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Reply 1
Take up drama classes or take part in a performance. It should teach you how to act and then it should help you act confident. On stage I was always really confident, but as soon as I was off I was quiet as a mouse. After acting enough in my life as if I was confident...I just became it. People seem to notice you more and pay compliments when you are confident.

What are you not confident about?
Hi
Thanks for the reply.
Drama is not my thing, any more advice?
I have been told by others (close people) aswell that I lack confidence.
In an overall way.
Thanks
Reply 3
I don't have it either, crowds, new people - scary =0(
People think you are rude when you do not speak out or are extremely quiet. That really is not the case.
Reply 4
Maybe you need people around you that make you feel good or happy that allow you to be more free and easy....?
Reply 5
Not all people think you are rude if you are quiet. I know someone who is a bit wary of quiet people...it scares them.
Reply 6
Luize
Not all people think you are rude if you are quiet. I know someone who is a bit wary of quiet people...it scares them.

I have been told so many times that I am rude and receive disapproving looks for not speaking up or joining in. Why do they find it scary?
Reply 7
It's a bit daunting...they sit there relly quiet never saying anything, but obviously stuff is going on in their brain. It's just the mystery and unknown I think.
You never heard that it's the quiet ones you need to look out for :p:
Reply 8
lookingforhelp!
Hi
Thanks for the reply.
Drama is not my thing, any more advice?
I have been told by others (close people) aswell that I lack confidence.
In an overall way.
Thanks


Who gives a **** about what they think? Just as long as you are happy, there's no need to do jack.
Reply 9
Luize
It's a bit daunting...they sit there relly quiet never saying anything, but obviously stuff is going on in their brain. It's just the mystery and unknown I think.
You never heard that it's the quiet ones you need to look out for :p:

Actually yes I can see that and have had that said of me - they think Im weird =0( and so deep in thought - spooky?? Unknown definately, I wish it was not so feared though.
Rose did Jack, in the back of a car on Titanic. Hey, how about that:

Watch how Leo plays Jack on Titanic, also see the male lead in Casablanca and Sean Connery and Pierce Brosnan in James Bond movies. You may have seen them but watch them again.

These guys radiate confidence. Absorb it.
Reply 11
feelthesunshine
Rose did Jack, in the back of a car on Titanic. Hey, how about that:

Watch how Leo plays Jack on Titanic, also see the male lead in Casablanca and Sean Connery and Pierce Brosnan in James Bond movies. You may have seen them but watch them again.

These guys radiate confidence. Absorb it.


You'd be confident if you were getting paid a grand a minute. And you would also act like a baby monkey for the same.
I specified a certain niche of films, not the bulk of the industry that does it for the money. My selection, you'll find - if you watch them looking for the traits, is quite good. There's playful and broody, yet charismatic sides to all these characters; watch for how they create that aura:

Leonardo diCaprio in Titanic
Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca
Clark Gable in Gone with the Wind
Sean Connery and Pierce Brosnan's James Bond movies
Lumiere in Beauty and the Beast
Mel Gibson in Braveheart
George Clooney in Ocean's 11
Reply 13
feelthesunshine
I specified a certain niche of films, not the bulk of the industry that does it for the money. My selection, you'll find - if you watch them looking for the traits, is quite good. There's playful and broody, yet charismatic sides to all these characters; watch for how they create that aura:

Leonardo diCaprio in Titanic
Humphrey Bogart in Casablanca
Clark Gable in Gone with the Wind
Sean Connery and Pierce Brosnan's James Bond movies
Lumiere in Beauty and the Beast
Mel Gibson in Braveheart
George Clooney in Ocean's 11


Are you actually serious?
walk infront of crowdssssssss
Reply 15
lookingforhelp!
Hi
I have lack of confidence.
I dont know what to do about it.
Your advice is greatly appreciated.
Thanks


this is what i say to poeple who ask me this and who ask me why im such a nutter.

The key to confidence is convincing yourself you know what you are doing.

IE- If you arent confident about going up to someone in a club just try it out a few times, just chatting people up, becuase these people dont need to know your name or whatever, confidence can be gotten by just telling yourself that you wont see these people again. Its easy.
i'm shy and my family just say i'm insociable and rude! :eek:
*starry_eyed_*
i'm shy and my family just say i'm insociable and rude! :eek:


lol - Im a tad quiet but im quite stubborn at times.....especially when my mum has her friends around...then she always wants me to come down and chat with them....i don't like that, sometimes i just don't do it...she just makes a fool of me, and talks about what im doing, when im in the friggin room itself! Which is patronizing, and makes me look and feel like a social inadequate in terms of communication...she means well (my mum), but i can't be doing with the cutesy cutesy, nicey nicey talk - its polite and courteous i guess....
Are you not confident in any particular situations?! I am not very confident inside but i put on a face, take a deep breath and i just walk straight into things. I think to be truly confident you have to be happy and comfortable with yourself. Surround yourself with people you feel relaxed with and practise being confident with them, then try it out in the big wide world. I'm sorry i'm not much use. Hope this helps and good luck! :smile:

xxxx