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    Can you seperate them...are they seperated....i've been in love 'i think', once - 24 months ago, unfortunately it wasn't reciprocated...you can be in love with someone, but not happen to be in a relationship with them after all....?

    It's odd, i never though it'd happen - it threw me for six - it was 5 weeks into term at uni, fell for the girl, it took me two weeks to courage myself up to ask her out! I'd read all the signals horrificly wrong....it's odd mind....i was sick literally....i was sick one morning because of what it was doing to me....couldn't get her out of my head, literally head-banging the wall....scarily, worringly, just dead set on hearing her voice! :eek:

    Well i asked her out, she said no, but she was cool about it...but i think she was shocked! Well she was....potentially horrified too...but i kind of got jealous....it's a pity, don't see the girl anymore, we never really did socialize together anyway, but had she known the real me, i know it's be pretty good between us - opposites attract without a shadow of a doubt...but weeks after my rejection (well rejection is a harsh word, she was nice about it....she, i had forgotten, did have a love interest of her own...), whenever she spoke to other blokes, laughed around with them, joked with them...i was jealous and i hated it, always putting on loud music on my radio when she was in convo nearby (in my bedroom i was at the time) to block out things! This was because it frustrated me and depressed me....ie." she can laugh with that lot but she can't with me" - it killed me...does anyone else share a similar experience - immense jealousy and frustration, knowing that the girl is so right for you, but sad to know that you know she doesn't know the real you..and if she did, everything would be amazing?

    Any experiences? Apologies for the rant....that has been the only time i was in love, and to be honest, it was painful. :eek:
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    I think you've got to have a bit of lust to start the love off! I mean when you in love with someone, you have to admit that its partly because you were attracted to them in the first place. (*Hopes this makes sense*)
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    (Original post by Kit_Kat)
    I think you've got to have a bit of lust to start the love off! I mean when you in love with someone, you have to admit that its partly because you were attracted to them in the first place. (*Hopes this makes sense*)
    yeh this is the case in most...well cases! lol

    but i wasnt attracted to my boyfriend (physically) before i fell in love with him, the love and attraction grew as i got to know him.
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    Cazzi - it was the same for me actually, I fell in love with my boyfriend's personality before I even knew what he looked like! (Long story!) Twas just a bonus that he doesn't look like a car wreck
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    I fell for her - mainly because she was really nice as a person...such a cool voice....god damn was that woman sophisticated, classy, voice of an angel, really attractive (subjective - beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...)....

    More than anything else...it was because she was, looked and sounded, very sophisticated and posh, really in control and sure of herself...she was really nice, not a snob or big headed...just amazing....god dammit - it took me about 6 months after me asking her out, to get her out of my head. :eek:
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    Tis nice to know that lads aren't all as superficial as the stereotype :P
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    I think that every relationship starts off with lust and grows into love as you get to know and like the person even more!
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    But if you've never been in love before how do you "know"?
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    you just do!
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    Hehe everyone who asks that question hates that answer
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    Who believes in soul mates by the way? Do you think if you ask someone out and you reeeally like them but they say no that you should just give up because it "obviously wasn't meant to be"?
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    It's totally inexplicable [especially if you're half retarded like me ]
    Oh yeh that's me
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    (Original post by Kit_Kat)
    I think you've got to have a bit of lust to start the love off!
    I disagree... I've only ever been in love with people I started going out with cos they were close friends who asked me out and I just thought what the hell I may as well give it a go cos if it works out it'll be amazing. And then I fell in love. And suddenly realised guys who'd been like brothers for years were suddenly... gorgeous to me


    If you have to ask what love feels like then you haven't been in it
    That totally all encompassing feeling that they are your world
    That maternalness that means you want to stop them ever being hurt
    Knowing that you'd give up anything for them
    When you say "I love you" because it just comes tumbling out and there's nothing you can do to stop it
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    (Original post by wizard)
    Can you seperate them...are they seperated....i've been in love 'i think', once - 24 months ago, unfortunately it wasn't reciprocated...you can be in love with someone, but not happen to be in a relationship with them after all....?

