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My girlfriend keeps on calling herself ugly

...and it's doing my head in tbh because i know shes really beautiful. She just keeps on putting herself down and it really makes me feel unhappy and frustrated because she doesn't know how beautiful she really is (inside and out).

shes told me: "Lying to myself wont help me" and also shes told me she wants me to stop complimenting her because she knows it's not true.

It would be really good if she could talk to someone because i think she really needs a confidence boost :frown:

Reply 1

Neomaster121

8

just tell her "im not lieing you are beautifful and you shouldn't put yourself down... say that part seriously then jokily say "if you really were as ugly as you say you are then id have forced you to wear a paperbag by now" then seriously then say trust me you don't have to worry you have something really rare beauty both on the inside and outside then hugs

thats my advice

Reply 2

Agent A$$hat

It seems as if commenting on the things you find attractive about her only makes things worse. Not to mention it makes you feel uncomfortable. I would simply ignore her whenever she starts that self loathing nonsense.

Sounds like your girlfriend is trolling.

Reply 3

Double Agent

18

I think you need to make her feel beautiful, rather than telling her all the time. Save compliments for those special moments, and when you do compliment her dont always focus on her looks. A big part of self esteem etc is about her worth as a person, and that you love her for her mind, her sense of humour etc, rather than the way she looks and compares to other girls. Take her to a spa day or shopping, treat her to something nice and take her out for a lovely meal followed by a romantic walk. Bring the romance and mystery she always wanted growing up, it will hopefully make her feel special and loved. Sometimes when she tells you she feels bad about herself, she may just need a cuddle and someone to let it out to, that can be more important than constantly telling her the opposite of what she's saying.

Reply 4

niicro914

Ghetto_Smurf

LOL

maybe you should open your eyes and see that she is ugly... or you could put a mirror infront of her and tell her how wonderfully looking she is ... if she starts crying or doing summin dumb then leave her ass behind !! standard .-

Reply 5

matrix15

8

Tell her it's ok to feel a little broken, everybodys broken in this life, it's alright.

Reply 6

Agent A$$hat

I still say the girl is trolling. Granted we all feel like crud every now and then, but christ.

Reply 7

niicro914

agree with her and see her reaction...

Anon Fail.

I used to be this way. One day though my boyfriend said "how do you expect me to love you if you can't love yourself" or something along those lines. It worked! I feel okay about me now.

Reply 10

Tempz TB

you know what, actions speak much louder dont tell her anything, jus use ur facial expressions, and sexual expressions to make her feel good

Reply 11

kevin_123

13

Neomaster121

just tell her "im not lieing you are beautifful and you shouldn't put yourself down... say that part seriously then jokily say "if you really were as ugly as you say you are then id have forced you to wear a paperbag by now" then seriously then say trust me you don't have to worry you have something really rare beauty both on the inside and outside then hugs

thats my advice

Thats awesome advice.. you must be gay.. :p:

Reply 12

Tootles

21

Neomaster121

just tell her "im not lieing you are beautifful and you shouldn't put yourself down... say that part seriously then jokily say "if you really were as ugly as you say you are then id have forced you to wear a paperbag by now" then seriously then say trust me you don't have to worry you have something really rare beauty both on the inside and outside then hugs

thats my advice

That's pretty much what I thought. Why would a girl who is obviously very attractive not accept compliments, anyway?

Reply 13

emanuel_arsenalfc

11

Just tell her to face reality

Reply 14

Anon the 7th

shes just attention seeking

dont give/tell her what she wants then she will stop

Reply 15

danni_bella

17

Anonymous

...and it's doing my head in tbh because i know shes really beautiful. She just keeps on putting herself down and it really makes me feel unhappy and frustrated because she doesn't know how beautiful she really is (inside and out).

shes told me: "Lying to myself wont help me" and also shes told me she wants me to stop complimenting her because she knows it's not true.

It would be really good if she could talk to someone because i think she really needs a confidence boost :frown:

Can I just ask, how did you two meet?

And when you met, what did you talk about?

How did you get to become bf and gf?

I might be able to help you, but this is a weird thread tbh.

Reply 16

The Boney King of Nowhere

PICS PLZ

Sounds like she's fishing to me. A right old fisherman.

Reply 17

薇薇公主

9

Anonymous

...and it's doing my head in tbh because i know shes really beautiful. She just keeps on putting herself down and it really makes me feel unhappy and frustrated because she doesn't know how beautiful she really is (inside and out).

shes told me: "Lying to myself wont help me" and also shes told me she wants me to stop complimenting her because she knows it's not true.

It would be really good if she could talk to someone because i think she really needs a confidence boost :frown:

:vomit: she sounds too damn hypocritical! there are such kind of girls who scrutinise other girls secretly and are fond of satirising how ugly they are, who are actually beautiful.