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Widening social network

i'm just finishing my second year uni and am definitely here for another year, if not 2 if i can get on a course etc etc. I just realised though how small my social network is, and how i seem in my interests and thoughts to be drifting further away from the few really good friends i have.

Everyone seems to have formed thier own cliques and after two years they seem inpenetrable. I don't think i've taken advantage of my time here as much as i should due to sheer complacency, although i've had some good laughs don't get me wrong. do you think i should go out and try and make new friends, get invited new places and do different thing or just accept my lot knowing its all a lot of effort for one year. what do you reckon are the best means of doing this? I can think that getting a girlfriend would be one hting although i don't really want to do that, espesh after my recent breakup. this isn't meant as a wingy i'm so lonely thread, just asking for your experiences of broadening your social circle.

Reply 1

Inverurie Jones

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Join clubs, societies, anything. Worked for me.

Reply 2

amo1

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gf friends, going to parties n into town... clubs n societies is probably the easiest one

Reply 3

Ron Stoppable

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Cliques are interesting social features. The movie Mean Girls deals with them in a funny yet realistic light. You only stay out if you feel inadequate, ie if there's something they have that you haven't got.

Jay, you are a dedicated person and certainly not inadequate. Just talk to whoever you want to, chill with them, relax.

"Hi" is always a good starter, no canned pick-up lines please. It's all strawberries and cream.

Reply 4

bret

OP

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feelthesunshine

Cliques are interesting social features. The movie Mean Girls deals with them in a funny yet realistic light. You only stay out if you feel inadequate, ie if there's something they have that you haven't got.

Jay, you are a dedicated person and certainly not inadequate. Just talk to whoever you want to, chill with them, relax.

"Hi" is always a good starter, no canned pick-up lines please. It's all strawberries and cream.

I certainly don't feel inadequate. Far from it (at the risk of sounding arrogant). My problem is entering groups who have formed over two years and being able to converse on the same level.

I mean, most have formed around sports clubs. Footbal, Rugby, Hockey. i've been a bit lazy and not bothered playing any competititve sport in uni. I play a little squash and of course bodybuilding is a defining part in my life, but the latter won't help me make friends (at least the kind who keep their clothes on). Is it worth me bothering to take up someting in my third and possibly last year.

The gf thing is interesting. I really enjoyed having a gf but not wanting to sound like a horny fresher- i love being single and i'd like to make my own social network, not leach of someone else's.

Big Jay

Reply 5

Hana_87

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feelthesunshine

Cliques are interesting social features. The movie Mean Girls deals with them in a funny yet realistic light. You only stay out if you feel inadequate, ie if there's something they have that you haven't got.

Jay, you are a dedicated person and certainly not inadequate. Just talk to whoever you want to, chill with them, relax.

"Hi" is always a good starter, no canned pick-up lines please. It's all strawberries and cream.

Your so sweet. :rolleyes:

Reply 6

Saffie

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cambridgemuscle

The gf thing is interesting. I really enjoyed having a gf but not wanting to sound like a horny fresher- i love being single and i'd like to make my own social network, not leach of someone else's.

Big Jay

Exactly, make your own network. You don't have to join a ready-made group. Be friends with people you relate to from whichever types of groups they belong to. Being with a 'group' isn't the be-all-and-end-all. I'm sure then your select friends will invite you to their social events and if you make friends with their social network, cool, if not, it doesn't matter. Do whatever takes your fancy. Life is not a popularity contest. :smile:

Reply 7

Ron Stoppable

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Lu, I'm surprised. You could have stuck a wonderfully straightforward line (that you've probably heard millions of times) at the end of your post.

"life has a funny way of helping you out" anyone?

Reply 8

saz_1989

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poke fitties on thefacebook. works for me :smile:

i have 140 friends.

Reply 9

Saffie

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feelthesunshine

Lu, I'm surprised. You could have stuck a wonderfully straightforward line (that you've probably heard millions of times) at the end of your post.

"life has a funny way of helping you out" anyone?

"And life has a funny way of helping you out when
You think everything’s gone wrong and everything blows up
In your face"

prob not what your after tho :smile:

Reply 10

Ron Stoppable

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I was being selective :rolleyes:

Support the dude asking the question!

Reply 11

bret

OP

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Lozza

poke fitties on thefacebook. works for me :smile:

i have 140 friends.

I'm lagging sadly behind, but then i only allow beautiful people on mine. How come you've not poked me. I'm, hurt.

Reply 12

joshdajoker

1

You bodybuild cambridge? Please tell me you dont endorse the atkins diet which you suggested to someone else.

Reply 13

Ron Stoppable

14

*whispers to Jay*: don't tell him, shhh

Reply 14

bret

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joshdajoker

You bodybuild cambridge? Please tell me you dont endorse the atkins diet which you suggested to someone else.

if you wanna lose weight and are not gonna stick to a regime for long then yes i do. It's gonna be muscle you lose but if you fit in the ball dress then i'm sure most girls can put up with that.