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Ever getfreaked out by boyfriends/girlfriend talking about the future?

Do you ever get freaked out when your boyfriend/girlfriend talks about you and ‘your’ future? (eg. I’m talking, marriage children, kids names ect)

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Reply 1

pikaboo

Not freaked out, just cautious. I prefer to plan only a few months ahead at most, but it's nice to have something long term to aim for - especially in my case, with a long distance relationship I think both partners have to have a commitment beyond the present.

Reply 2

lady

no. its only fun chatting about things like what you'd call your kids, its not like a promise to have kids with them or anything, sometimes its nice to think of the future involving the person who you are with at the time, even if you're not sure what will happen. Its not like anykind of promising commitment or anything

Reply 3

Helenia

Both the bf and I freak out at the words "marriage" and "children" because we're so incredibly far away from that it's unbelieveable. It's nice to know that you're going somewhere but I think both of us are still not at the "this is forever" stage.

Reply 4

Ron Stoppable

Yes. Bear in mind they are infatuated and besotted. It's natural. Just don't take their sugar sweet ideas seriously and they won't either.

Reply 5

Da Bachtopus

My ex-girlfriend constantly reminded me of death, though this was more the result of her conversational skills than any desire to discuss "the future".

Reply 6

Devil Bunny

YEP thats why i posted about engagement :frown:

Reply 7

Lauren18

It unnerves me slightly... my boyfriend has said a number of things to me like that (and we haven't even been together that long) such as:

* I have a feeling we'll be getting married someday (2 months into the relationship :eek:

)

* Shall we book a holiday for next summer? (3 months into the relationship)

* My parents and my friends will like you straight away (on first date :confused:

)

It's weird... if he never mentioned the future I'd be angry, feel as if I was just a stop-gap. But even when he mentions little things, I like them at the time, but then am left thinking 'aaaahhhh! What am I doing?!'

Overall, though, I'm really happy that he feels he can say things like that to me, especially as he's the 'macho' type of guy. :biggrin:

Reply 8

misses77

My boyfriend and I always talk about the future.. we've only been together a year but we both feel as though "us" is forever. Probably sappy, n I expect people won't take us seriously but hey. I love that we both feel the same and both have something to look forward to.

Reply 9

Lucas

blah i find it hard to think directly about that kind of future with my gf...

..not because i wouldn't want it to happen..i would

...just it seems so far away and so many things will change that the likelihood is so small that will actually happen..so it's more 'let's see what happens' kinda thing

for us we're 1 yr (on the 17th june) into our relationship n im just finishing 2nd yr A-lvls n shes just finished AS

Reply 10

Agrippina

drivingrain

:dito:

Reply 11

button16

Grrrrr I have that with my boyfriend asked me how many kids I wanted!!!!

Reply 12

Helenia

I'm not marrying any man who wants to have a dog. I'm going to have a trained killer cat.

Reply 13

spoonofdeath

Cats rock. My ex wanted a pig... a pig!!!

I didn't get freaked out by her talking about the future at the start of our relationship it was sweet, but it did start to freak me out when it was mentioned all the time for several months.

Reply 14

Jayjayjay

...I think it jinxed it... :confused:

Reply 15

RetiredAccount89

Hayley_2k4

Do you ever get freaked out when your boyfriend/girlfriend talks about you and ‘your’ future? (eg. I’m talking, marriage children, kids names ect)

no, not really. that said this relationship is more a 'as we go' sort rather than 'planning as if gonna be together forever' sort.
its refreshing :smile:

Reply 16

naelse

meh, we were talking about our wedding by the 3rd date... there's no pressure though so it's all cool

Reply 17

Agrippina

Thinking back, with the first guy I dated he was talking about moving to Australia together, having a nice, cosy little cottage and a BMW together etc after like the second date. Being young and naive I fell for it and it hurt even more when he dumped me after two weeks "because he wasn't ready for a relationship". :mad:

Reply 18

Shelbycakes

one of my ex's told me he couls see us getting married and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me(i was 16), my reaction: OH MY GOD NO! but with my current boyfriend it just feels natural and it makes me happy that he wants to spend forever with me and i want to with him!

Reply 19

Kit_Kat

I think I'm the one that thinks most about the future in my relationship, my boyfriend's crap at planning what he's going to have for lunch let alone anything further into the future! :P