Living in the past

Since me and an ex broke up a few months ago i can't get some things out of my head. I hate it that he wasn't a good boyfriend to me, and practictly cheated on me with someone who he is good friends with now. I hate it they both screwed me over when i was always decent to them and i hate it that they are happy and i'm still really hurt and have to deal with being angry and miserable all the time because of them. I keep going back in my mind to when things were good and i know i shouldn't but i just can't help it.
I want to move forward and be happy but i feel like i can't because in my mind I'm still living in the past. I shouldn't feel like i can't be happy because they are and i should be over this by now but i'm not.

I have tried keeping busy etc but it doesn't work that well :frown:

Advice? or anyone been through a similar thing?

PS. Please keep anoymous or delete.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

ah i had the same thing, i'd spend literally 5 or 6 hours a day, just thinking bout her and how all screwed up it was.

you really just need to find something to distract you! find another guy?
personally what changed it around for me was that one of my good friends got pregnant, and had a really abusive ex. so i started spending all my time with her, and helping her out, and concentrating on her problems etc. was amazing at helping me forget/get over my ex.

Reply 2

adiaphora

when we're talking months how many? tbh i think that can be quite normal, if its a serious relationship can take a long time to get over :frown:

i think in a way its a natural grieving process. but yeah trying to give dating a chance again might help.

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Anonymous #1

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adiaphora

when we're talking months how many? tbh i think that can be quite normal, if its a serious relationship can take a long time to get over :frown:

i think in a way its a natural grieving process. but yeah trying to give dating a chance again might help.

We wern't together long, but i have been friends with him for about a year and we saw eachother alot. Its more of the confusion and lies and cheating that has got me... I have had a bad relationship past and this was the last straw..
I'm not interested in any men at the moment, and i don't think im in the right mind for a new relationship.

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Anonymous

ah i had the same thing, i'd spend literally 5 or 6 hours a day, just thinking bout her and how all screwed up it was.

you really just need to find something to distract you! find another guy?
personally what changed it around for me was that one of my good friends got pregnant, and had a really abusive ex. so i started spending all my time with her, and helping her out, and concentrating on her problems etc. was amazing at helping me forget/get over my ex.

Are you over her now?

Living in the past

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