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my attraction for white boys

hi all. I am a black girl who is only attracted to white boys. I've never questioned this before but after thinking about it a while I have come to the conclusion that this is due to my perceived notion that black men just leave. I am not in contact with my father and my mum had three long-term relationships (all black men) who I considered as fathers and all those relationships ended.

I feel that this isn't "right", you know. How do I stop feeling like this?
thanks for reading.

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

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Reply 2

taylorrrr96

13

There's nothing wrong with it. Ive seen white guys that only go for black girls and vice versa. Go with the flow, unless your family have a problem with it i dont see the problem, go out and enjoy yourself.

Reply 3

username129099

15

I don't think its uncommon I'm mixed race, black-white and generally I'm only attracted to white girls. With exceptions like Beyonce, Rhianna, and this girl who did the KCL physics tour :woo:

Reply 4

diskohuelga

10

I think that is quite an odd question to ask. Why wouldn't it be ''right'' for you not to feel attracted to black boys? Really, whatever flicks your switch.

Don't force yourself to like someone because you feel that it isn't ''right'' not too. In the same way, don't write off a whole race because of a couple of individuals who may haven't been great examples.

Reply 5

voudreau

10

Just go for whoever makes you happy. Try to make more friends who are black guys and see how you get on with them. You need to build up trust slowly.

Reply 6

x y z

12

If you're attracted to white guys, you're attracted to white guys. I don't see why it's a problem.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

Don't worry. I find myself exclusively attracted - to a much greater extent - to oriental people. And all my friends think they're 'ugly' and me thinking most are completely gorgeous.

Be who you are!

Reply 8

fallen angel9

x y z

If you're attracted to white guys, you're attracted to white guys. I don't see why it's a problem.

This.

Be attracted to whoever you want.

Reply 9

QwentyJ

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Anonymous

hi all. I am a black girl who is only attracted to white boys. I've never questioned this before but after thinking about it a while I have come to the conclusion that this is due to my perceived notion that black men just leave. I am not in contact with my father and my mum had three long-term relationships (all black men) who I considered as fathers and all those relationships ended.

I feel that this isn't "right", you know. How do I stop feeling like this?
thanks for reading.

Well, what happens in your familial life does help to create impressions that last in your life, so there is perhaps a reason.

That said, there are lots of white men who fly the nest so to speak. It's cool that you like us too, people have their preferences. Maybe if you meet a black guy that you happen to hit it off with though, it might change your perception. Ultimately, you can't help your attractions, but in this case, it may help to change you perceptions by experiencing them for yourself! :smile:

Reply 10

Yazmin

5

whats the issue? if you like them , you like them!

Reply 11

yoyo462001

16

Well generally black women are only attraced to black guys, i think maybe the fact that all the black men in your life have left. Theres nothing wrong with this though if you like them you like them, but id imagine youd get alot of stick from other black girls.

Reply 12

Floofy

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They're hot.

Reply 13

emanuel_arsenalfc

11

dang girl u can like whoever u want..but u kno if me n u can work somethin out then it will be all good :biggrin:

Reply 14

Areontas

16

I don't think it should matter. If you're surrounded by predominantly white people in a predominantly white society, it's not unlikely to be attracted to more white boys. I think you're trying to explain it with your reasoning and personal experiences, but I'm sure once you find the right person, things like that won't matter to you.

Reply 15

elldee

1

Everyone is different, you like white guys, and there are white guys out there who like black girls so its fine. Whats wrong with that. Your not abnormal. But, yes there is a possibility that it is subconsciously because of your experience with black men that you aren't attracted to them. Not to worry there will be someone for you.

Reply 16

*TheSweetestDrug*

i get where you're coming from with the black guys thing..it's prob far from true but alot of black guys are stereotyped as not wanting to be in a relationship for the long run..!doesn't put me off though..!good on you..be attracted to who you want..as long as you're happy with it..!