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cat_meiow

1

Ok im going to keep it short and sweet im 18 and this guy is 25. Ok or bad?
Please leave your comments.

Reply 1

john !!

14

if you're both happy then its no one else's buisness...

Reply 2

spoonofdeath

I think there is another thread covering this somewhere.... but you can't tell if a relationship is okay just from the ages, it's much more than that. The only thing that matters is do you think it's okay? If so, go for it, and who cares what anyone else thinks.

Reply 3

Silly Wench

1

If you're happy then go for it-age is just a number after all. Make sure you're parents are OK with it though, there's no point of falling out with them over a fella.

Reply 4

cat_meiow

OP

1

spoonofdeath

I think there is another thread covering this somewhere.... but you can't tell if a relationship is okay just from the ages, it's much more than that. The only thing that matters is do you think it's okay? If so, go for it, and who cares what anyone else thinks.

Yeh but the other one is a bit vague

Reply 5

*starry_eyed_*

14

as long as yr happy don't see why not!

Reply 6

cat_meiow

OP

1

Would you not think a 25 yr old guy wud have a 2nd agenda going out wif an 18 year old?

Reply 7

twiga

15

I'm going out with a 25 yr old, we got together when I was 16 and he was 23 and it's going ok but the age difference is becoming more and more apparant as the relationship progresses and you have to be careful that he doesn't take you for granted or treat you as inferior because of your age, even if he doesn't realise what he's doing. Also he may not understand the pressures of exams and that you may have to spend more time revising than being with him for a while until they're finnished. This has caused no end of rows between me and my bf - he thinks I'm neglecting him but I know that my grades will last forever, he may well not.

Reply 8

ChocoVet

My mum was 18 and my dad was 26 when they first went out.
OK they are a different generation but I don't see any problem with you being 18 and you bf being 25.
As long as you guys are happy it's fine :smile:

Reply 9

Niaya

13

cat_meiow

Ok im going to keep it short and sweet im 18 and this guy is 25. Ok or bad?
Please leave your comments.

go for it if your happy and feel safe thats what matters

Reply 10

cat_meiow

OP

1

It seems like he is too much of a gentleman sometimes.

Reply 11

twiga

15

Well keeo it casual to start with, if it develops then great, if not then you save yourself a lot of hurt :smile:

Reply 12

jbcubed3

1

If he's a nice guy, give it a go! As people have said, it's not really about the age - you're both adults now, so hopefully there won't be so many complications from people around you. If anything happens you can call it quits - enjoy yourself :smile:

Good luck!
~ j

Reply 13

Hana_87

16

cat_meiow

Would you not think a 25 yr old guy wud have a 2nd agenda going out wif an 18 year old?

No!

Cor society have made age gaps so... whats the word? these days.

Just use your gut feelings about him.
Its not the age i'd worry about its the person, wether they were my age or older. If i liked them and thought they were genuine age wouldn't matter.

Reply 14

spin

2

Lots of people saying that as long as the two of you are happy then no one else matters.. this is sadly (in my opinion anyway) just not the case.

Sure, foremost a relationship is between 2 people, but it affects others round you. Your families and your friends. You'll have to think about how you will socialise together. Is he going to be embarrassed by you being underage? (Getting ID'd in pubs for example) Would that upset you? And how is he going to feel about hanging out with your teenage friends?

I've had some of the best times of my life with men 8, 9, 10 years older than me, but they haven't been without problems. Best of luck with it!

And whoever said he might have a "hidden agenda", I think you're wrong. Of course he -might- but no more so than the next guy who might be the same age. An ex of mine was really confused inside because he had feelings for me but didn't want to use me in any way. Older guys are not -just- in it for the sex.

Reply 15

Dramatic Star

2

Hmmmm, well you are 18 and I think therefore it makes you responsible to make your own decisions. If you two have no problem with the age gap then go for it. If you were 16 and he was 23, that's when it may seem a bit of a problem.

Reply 16

Wild Thing

11

I would never go out with a 25 years old :smile:

or any guy that is above 21.

Reply 17

Everdawn

13

cat_meiow

Ok im going to keep it short and sweet im 18 and this guy is 25. Ok or bad?
Please leave your comments.

im not going to keep in toe with the if you are both in love screw the world stuff, but be careful, ya know.

ok i suppose...

what sort of situation did you get together in (like how did you meet him)?
cos I have abunch of people at work that im really close to (incl relationships) but wsa really surprised to find out recently that one of them is 26. it depends how you see them. if on meeting you clicked wiothuot the age even being brought up ro an issue, then that is whats importtant. if the age thing has just come up then dont let it be a definging issue - people are more than an age.

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