Just after some views on this, discussion with mates last night came to the conclusion i'm picky as im scared of getting hurt, whether its today..tomorrow..or 15 years down the line, im scared of someone leaving me, and being left alone, the idea of marriage, or making a serious commitment scares me- you're investing so much, what if something happens!
Its obviously a thing i should probably get over, as its not healthy or normal, but I dont know how you can do that, other than..just do it, the idea of moving in with someone, makes me feel sick! I'm seeing someone new now, and there is already a minor problem (we're both busy with work at the moment, i've been doing nights this week, and next week he's got a deadline and coming late from work, plus he does sports most nights) and im reading far too much into it!
Any ideas, how to deal with being this sort of person, or is it one of those 'you'll grow out of it' things?
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- Thread Starter
- 11-10-2009 23:39
- 11-10-2009 23:44
I think it's just something you've got to face. I was scared of having a bf, but I took the plunge and took a major risk and it's paid off.
Sometimes you've just got to take a deep breath and follow your heart. Running away only makes things more difficult in the long term. You'll soon find out that even if you do get hurt, it's not life threatening and you can learn from it and move on. Surely that's better than living your life permanently asking 'what if?'.
- CV Helper
- 12-10-2009 00:18
In order to learn you need to take risks. Sometimes they work out and sometimes they don't, but we all learn from our experiences and mistakes. I'd say you'll just 'know' when it's the right thing to do. Also, don't be worrying about living together etc just yet! Take things slowly and only do things like that when you're comfortable.
- 12-10-2009 00:24
Pain in the pursuit of a desirable objective is only beneficial.