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    I don't have a huge problem with it. I mean, do you have a problem with him masturbating in general or is it just the porn side of it that bothers you? Cos men need to masturbate in a way I don't think women do (or i don't anyway), and the porn is just helping him I guess.

    Hehe, don't feel threatened by pornstars, I doubt many guys would actually want a relationship with one and its irrelevant anyway cos he's chosen you, so it's you that he wants! And ignore certain people's comments, it doesn't reflect on your skills in bed at all, some men just have higher sex drives than others.

    If he talks about it a lot or something, or if it just upsets you for some other reason then its fair enough to talk to him about it but i think it's a bit harsh to expect him to stop altogether. I think you may just need reassurance in your relationship, which any decent boyfriend will happily give you if you just let him know you need it.
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    Thanks We've talked about it today and everything is okey dokey now x x x
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    it just makes you feel inadequate, and its hurtful. talk to him tell him your serious, i did with my boyfriend and now he doesnt do it anymore/
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    (Original post by Shelbycakes)
    it just makes you feel inadequate, and its hurtful. talk to him tell him your serious, i did with my boyfriend and now he doesnt do it anymore/
    Haha, b*llocks. But optimism is good.
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    (Original post by JonnyB)
    In all fairness, he probably thinks you're the joke. What's the problem with him oogling at boobies when he's by himself? If you aren't there to cater for him whenever he "needs" it, then you are going to have to give in and accept that it's important for blokes
    That's just a load of crap.

    Anyway to the girl who started the thread! - you need to be honest with each other - it's what a relationship is about. How can you be with someone you can't be honest with? - if he cares about you he will stop - relationshops are also about compromising. Right or wrong - you need to be first and the priority - if he carries on knowing it hurts you, he can't care for you very much and I'd question the entire relationship altogether.

    He laughs it off - tell him it's not funny and you're serious - tell him to his face and be firm about it. I personally don't agree with porn fullstop and I most certainly will not have the respect I need to have for my partner, whoever he might be, if he's one who uses porn. I wouldn't like someone like that for a start, in fact. Why should he fantasise about other women? - that is cheating - cheating in the heart. And that kind is even more dangerous in a way cus people don't actually "see" it. So other people may think it's ok - but whatever, sod that, you're not ok with it. So you need to tell him and make him take you seriously. He should respect and value your opinion and shouldn't be laughing it off, tbh.

    It's no good being soft - be firm with him. Tell him it hurts you. If he carries on as though it doesn't matter, I say you rethink the entire relationship and whether or not you really should stay with him.
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    (Original post by irisng)
    That's just a load of crap.
    PORN FACTS

    Global porn industry worth £30bn - Forbes
    50%of UK population watch porn with their partner - Durex Global Sex Survey 2004
    70% of internet porn traffic occurs during work hours - University Pennsylvania

    Porn is £30bn worth of important. Deal with it.
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    (Original post by JonnyB)
    PORN FACTS

    Global porn industry worth £30bn - Forbes
    50%of UK population watch porn with their partner - Durex Global Sex Survey 2004
    70% of internet porn traffic occurs during work hours - University Pennsylvania

    Porn is £30bn worth of important. Deal with it.
    Doesn't make it right. Doesn't make it respectable. Doesn't make it ok. It degrades people and it fills people who watch/use it with lust and other indecent things. If it was so good - why don't kids watch it? You won't find parents giving their toddler kid porn - exactly why? Porn isn't right. So it's worth some money - dirty money - it's just "money" it's worth nothing more - nothing that really matters.

    I don't give a flip as to how much porn is worth - I will never agree to it nor will I have much respect for those who voluntarily use it.
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Doesn't make it right. Doesn't make it respectable. Doesn't make it ok. It degrades people and it fills people who watch/use it with lust and other indecent things. If it was so good - why don't kids watch it? You won't find parents giving their toddler kid porn - exactly why? Porn isn't right. So it's worth some money - dirty money - it's just "money" it's worth nothing more - nothing that really matters.

    I don't give a flip as to how much porn is worth - I will never agree to it nor will I have much respect for those who voluntarily use it.

    geez lighten up, just cos the establishment says its wrong does not mean it is.
    Fight the power dude

    Its up tp your value systems, you've got to understand other people have theirs. Some people don't see sex as serious as you do, if you dont like it fair enough but do not try to pass of your indoctrination by the establishment as written word because it is not.

