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Dating a shy virgin guy- what to do watch

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    hello all.

    thanks to all you people who convinced me to pull this hot thai guy in the library.

    however he is a shy virgin and keeps cancelling dates at the last minute, unless i force him to go. however when he does go, when we are alone together he is great, but very shy and has never had a gf. he says he does really want us to be together, and he emails me lovely stuff but in reality he is shy.basically it seems i have to make all the moves as he has no experience.

    anyone have any tips ? also anyone know any good restaurants to go on a date, or anywhere i can take him on a date?

    i have never taken out a guy before- the guys i had been out with tend to make the moves so i have no idea.

    thanks folks. if i ever marry the guy, tsr is invited to the wedding
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    Try using your finger. He'll tell you what he likes
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    perhaps i didnt make it clear. he has never been out with anyone before ever.

    i was kind of looking for advice for restaurants to take him to, places to go on dates etc
    normally my bfs take me out a couple times, then after that most of our dates they cook dinner for me, i go round and we watch movies togeter. we just generally do stuff together. but now i have to be the main mover here and i havent done this before.

    i also had the stereotypical image that all guys were up for it, virgin or not. clearly i was wrong
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    (Original post by magiccarpet)
    however he is a shy virgin and keeps cancelling dates at the last minute, unless i force him to go.
    Do you beat on him if he doesn't?

    Seriously, just treat him gently and take it fairly slowly.
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    get him drunk i am sure he won't be shy then
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    You'll enjoy this then. It'll be a challenge. Use the internet to find good restaurants around your area etc. Force his ass to come out, then after the 5th date or something - take him back to yours/his, and jump him.

    Not too hard.
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    (Original post by RichardAnderson)
    get him drunk i am sure he won't be shy then
    lmao, sorry can't help it.

    I'm sure he will come around soon
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    Hmmm just do whatever your ex(es) did for you?
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    no you dont understand. he doesnt drink/smoke/dance at clubs or parties.
    my bfs take me for dinner then a club, but i cant do that here.

    i mean, no dancing/drinking/smoking rules out most clubs/bars/pubs.
    the main thng is im a bit shy of making all the moves- im certain this is how men must feel!

    anyone what restaurants can you particularly recommend for dates?
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    McDonalds is usually a good bet. He will be to shy to make conversation anyway so it dosn't matter that you won't be able to hear a damn thing.

    Joking aside why not just go shopping or go into the countryside or somthing?
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    (Original post by ChocoVet)
    Hmmm just do whatever your ex(es) did for you?
    yes but thats not the same- i only had one main ex, and for the first few dates it was proper dating- we went out for a pizza, movie, club, pub, then after those we spent most dates round each others.

    here i cant take him clubbing/pubbing, and movies arent good to get to know someone.
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    (Original post by magiccarpet)
    anyone what restaurants can you particularly recommend for dates?
    Come to my restaurant. If you are near Kingston.
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    Well it must be frusrating not knowing what to. If it was me I'd make surprise trips places that he can't get out of.
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    (Original post by magiccarpet)
    yes but thats not the same- i only had one main ex, and for the first few dates it was proper dating- we went out for a pizza, movie, club, pub, then after those we spent most dates round each others.

    here i cant take him clubbing/pubbing, and movies arent good to get to know someone.
    As JonnyB said, do an internet search on the restaurants in your area. It also depends on your (and his) budget. Don't think there are any restaurants that are 'bad' for dating, just pick one that you guys want to try out.

    Coffee shops are great places to have a date, too. Good for conversation and stuff.

    Seriously, don't stress out too much about it
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    Go on walks together, go swimming, find out what he's intested in and do them with him.
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    im so glad i wasnt born a man, i never imagined the worries they must have until now !

    choosing the restaurant is hard- i dont want anywhere too cheap/loud/expensive/intimate/crowded. my ex lived in a different area, so i used to travel down to see him.

    what restaurants have you been to on dates recently?
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    go on a picnic
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    (Original post by magiccarpet)
    what restaurants have you been to on dates recently?
    Where do you live?
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    (Original post by magiccarpet)
    im so glad i wasnt born a man, i never imagined the worries they must have until now !
    u know im glad i wasnt born female, for the same reasons :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by ChocoVet)
    As JonnyB said, do an internet search on the restaurants in your area. It also depends on your (and his) budget. Don't think there are any restaurants that are 'bad' for dating
    Except maybe a Hooters restaurant in the US.
 
 
 
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