If you saw a 25 year old...

...mother of three young children wearing alternative (think gothish/rocker) type of clothing, would you think it was inappropriate?

I'm dying to get back into wearing alternative clothes after I've had this baby, I feel so frumpy and mumsy and it's depressing, but part of me is niggled thinking that a mother of 3 kids who is in her mid twenties should look more "adult" than that.

My husband tells me I'm being silly and I should just wear what I want to. My mother would tell me the opposite, and probably come out with a variety of choice insulting comments about me looking immature if I wore alternative stuff.

So, I dunno....any thoughts?

Reply 1

cpj1987

15

I definitely wouldn't, no. To me, clothes are clothes and people should wear what they want.
The only time I'd think badly of a mother's clothing would be if she was showing far more than the general public (and her children) would ever want to see. :p:

Reply 2

Nick_000

16

To be honest, yes.

First impressions count for a lot and if I saw a women dressing like Dani from Cradle of Filth or something, I'd definitely doubt your parental abilities. Its a harsh world, I know.

Reply 3

learner_dancer

12

You could always try and juggle between the two, trying to look alternative, ie to retain your own personal style, but also looking 'respectable' at the same time!

Reply 4

georgia

14

I say wear what you like. Does it really matter what anyone else thinks?

Reply 5

Walkin'Butterfly

14

I don't care what you wear, but a lot of people would.

It's a sad world eh.

Reply 6

sarahthegemini

10

U need to wear what makes you happy. Why dress to please everyone else?

Reply 7

200428

3

as long as you don't dress the kids up in it (I was in Camden today and a saw a babygrow with a spreadeagled, gagged teddy on it :eek:

and I'd freak completely and call social services if I ever saw a baby wearing that) I wouldn't see it as a problem, although I'd probably assume you were their babysitter or something rather than their mother?

Reply 8

_findthecolour_

learner_dancer

You could always try and juggle between the two, trying to look alternative, ie to retain your own personal style, but also looking 'respectable' at the same time!

Yeah, this.

Reply 9

kat2pult

18

Honeslty? I thought you would've grown out of that phase by the time you got to 25. Wear what you want though.

Reply 10

Suis Je Bovvered ?

15

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...mother of three young children wearing alternative (think gothish/rocker) type of clothing, would you think it was inappropriate?

I'm dying to get back into wearing alternative clothes after I've had this baby, I feel so frumpy and mumsy and it's depressing, but part of me is niggled thinking that a mother of 3 kids who is in her mid twenties should look more "adult" than that.

My husband tells me I'm being silly and I should just wear what I want to. My mother would tell me the opposite, and probably come out with a variety of choice insulting comments about me looking immature if I wore alternative stuff.

So, I dunno....any thoughts?

Hey Nat

I've seen pics of you in gothish/alt clothing before, and i'll just say you look pretty hot in them :p:

Wear whatever you want, it's your choice and if it'll give you that little boost you need to feel comfortable again, go for it :biggrin:

As for your mother, she'd say anything to upset you, you know that hun. Besides, what does she know about clothing these days!

OP

Suis Je Bovvered ?

Hey Nat

I've seen pics of you in gothish/alt clothing before, and i'll just say you look pretty hot in them :p:

Wear whatever you want, it's your choice and if it'll give you that little boost you need to feel comfortable again, go for it :biggrin:

As for your mother, she'd say anything to upset you, you know that hun. Besides, what does she know about clothing these days!

you always know how to cheer me up :hugs:

Reply 12

elixira

14

I love alternative style, not that terrible **** you see kids wearing outside the local cinema... giant band hoodies, orange hair, New Rocks, fishnet gloves, massive chainy pants... love the more girly goth/lolita stuff, though!

It annoys me when anyone dresses badly - no matter who they are, I won't judge a 14 year-old less harshly than a 25 year-old mum though.

Reply 13

jaz_jaz

sorry but yes. then and again i'm a judgemental person :dontknow:

Reply 14

Preeka

15

do what you want, really. people will always have something to say ("you're damned if you do.. you're damned if you dont" )

you could always wear something different on different days depending on your mood, though. you know, keep one foot in each camp?

Reply 15

Lell

16

Do what you want, don't let the fact you have kids influence your decision here. It's not like they are going to grow up to be rapid prostitutes just because of the clothes you wear.

Reply 16

amii_G

1

jaz_jaz

sorry but yes. then and again i'm a judgemental person :dontknow:

lol, so upfront about it. :p:

Reply 17

xxxpenguinnnxxx

12

I think you should wear what you want, but maybe tone it down a little bit...

OP

Lell

Do what you want, don't let the fact you have kids influence your decision here. It's not like they are going to grow up to be rapid prostitutes just because of the clothes you wear.

Oh I'm not worried about my clothes having any sort of effect on THEM, I just wonder if the whole world is going to think I look ridiculous at my age with 3 kids wearing that sort of thing.

I know I shouldn't worry about what people think, but everybody does to some extent I suppose...

Reply 19

Cortez

17

I'd be more concerned with the fact she had 3 kids already.

If you saw a 25 year old...

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