    Those rules about age and porn e.t.c were written by humans like you and I who have faults like you and I, so there's no need to take their word as Gospel. Have your own mind :tsr:

    I'm abit tired by the way so i sound abit fu**K*E*D, but thats about the jist I think
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Doesn't make it right. Doesn't make it respectable. Doesn't make it ok. It degrades people and it fills people who watch/use it with lust and other indecent things. If it was so good - why don't kids watch it? You won't find parents giving their toddler kid porn - exactly why? Porn isn't right. So it's worth some money - dirty money - it's just "money" it's worth nothing more - nothing that really matters.

    I don't give a flip as to how much porn is worth - I will never agree to it nor will I have much respect for those who voluntarily use it.
    Are you joking? So what if it fills people with lust? That's the point of it. About the kids - that is such a dreadful argument, a pretty much open and shut case. In case you didn't realise ... actually hold on, I'll spoonfeed it. Kids don't watch porn because they don't know what their bits and bobs are there for, and you know that fully well. Don't put forward such ridiculous suggestions. What may be "dirty" money for you may be someone else’s livelihood. Cut the crap with this one-size-fits-all policy and at least comprehend the power of porn.

    And no, I'm not a fanatic.
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    (Original post by SJ No.18)
    geez lighten up, just cos the establishment says its wrong does not mean it is.
    Fight the power dude

    Its up tp your value systems, you've got to understand other people have theirs. Some people don't see sex as serious as you do, if you dont like it fair enough but do not try to pass of your indoctrination by the establishment as written word because it is not.

    Those rules about age and porn e.t.c were written by humans like you and I who have faults like you and I, so there's no need to take their word as Gospel. Have your own mind :tsr:

    I'm abit tired by the way so i sound abit fu**K*E*D, but thats about the jist I think
    Merely expressing my opinion - and yes porn is wrong. If nothing else it trashes up the people who're in it - they're worth more than that and can do way better.

    I do have my own mind lol and it is this: I don't agree with porn and never will.

    People are worth more than that. The fact that porn sells so much and that society actually thinks it's ok is saddening and appalling.
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Merely expressing my opinion - and yes porn is wrong. If nothing else it trashes up the people who're in it - they're worth more than that and can do way better.

    I do have my own mind lol and it is this: I don't agree with porn and never will.

    People are worth more than that. The fact that porn sells so much and that society actually thinks it's ok is saddening and appalling.
    Refer to my post above.
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Doesn't make it right. Doesn't make it respectable. Doesn't make it ok. It degrades people and it fills people who watch/use it with lust and other indecent things. If it was so good - why don't kids watch it? You won't find parents giving their toddler kid porn - exactly why? Porn isn't right. So it's worth some money - dirty money - it's just "money" it's worth nothing more - nothing that really matters.

    I don't give a flip as to how much porn is worth - I will never agree to it nor will I have much respect for those who voluntarily use it.
    You don't find parents giving their kids the tv remote, or a 12/15/18 rated film or their own choice of food. Why is it that if parents don't give their kids something it is automatically wrong.
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    (Original post by JonnyB)
    Are you joking? So what if it fills people with lust? That's the point of it. About the kids - that is such a dreadful argument, a pretty much open and shut case. In case you didn't realise ... actually hold on, I'll spoonfeed it. Kids don't watch porn because they don't know what their bits and bobs are there for, and you know that fully well. Don't put forward such ridiculous suggestions. What may be "dirty" money for you may be someone else’s livelihood. Cut the crap with this one-size-fits-all policy and at least comprehend the power of porn.

    And no, I'm not a fanatic.
    Those with no choice are a different case. Those who voluntarily do it - it's that I have a problem with.

    I said: PARENTS don't allow their kids to watch it - while the kids may not necessaily understand, the parents do and exactly why choose not to show the kids it - what, because the kids don't understand it? Kids don't understand a lot of things and parents selectively encourage understanding in different areas - there is a reason!

    What on earth? Comprehend the power of porn? Oh I know it's widespread and influential - but comform to it and agree with it? I don't think so. Why are you trying to convince me anyway? :confused: Surely you can tell I'm not gonna change my mind in this?