    It's odd, i never though it'd happen - it threw me for six - it was 5 weeks into term at uni, fell for the girl, it took me two weeks to courage myself up to ask her out! I'd read all the signals horrificly wrong....it's odd mind....i was sick literally....i was sick one morning because of what it was doing to me....couldn't get her out of my head, literally head-banging the wall....scarily, worringly, just dead set on hearing her voice! :eek:

    Well i asked her out, she said no, but she was cool about it...but i think she was shocked! Well she was....potentially horrified too...but i kind of got jealous....it's a pity, don't see the girl anymore, we never really did socialize together anyway, but had she known the real me, i know it's be pretty good between us - opposites attract without a shadow of a doubt...but weeks after my rejection (well rejection is a harsh word, she was nice about it....she, i had forgotten, did have a love interest of her own...), whenever she spoke to other blokes, laughed around with them, joked with them...i was jealous and i hated it, always putting on loud music on my radio when she was in convo nearby (in my bedroom i was at the time) to block out things! This was because it frustrated me and depressed me....ie." she can laugh with that lot but she can't with me" - it killed me...does anyone else share a similar experience - immense jealousy and frustration, knowing that the girl is so right for you, but sad to know that you know she doesn't know the real you..and if she did, everything would be amazing?

    Any experiences? Apologies for the rant....that has been the only time i was in love, and to be honest, it was painful. :eek:

    Wait...so you guys never really socialized??? so...you guys never really talked to each other???

    I think you're definitely getting love mixed up with lust.

    But it's ok, cause everyone has at some point in thier lives. I did for 8 months :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by jessicarabbit)
    Wait...so you guys never really socialized??? so...you guys never really talked to each other???

    I think you're definitely getting love mixed up with lust.

    But it's ok, cause everyone has at some point in thier lives. I did for 8 months :rolleyes:
    Hmmmm...maybe it was lust, i guess, brutally honest, having a girl who was attracted to me (but not in the boyfriend/love manner) made me head over heels, something i wasn't quite used to....i think there was some attraction between us, i could see her on occasions staring at me, overheard her call me 'cute' - but it wasn't the way i thought it was, so it turned out. Having a girl who showed even a little interest in me - it was flattering, but i didn't start liking her because of that....just liked her....alot.
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    (Original post by Kit_Kat)
    Tis nice to know that lads aren't all as superficial as the stereotype :P
    Jodie Marsh came to KCL's Rag Ball. Never seen such a hideous "model" before. Her face, her chest - gross. Yes I'm technically being superficial here, as we know a little about her background, but it's firmly warranted.

    Kat, I assume you're talking about first impressions based on looks. Question time: If you get to know a person by email/msn then meet them properly, would you be more concerned with:what they might think about you or your perception of them?
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    (Original post by jessicarabbit)
    Wait...so you guys never really socialized??? so...you guys never really talked to each other???

    I think you're definitely getting love mixed up with lust.

    But it's ok, cause everyone has at some point in thier lives. I did for 8 months :rolleyes:
    I hope you're not expecting me to socialise with you? :eek:

    I mean, people knowing I'm doing an American I can just about live with, but I can't have them thinking I actually like one!

    :p:
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    (Original post by feelthesunshine)
    Jodie Marsh came to KCL's Rag Ball. Never seen such a hideous "model" before. Her face, her chest - gross. Yes I'm technically being superficial here, as we know a little about her background, but it's firmly warranted.

    Kat, I assume you're talking about first impressions based on looks. Question time: If you get to know a person by email/msn then meet them properly, would you be more concerned with:what they might think about you or your perception of them?
    Both. You want to make a good impression...but only if you like them when you meet them :rolleyes: :p:
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    (Original post by kingslaw)
    I hope you're not expecting me to socialise with you? :eek:

    I mean, people knowing I'm doing an American I can just about live with, but I can't have them thinking I actually like one!

    :p:


    *jumps off cliff*

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    (Original post by feelthesunshine)
    Jodie Marsh came to KCL's Rag Ball. Never seen such a hideous "model" before. Her face, her chest - gross. Yes I'm technically being superficial here, as we know a little about her background, but it's firmly warranted.
    She did?!?!

    Damn my bitter distaste of charity!

    Jodie Marsh has a voice like she has given too many blowjobs...so I'm told...
 
 
 
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