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Online vs Offline Relationships

So there's been much talk of long distance relationships and it seems quite a lot were either formed or are focused online. I've had 2 myself and 3 offline realtionships.

So do you consider and online relationship to have the same validty as offline? Or not?

Is anyone in an online relationship thats now an offline relationship (seeing each other etc)?

Tis more that i'm curious but it'll give people a chance to voice their views, and it'd be interesting to know which works best?

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Reply 1
who in their right mind would vote 'online'????
Reply 2
Doesn't it really depend on the person?

Also, online might be the foundation of a good relationship but it'd worry me that some people would want to keep it online. If they do, that's not a proper relationship at all.
Reply 3
Adhsur
Doesn't it really depend on the person?

Also, online might be the foundation of a good relationship but it'd worry me that some people would want to keep it online. If they do, that's not a proper relationship at all.

That's what gets me bout the really long distance (international) realtinships, surely at some point somethings gotta give and one party will have to move?
Reply 4
xXMessedUpXx
That's what gets me bout the really long distance (international) realtinships, surely at some point somethings gotta give and one party will have to move?

Yes, and AFAIK, that's when most of the problems arise.
Why would anyone say online is better?

Everyone in an online relationship WANTS it to become an offline one, I assume
Reply 6
a relationship that starts online and develops into a regular one is just as valid as any other relationship I guess, but if you purely have contact online i.e. not in the real world then to be honest I wouldn't even call it a relationship, to suggest it is in some way more valid than an "offline relationship" is... kinda sily
I think so little of online relationships that I would only deign to argue about them in person.
Reply 8
Oops, clicked on the first option instead of the third.
Reply 9
the only real reason i can think so somebody having an online relationship with no physical contact, is if that person was socially impaired and was unable to face up to the reality..
Reply 10
I used to think talking and flirting with someone online was a relationship.
Then i grew up.
Reply 11
Hana_87
I used to think talking and flirting with someone online was a relationship.
Then i grew up.

so wot is an online relationship, i mean r there cirtain things that make it one?
Reply 12
amo1
so wot is an online relationship, i mean r there cirtain things that make it one?




Err yes. When you are declaring your love or feelings for someone you have never met.
Reply 13
There's no such thing as an online relationship. Sometimes it can be used as a tool to meet people which could potentially come to something in reality, but that's all surely?
Reply 14
ZigZag
There's no such thing as an online relationship. Sometimes it can be used as a tool to meet people which could potentially come to something in reality, but that's all surely?


Yeah, there's no physical contact, no going for a walk or a drink together... i personally don't believe you can get to know someone properly without doing the sorts of things you do 'offline'.
Reply 15
El Pollo Diablo
Oops, clicked on the first option instead of the third.

lol, so did I.
xXMessedUpXx
That's what gets me bout the really long distance (international) realtinships, surely at some point somethings gotta give and one party will have to move?


Yeah, I can never understand that... "long distance" as in the same country is acceptable because you'll likely end up travelling that far to uni and train fares are sometimes not that expensive... but international? Where you have a £100+ flight betwen you just to start? Plus the differences in culture which you probably don't realise when you chat online.
Reply 17
xXMessedUpXx
Is anyone in an online relationship thats now an offline relationship (seeing each other etc)?


I met my boyfriend online, but we weren't having a relationship until we met each other in real life and knew enough about each other offline to ensure that there actually was something there in reality.. although we definitely had a connection and a good communication thing going on before we met. We just didn't want to pretend that it was a bona fide relationship before we'd been in the same room!!
Reply 18
aww i meant 'offline (both have equal validity)' instead of the online version. gah.
What if you "meet" but barely talk to someone...

yet later use the uni email directory to find them and start several months of long, chatty, witty, (mostly) cheerful email dialogue...

*then* meet them.



It was very fun!