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    Is it right for someone to use pornography when they are in a relationship?
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    I don't see the problem with it if thats what someones in to. It hardly constitutes any form of cheating. Everyone has their fantasies-theres really no harm in it.
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    Depends to what extent they use it I think...
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    I'd worry about why they were using it while in a relationship, more than the rights and wrongs.
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    It's driving me mad....I keep trying to bring the subject up with my boyfriend...how it makes me feel as though i'm "not enough" etc but he just laighs it off. I don't want to cause a row either.
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    It's all fantasy though. I can see that it could make you feel inadequate, but he's with you! I don't know, does he use it or look at it alot then?
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    Yeah the internet stuff.....I'm hoping that there are bans on these sort of things on the university internert networks lol!
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    (Original post by clairey87)
    It's driving me mad....I keep trying to bring the subject up with my boyfriend...how it makes me feel as though i'm "not enough" etc but he just laighs it off. I don't want to cause a row either.
    if it hurts you then you should tell him so, I mean, I'm not sure if you have a 'right' to ask him not to watch it or not, but I don't think that's really the point - you feel hurt, so you should try and discuss it with him and let him know how it makes you feel. Maybe if you talk about it, what he feels when he watches pornography and all that then you'll feel better about it (or if not then maybe he'll realise just how much it's hurting you and try to be more considerate of your feelings - but he can't be considerate of your feelings if he doesn't know about them). If you don't discuss it and it's a major issue to you then things can only get worse and when you do finally talk about it may be a large row. I'd say get this out of the way as soon as you can by talking about it to him...
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    I've tried but he seems to think it's a joke.
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    (Original post by clairey87)
    I've tried but he seems to think it's a joke.
    just bring it up and again and tell him you're serious - that it does hurt you (cry a bit, that may help)
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    Does he still think it's a joke when you tell him it makes you feel inadequate and makes you genuinely unhappy?
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    (Original post by clairey87)
    I've tried but he seems to think it's a joke.
    In all fairness, he probably thinks you're the joke. What's the problem with him oogling at boobies when he's by himself? If you aren't there to cater for him whenever he "needs" it, then you are going to have to give in and accept that it's important for blokes
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    Lol I have no problem with crying....I cry everytime we argue I just can't help it PLus I have no "boobies" Johnny B.
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    (Original post by clairey87)
    Lol I have no problem with crying....I cry everytime we argue I just can't help it
    I'm the same... I often start crying, I try hard not too, but just can't hold back the tears - i don't know how some men do it!
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    I don't see the problem, I woudln't mind. The porn is on a screen...not in real life. He has you but you can't be there all the time.
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    (Original post by clairey87)
    Lol I have no problem with crying....I cry everytime we argue I just can't help it PLus I have no "boobies" Johnny B.
    You have no boobies? No wonder he looks at porn all the time then! Hahaha
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    See I think it might be a case of the glandular fever + contraceptive injection making me unhappy and then making mountains out of molehills. Such a sensitive soul aren't you Johnny B?
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    If you feel strongly about it you should talk to him seriously about it, sit him down and tell him how you feel. I was in EXACTLY this position a month ago. If you want to talk about it pm me, but you do have a right to feel this way, i know what your feeling.xxx
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    (Original post by lady)
    If you feel strongly about it you should talk to him seriously about it, sit him down and tell him how you feel. I was in EXACTLY this position a month ago. If you want to talk about it pm me, but you do have a right to feel this way, i know what your feeling.xxx
    Girls you need to sit back and think about what you are saying. I can't believe you are getting upset that your bloke looks at porn hahahaa that's awful!

    PM me giving me reasons why it makes you upset. Please!
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    Well different people have different views on things
 
 
 
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