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    You're in what you consider to be a loving relationship, when your partner discovers that they are infertile and it's irreversible. How would you deal with this, and why?
    Speaking personally, I can truthfully say that it would make NO difference whatsoever. I don't consider having kids the be-all and end-all of a relationship.
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    I wouldn't end the relationship. But it's interesting, just yesterday on another board there was someone who started this very same topic only saying that they see no point in marriage if you don't have kids.
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    it wouldn't make a difference for me whatsoever.
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    (Original post by Adarah)
    I wouldn't end the relationship. But it's interesting, just yesterday on another board there was someone who started this very same topic only saying that they see no point in marriage if you don't have kids.
    Well how shallow is that? What happened to old-fashioned love and commitment?
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    (Original post by Adarah)
    I wouldn't end the relationship. But it's interesting, just yesterday on another board there was someone who started this very same topic only saying that they see no point in marriage if you don't have kids.
    ever thought about adoption? :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by bodhisattva)
    Well how shallow is that? What happened to old-fashioned love and commitment?
    you can't have love and commitment without marridge? isn't that more shallow?
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    (Original post by bodhisattva)
    Well how shallow is that? What happened to old-fashioned love and commitment?
    dunno, he told me that I was too young to comment on the subject and too naive.
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    (Original post by mik1w)
    you can't have love and commitment without marridge? isn't that more shallow?
    yes, that's a shallow view too - this guy probably doesn't think love and commitment are possible out side of marriage too.
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    (Original post by mik1w)
    you can't have love and commitment without marridge? isn't that more shallow?
    but marriage doesn't mean you MUST have kids.
    and i don't see the problem with adoption.
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    There's always adoption if you want to bring up kids, even if you can't have them yourself with your partner. Can't understand why anyone would drop someone they loved simply they couldn't have any kids with them :confused:
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    Well - what about if your partner could have kids, but told you they never, ever wanted to have any? That's also an interesting question and for some the answer may be different ...
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    (Original post by Adarah)
    Well - what about if your partner could have kids, but told you they never, ever wanted to have any? That's also an interesting question and for some the answer may be different ...
    still no difference for me.
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    (Original post by Adarah)
    Well - what about if your partner could have kids, but told you they never, ever wanted to have any? That's also an interesting question and for some the answer may be different ...
    I'd have to know why they didn't want kids. This might actualy put me off thinking about it, I'm quirte a motherly kind of person, I can't understand why someone would choose to never have children.
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    (Original post by Adarah)
    dunno, he told me that I was too young to comment on the subject and too naive.
    Hi. Can you qualify WHO it was said that to you, just in case people think it was me. Personally I think whoever DID say that to you was out of line.
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    To be honest, children are the last thing on my mind at the moment.
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    Amen to that Helenia! :afraid:
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    (Original post by mik1w)
    you can't have love and commitment without marridge? isn't that more shallow?
    Sorry - that's NOT how I intended it to come across. Of COURSE you can have love and commitment without marriage - I was trying to demonstrate that to marry with the SOLE intent of having kids is shallow imho.
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    Ask me this in about 10 years time and I might be able to tell you///
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    adoption is always an option. I would be more inclined to leave my partner if they were fertile but didnt want to have children at all to be honest!
    I cant wait, i want at least 4 mini me's lol
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    (Original post by lessthanthree)
    i couldn't care less.

    that way we could do what we wanted when we wanted, and spend our money on ourselves and not children.
    ooh good idea! maybe i might limit my idea of 4 down to just the one instead
 
 
 
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