Feeling insecure

Awwwwwwwwwwwww. I'd get suspicious, too. Hire a private detective

No but tbh, talk to her, tell her how you fell about it.

Ok well I failed to mention that. The other day we met up and I actually did tell her but she just said that they're friends and he definitely doesn't like her. But I mean, how can she know? I was friends with her too and I'm sure she didn't know I liked her before I told her about it so it's sort of the same here. She said that it was true she didn't know for sure but that she really doubted it.

I mean, does the fact that I do get worried about this mean I don't fully trust her? I mean I don't think she'd actually cheat but more he'd make a move or somehow ruin things between us or something - I don't know. I'm just worried that somehow he'll mess up this great relationship I have with her.

I know what you mean and I fully understand you. Most people would worry about this kind of thing, you know! Have you spoken to him about it, too? If he's a good friend, he'll know better than to try and get with her, but you know, feelings can mess your head up! I guess there's nothing you can do about it though, I'd try not to think about it too much because it'll only make you unhappy.

completely understandable.. but if it makes u feel any better - i have a bf and i have a male friend who i hang out with alot. Most of the time it's just the two of us, and i help him pick out clothes, and he takes me to dinner, buys me drinks and great bday presents and he's allowed to call me up at any time of the day or night nd i always will meet up with him.. my mother actually thinks i've been dating him for like 3 yrs but nothing's ever happened between us.. we can just talk for hours about life nd problems and enjoy each other's company so it doesnt necessarily mean anything...

and i guess it does kinda show that you don't trust her, and/or that you're just insecure.. but you've got to learn to try to get over it.. but it will be very difficult this being ur first proper relationship...

what about they're track record - ur gf nd her mate? hav they ever cheated on other people in previous relationships? nd how long hav they been this close? and do you know if her mate is interested in any other female?

Well her friend has had 3 relationships that I know about but he's never really told me much about them even though I guess we are friends and talk and stuff so I dunno if he has cheated. It's actually my girlfriend's first relationship too so no other boyfriend in the past. They've been close probably for like 3 years or something? About as long as I started getting closer to her too. I know he liked another girl a while back but I don't know at the moment.

You know you talked about your friend. Does he have a girlfriend or not? Also, is there 0% chance of him liking you do you think?

Yeah, me and my mate have known each other for the same amount of time too and my boyfriend is quite recent (3/4 months) so he's only just beginning to understand our relationship - he tells me he thinks it's a good thing, but who knows, he could be lying lol

My mate doesn't have a girlfriend, but has recently been having problems with his ex who he remains friends with... And we were friends during his relationship before that - i even befriended his gf that time.

In terms of him liking me, i think it's highly unlikely because i'm not his type at all - but then again the whole reason i became friends with him in the first place was because i had a crush on him lol...

And it's little things like that that worry me. I'm not saying it's the same case here but it's just that it could be something different or he became friends with her because HE liked HER - I don't know.

Also, to add, I was her friend for 3 years before this (if I didn't mention that already) and the thing is it's not like she knew I liked her before I said so it's just something like that. More time has passed between my girlfriend and this friend but the principle is still the same.

It can make you feel insecure but all it could end up doing is making your relationship awkward/clingy if you start deeply questioning her about it. Let her be, shes a free person as you are.

Shes with you not him as far as you know. If she goes off with him then well it wasn't meant to be with you was it.

Well, of course I try not to think about it but we all know how hard it is to not think about something when you really don't want to think about it. All you end up doing is thinking about it. I don't know, I'm a pretty anxious person and I get a lot of anxiety and sort of worry when she tells me she's gonna see him and stuff. However like after a while I'll be cool about it and know nothing is happening but I don't know, everytime she does say it I do get sort of panicky if that's the right word.

I thought about talking to him but I think I've decided against it. For one, I doubt he'd tell me he liked her even if he did so it's sort of pointless. And, two, if I'm wrong then it makes our friendship very awkward and possibly ruin it which would make things harder between me and my girlfriend as they are close friends and say if we went out it would just be weird.