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    I know this is an issue that effects lots of us, but I expect alot of you will have this to come and some may think this post is late as its been 3 months, yadda yah.
    But throughout education I've had expectations upon us and a what next, what next- with certain choices pushed my way.
    But now although I have a full time job (in a restaurant- despite saying I will never work around food again) and volunteer at a primary school and am constantly in contact with people. I feel very lost and like I've failed as I don't know where I'm going or what I particularity want to do- which majorly depresses me.

    The issues being: My friends have gone back to uni as they took a gap year before, have gone travelling, have taken a post grad course or are working in a different part of the country.
    So I'm stuck with feeling lonely and have forgotten how to socialise from the beginning- outside of education.

    My feeling of failure, means I don't respond to people on Facebook as they're all appear to be achieving and that in itself depresses me.
    My interesting plans won't happen for a year (Travelling- when I eventually get enough: poss TEFL?)

    So I guess what I'm asking is what advice or suggestions have you got for my post-uni life of fulfillment or acceptance!
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    I am in exactly the same position, only minus the job! It really is the worst feeling ever, all my friends have either got another year left at uni or have gone back to do postgrads because they've managed to get science/business funding or have rich parents. I don't do science or have rich parents so it's totally rubbish!

    I'm in a catch-22 of having not enough experience or money to do anything I really want so am stuck in a dead end town where 99% of the job vacancies are for
    call centre workers or social workesr, and can't afford to move out because I had to max out my overdraft at uni as my loan didn't cover my rent.

    Sorry, I've offered no practical advice at all there but it felt good to get that off my chest to someone who's in the same boat! I guess we've just got to stay positive and know that things will turn around eventually, it's just easier said than done...
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    (Original post by magic_unicorn)
    My feeling of failure, means I don't respond to people on Facebook as they're all appear to be achieving and that in itself depresses me.
    My interesting plans won't happen for a year (Travelling- when I eventually get enough: poss TEFL?)

    So I guess what I'm asking is what advice or suggestions have you got for my post-uni life of fulfillment or acceptance!
    There's your problem.
    If you're blocking people out because you're jealous that they're more successful than you are, you're not going to make friends and find ways to improve your situation.
    Plan a night out with people you work with, perhaps, or join a club that'll allow you to meet people with similar interests to yourself.
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    I had a taste of this kind of life over the summer- I worked a horrible 8 hours a day- 7 days a week for two months. It just made me think how I don't want to graduate- try booking a mini holiday or a gig or something- always have something to look forward to- even if it's only something small like going to the cinema. Make as many new friends as possible!!! Make friends with other grads living near you- you always have a lot in common!
 
 
 
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