week.

lol we're both VERY stubborn!

has anyone got any tips of keeping the peace and has anyone done anything like this before?

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Reply 1
Cazzi_Bear
i need a bit of advice...

in four weeks time im parents are going to be going on holiday for 2 1/2 weeks. leaving me at home, and with my boyfriend staying to look after me/keep me company.

it just feels to me like a HUGE step for me and my boyfriend as we havent spent any more than a week together at once. i mean obviously im over the moon about spending so much time with him but im also worried that we will be at each others throats after a week.

lol we're both VERY stubborn!

has anyone got any tips of keeping the peace and has anyone done anything like this before?


Alcohol, drip feed it to him and he will be as happy as a bug in a rug!! :biggrin:
Reply 2
SciFi25
Alcohol, drip feed it to him and he will be as happy as a bug in a rug!! :biggrin:


lol good advice!! :cheers: thats the way to do it! lmao
Reply 3
lots of alcohol and sex? o.o.. if you get too annoyed just drug him
If he's a serious bf you presumably have the idea somewhere in your head that you'll possibly be living together more long-term at some point in the future so this'll probably be quite a good indicator. I'd just make plans to do stuff - if you're cooped up indoors all the time then you'll both be more likely to get stressed. And also (a good idea ALL the time) just listen to each other and make an effort to get on and keep the peace - even if it means not getting your own way always. You're lucky to have the chance to do this I reckon! :smile:
Reply 5
Now on a serious note, if you fall out that quickly then you are probably not meant to be together!!! There is no sure way of keeping the peace you just have to respect each other and put in the effort!!
Reply 6
SciFi25
Now on a serious note, if you fall out that quickly then you are probably not meant to be together!!! There is no sure way of keeping the peace you just have to respect each other and put in the effort!!


im not saying we fall out quickly, we just disagree on certain household matters....! lol

we never argue normally
Reply 7
englishstudent
If he's a serious bf you presumably have the idea somewhere in your head that you'll possibly be living together more long-term at some point in the future so this'll probably be quite a good indicator. I'd just make plans to do stuff - if you're cooped up indoors all the time then you'll both be more likely to get stressed. And also (a good idea ALL the time) just listen to each other and make an effort to get on and keep the peace - even if it means not getting your own way always. You're lucky to have the chance to do this I reckon! :smile:


yeh we have discussed living together before, and we'll be near each other in uni.

yeh its going to be hard that i live in the middle of nowhere, lukily hes going to have a car by then!

i do feel lucky, i just wanna make sure i do the right thing so we dont fall out over something really stupid...
Im sure it'll be fine, and like the others have said if it's a serious relationship then this will indicate how well you two live together. I practically live with my boyfriend, well we both have separate houses but we spend every night together. From my experience my advice would be to have a plan of what to do like englishstudent suggested. Also if there is anything bugging you, like he has an annoying habit, maybe mention that you don't like it, or any other comments etc. Otherwise a whole bunch of silly little things could build into one argument, which could have been avoided if you mentioned stuff if/when it happens. And compromise! I'm sure it'll be fun for you both! :smile:
Reply 9
littlemissfairy
Im sure it'll be fine, and like the others have said if it's a serious relationship then this will indicate how well you two live together. I practically live with my boyfriend, well we both have separate houses but we spend every night together. From my experience my advice would be to have a plan of what to do like englishstudent suggested. Also if there is anything bugging you, like he has an annoying habit, maybe mention that you don't like it, or any other comments etc. Otherwise a whole bunch of silly little things could build into one argument, which could have been avoided if you mentioned stuff if/when it happens. And compromise! I'm sure it'll be fun for you both! :smile:


totally, i mean it shoudl be great fun, but i cant help worrying though. :smile:

and weve been together for 14 months so it should be ok

thanks for making me feel a little better about it you guys :biggrin:
Reply 10
it will be great fun :smile: just relax and have fun. if you're worried about arguments arising then they're more likely to happen, just chill out and have a good time :smile:
Reply 11
littlemissfairy
And compromise!


Compromise, thats the word i was looking for!! Yeah, compromise is the key to any successful relationship. If you can compromise then you will last forever! :biggrin:
Reply 12
don't live toegther for the 2.5 weeks? take advantage of the situation, but living together? i'd be bored out of my tits, do you not want to do things? like go out with friends, laze around etc?
Reply 13
SciFi25
Compromise, thats the word i was looking for!! Yeah, compromise is the key to any successful relationship. If you can compromise then you will last forever! :biggrin:



i'll bear that in mind :biggrin:

lol.....by the looks of it im going to be the one washing his clothes! (as his mummy still does his! lol)
Reply 14
erk
don't live toegther for the 2.5 weeks? take advantage of the situation, but living together? i'd be bored out of my tits, do you not want to do things? like go out with friends, laze around etc?


i dont really have a choice, i cant stay at home by myself...and my house is in the middle of nowhere, so id have no transport if he dosent stay here.
Make sure you both have some alone time, maybe sit in a different room while you do something.
Reply 16
Does he have to stay there? Why can't you stay at home by yourself? Can't you get your parents to insure you on one of their cars for a couple of weeks for transport?
Reply 17
Lozza
Does he have to stay there? Why can't you stay at home by yourself? Can't you get your parents to insure you on one of their cars for a couple of weeks for transport?


i cant drive! lol
You guys can't spend two weeks together without arguing? Not a very good sign really....
Reply 19
Cazzi_Bear
i cant drive! lol


Thats a minor problem, its not too hard!