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    Hi, I had a really long piece to say to you but i've opted for the short but cheerful way of putting this.

    Is it wrong, 3 years into a relationship to feel you'd rather be with someone else? I wonder whether i love my girlfriend or the luxuries i get with my girlfriend, such as hugs, kisses, meaning something to someone.

    She has done nothing directly wrong and i love being with her, but regulary now i keep wondering what it'd be like to call someone elses name, to kiss someone elses lips, to hear a different voice down the phone line.

    This is my first ever relationship and i dont like the thought of going my whole life with only ever being with 1 person... Not physically i might add, i really dont care about that atm.
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    I get that it's a difficult thing to do, but have you talked to your gf about this? If it's her first relationship too chances are the same thoughts could have crossed her mind. Plus if you don't talk about it you'll only obsess over the idea more and that'll just make the situation worse.

    My first relationship lasted about 3 and a half years, and by the end of it, we were completely different people from when we first started going out. I think in all honesty, we both just got comfy and got used to things being the way they were, until eventually we saw sense and realised we should at least take some time apart to see if we'd be any happier that way.
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    Yes i have talked to her about it. One thing i'm not afraid to do is talk to her about these things, unfortunately the same cannot be said for me. When i do ask if she has ever thought about being with someone else she says no... she even says she doesn't fancy anyone else in terms of looks... which imo is impossible to not like the look of someone else atleast.

    I approach the subject of maybe going seperate ways and she starts closing up and just doesn't answer my questions etc which in turn annoys me so i get angry so the subject dies off and we wont mention it again.
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    Yeah I know what you mean, you can't not find other people attractive, it's just not possible. It's a shame she won't just admit to liking how other people look, it's not like there's anything wrong with it.

    You're obviously not entirely happy, and it's not something that'll just go away by itself. I mean you might not be right for each other at all, but it could be that you are and you just need a bit of time to experience being single and enjoying it before you can settle down. Either way there's nothing wrong with wanting to at least take a bit of time out. Just try not to get annoyed when she goes quiet because she's gonna react that way no matter how you bring it up, and just explain to her that you want some time apart and her sitting there in silence isn't going to change how you feel. It's never an easy thing to talk about but it does need to be done.
 
 
 
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