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    This is one of those never-ending questions... I've known girlfriends who seem to think that being single is the worst thing ever. They could barely stand up as a social being unless they were with someone.
    Personally, I've never understood this attitude as I've always found the idea of being with someone who I don't really care that much about (I'm not talking about overly romantic, "I love you" feelings) much worse: you reduce your chances of finding that special someone (that's my opinion), you run the risk of having a partner who develops feelings for you when you don't really care. What's more, I would and I have felt cheap...

    So what are your thoughts on this? Are you one of those people who always has to be with someone, whoever that person turns out to be? Do you prefer remaining single until you're sure you've found someone special?
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    I always wanted to be single, until i found the most amazing man, ever.
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    being single's kinda fun .i would much rather be single than be in a relationship with someone who i didn't care about that much (or who i couldn't potentially grow to care about much). Starting a relationship based on physical attraction or lust or whatever without much deeper feelings is fair enough but if it could never develop beyond that i'd rather be single and live my own life.
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    i think the grass is greener on the pther side... i'm forveer single and can't stop thinking how good it would be to have a boyf... then last yr i did have one and i wanted to be single!
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    I prefer to be single.
    I'm young I want to enjoy myself and have fun without the hassle of a partner. I'm not very good with compromising.
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    Being in a relationship with some one you love deeply is incredibly special. I dont think you should undermine those types of relationships by entering half assed into ones with people you dont care about just so you arent single.
    After a serious relationship ends, many people find it hard to be "alone" and dont know how they can function with out some one always been there (this was me a few months back!). But after experiencing that kind of love with some one, I would hate to devalue the relationship we had by getting with any randomer just so I aren't single.
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    I quite enjoy being single. Sure, having someone really special is great, and you do tend to feel a huge void right after the two of you break up, but there's nothing wrong with being single. It's a good excuse to have fun
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    Yeh theres definitely nothing wrong with being single and having fun but there is simply nothing quite like a truly loving relationship.

    It's actually difficult to enter a relationship being confident you aren't going to care much about the person, because the point is that you are usually predicting and extrapolating such that you expect to grow to love and care for them in time when initial feelings dont *have to* include these feelings.

    I'd say people not caring about the partners occurs most easily when people don't recognise that it's happened or they are too afraid to actually do the breaking up and so plod along in half assed relationships.
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    I've been in various relationships almost non stop for 2 and a half years, I think it's a case of becoming dependant really.I can't imagine being single and I'm sure it'd be fine once I got used to it but I just like that secure feeling that it gives you when you know there is someone there for you. Of course love is vital in it otherwise you're just using someone for security.
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    I never understood why people enter relationships for relationship sake; if the feelings aren't there then it isnt going to be any good.

    I'm single and will be till i find a person i actually like.
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    There's no point in being with someone unless you really like them. I mean, who wants to settle for anything? I'm one of those people that isn't going to bother with a relationship unless it's bound to be something really great. I mean, it's like when you're shopping for a prom dress and you put on a dress that looks ok, and you want to buy it because you haven't found one yet that even looks decent on you...but why would you want to waste your money when you could wait a little longer, and mayber-just maybe- find a dress that looks amazing on you?(please excuse my stupid stupid metaphor... :rolleyes:
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    Single people have one thing over those spoken for- hope!

    I am trundling through life with my head down hoping a gorgeous prince falls out of the sky though.....
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    I agree with Jessicarabbit on this one. FOr one thing I can't sleep with someone I don't really fancy. I remember being with my ex and not really wanting to dump him because of the comfort and the friendship and not wanting to rock the boat, but waking up one morning thinking I really don't want to sleep with you anymore I don't find you that attractive anymore.

    I think I'm a perfectionist in relationships as well as everything else which is why I always seem to be single.
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    Eventually though, as you get older you are more inclined to compromise so as not top die a lonely old woman found dead and green with 30 pet cats.
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    I don't think I want to compromise too much though. I mean yeah everyone compromises a bit but if you are really pissed with someone after a few months its never going to last years is it.
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    Being single during the day and being in a couple at night, I wish that worked in real life.
    I cant stand a guy being with me 24hours day, I need my own space, but if I had to pick, umm well seen as though Im single and hating it, I would prefer it if I was in a relationship. I'm that type of person that needs companionship, someone I can fall back on, cry on their shoulders, and call any time of the day. Jesus, I need a bf
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    (Original post by SamTheMan)
    This is one of those never-ending questions... I've known girlfriends who seem to think that being single is the worst thing ever. They could barely stand up as a social being unless they were with someone.
    Personally, I've never understood this attitude as I've always found the idea of being with someone who I don't really care that much about (I'm not talking about overly romantic, "I love you" feelings) much worse: you reduce your chances of finding that special someone (that's my opinion), you run the risk of having a partner who develops feelings for you when you don't really care. What's more, I would and I have felt cheap...

    So what are your thoughts on this? Are you one of those people who always has to be with someone, whoever that person turns out to be? Do you prefer remaining single until you're sure you've found someone special?

    its quite upsetting when people feel they have to be with a partner all there lifes.. i mean no body will get to know you personally if you always have a man/lady on your arm.. if i was a target for that sort of peson i would have felt cheap also.
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    Keeping an easy going, lots of apart and together time relationship meant thet my boyfriend was my best friend, and now although ex-boyfriend, he is still my best friend and I love spending time with him and I still live with him.
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    I can't be with someone I don't really want, because the attraction just isn't there. If I wasn't picky, I would never have to be single. That said, I hate being single and really want to find someone special.
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    I've never had that problem I fall in love quite easily, and have never found it hard to meet someone I want to be with. It being reciproated wasn't always the case...
 
 
 
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