    And lust is not a good thing either - it's selfish and obsessive and posessive, none of which are good things.
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    (Original post by Luize)
    You don't find parents giving their kids the tv remote, or a 12/15/18 rated film or their own choice of food. Why is it that if parents don't give their kids something it is automatically wrong.
    No it doesn't automatically make it wrong just cus the parents choose not to allow it. But there must be a reason for not allowing it! - generally speaking, parents do want the best that they know of for their kids. While approach and what-nots may not always be right, intentions are generally speaking, good.

    Letting kids choose their own food doesn't corrupt their minds whereas porn would. I don't see why kids can't choose their own food or clothes.
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Those with no choice are a different case. Those who voluntarily do it - it's that I have a problem with.

    I said: PARENTS don't allow their kids to watch it - while the kids may not necessaily understand, the parents do and exactly why choose not to show the kids it - what, because the kids don't understand it? Kids don't understand a lot of things and parents selectively encourage understanding in different areas - there is a reason!

    What on earth? Comprehend the power of porn? Oh I know it's widespread and influential - but comform to it and agree with it? I don't think so. Why are you trying to convince me anyway? :confused: Surely you can tell I'm not gonna change my mind in this?

    And lust is not a good thing either - it's selfish and obsessive and posessive, none of which are good things.

    Lots of girls and guys want money to buy things - getting into porn pays for their contemporary lifestyles. Obviously parents don't want to encourage their kids to look at porn, because that's stupid. Kids will just find it themselves anyway, my mum didn't tell me about it, yet I still found it. Parents know their little boys will turn into testosterone filled teenagers. While you’re at it, you might as well tell your kids that they can’t have relationships, because WE (and by that, I mean I) think that teenage relationships are full of lust.

    I'm not going to try and convince you of anything, just want to make you realise that your argument is stupid. You better get used to lust; you are going to university this year!
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Letting kids choose their own food doesn't corrupt their minds whereas porn would. I don't see why kids can't choose their own food or clothes.
    I don't see why my future son can't choose between Jenna Jameson and Brianna Banks. Messed up world, ain't it!
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    Porn would be hardful to children because of their innocence. Just like you wouldn't tell a little toddler what oral sex is or any part of sex for that matter.
    However I really don't see how watching something that you do anyway is so corrupting. As long as no one is harmed in the filming (much like any other film) and no one is forced into it.
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    (Original post by Luize)
    Porn would be harmful to children because of their innocence. Just like you wouldn't tell a little toddler what oral sex is or any part of sex for that matter.
    I reckon showing children what's happened in Iraq is just as bad as showing them porn.
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    (Original post by JonnyB)
    Lots of girls and guys want money to buy things - getting into porn pays for their contemporary lifestyles. Obviously parents don't want to encourage their kids to look at porn, because that's stupid. Kids will just find it themselves anyway, my mum didn't tell me about it, yet I still found it. Parents know their little boys will turn into testosterone filled teenagers. While you’re at it, you might as well tell your kids that they can’t have relationships, because WE (and by that, I mean I) think that teenage relationships are full of lust.

    I'm not going to try and convince you of anything, just want to make you realise that your argument is stupid. You better get used to lust; you are going to university this year!
    Relationships don't necessarily have to be lustful - while it's likely to be involved at the start of a relationship, I certainly aim to love and not lust, personally.

    Porn is wrong and that's that, really. What argument you or I put forward won't ever change that - society may say it's right but that doesn't make it true.

    Why on earth would someone wanna fill their heads with porn anyway? There're better things to be filling your mind! And fantasising about sex as opposed to doing it as an act of love - it's different.

    And anyway I'm off now - gotta go back to Chemistry revision... oh the joys of polymers!
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    (Original post by irisng)
    Relationships don't necessarily have to be lustful - while it's likely to be involved at the start of a relationship, I certainly aim to love and not lust, personally.

    Porn is wrong and that's that, really. What argument you or I put forward won't ever change that - society may say it's right but that doesn't make it true.

    Why on earth would someone wanna fill their heads with porn anyway? There're better things to be filling your mind! And fantasising about sex as opposed to doing it as an act of love - it's different.

    And anyway I'm off now - gotta go back to Chemistry revision... oh the joys of polymers!
    Are you a hippy?

    I'm glad to see you concluded the argument from both of us. I guess this is the point where I reflect the error of my ways. Well good going, just wasted lots of time. I hope you walk in on a relative/future child whacking one off to some porn, that would be a good laugh for everyone.

    Good one.
 
 
 
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