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    Hmm.. try telling him explicitly why they're not objects of attraction for you? Stuff like, "they think fart jokes are amusing" or "X is a blonde, while I only fancy brunettes like YOU!!"

    On the other hand, you've made it clear from your post that he knows how his reactions make you feel, yet he persists with them. His reactions would be understandable if you HAD done something wrong, yet you haven't! So from the way it looks to me, he's just being bad to you based on his own insecurities, when he knows he's making you feel awful. Do you really want to be with someone who's deliberately making you feel bad?
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    (Original post by Chris.)
    Did i say "all guys who only have female friends are gay"? No, i said in my experience, the majority of them turn out to be.

    It's not in any way an insult to these people, i'm not homophoebic in the slightest.

    It's so obvious that i'm in the right, hopefully some of the more honest peple on here will back me up, maybe it is technically a "stereotype" but i think it's ignorant of people to think that certain stereotypes have no factual grounds.

    White men can't sprint, when was the last time you saw an all english sprinter with a realistic chance of winning anything at a championship? It's not disrespectful to white people, it's just a fact of life.

    The majority of guys who only have female friends turn out to be gay, fract of life.

    Being PC does NOT give you any moral highground, stop being so naive.
    Well, I only know two guys who have only girls as friends - one of them is gay, the other is not. But she never said that these two only have girls as friends, I mean, they are friends with each other and she is just one girl... eh... see what I mean? I don't want to get into the debate on whether or not men who have platonic girl friends are very often homosexual or not, but I just don't think that with the information on their situation you could really say that they might be homosexual... because as I said, one guy I know who has nearly only female friends fancies men, but I know loads of guys who have one or two close female friends (as opposed to loads) and they are not gay.
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    Your boyfriend should just deal with it
    There are plenty of guys who can and he shouldn't be making you unhappy
    Pretty much all my friends are guys and guess what if a guy can't deal with it he gets kicked to the curb
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    (Original post by Bekaboo)
    Your boyfriend should just deal with it
    There are plenty of guys who can and he shouldn't be making you unhappy
    Pretty much all my friends are guys and guess what if a guy can't deal with it he gets kicked to the curb
    TO THA CURB GIRLFRIEND!

    :rofl:
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    Hehe yeh i can't pull that phrase off can i al?
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    Why don't you have a sit-down-talk with him? Listen to him - why is he jealous? There must be a reason. Why is he angry etc? Then explain to him your side, reassure him that you don't find your friends attractive at all. The guy obviously feels threatened - so be straight with him. Be straight, be harsh - just give him the truth - tell him he has no reason to be jealous etc etc. Maybe make a deal with him? - continue to socialise with your friends, but maybe tell him when you are? - not to say report to him everything you do with your friends, but just a word to let him know, maybe talk to him about your outings with your friends. Although be careful with doing this cus you can't give him the impression that he has a "right" to know exactly what you're up to etc - but simply to it to the extent that shows you've got nothing to hide.

    A good relationship is based on mutual trust and if this proceeds... I mean this could cause a break-up - and personally I think if he's gonna carry on being unreasonably jealous and controlling, I wouldn't put up with it I say break up with him. But only after trying to work things out.

    All the best

    Oh and a note - do NOT sacrifice your friends for your boyfriend. Never ever do that. Friends stay with you forever - boyfriends come and go. Someone with whom you're in a good lasting relationship with would be both boyfriend AND friend - friendship is always the more important one I think.
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    I have no female best friends or anything. Although I am friendly with my mates gfs and other girls I've grown up with. But I don't go to them for anything other than a perv or small convo :P

    The ex, who I just started talkin to...she is 'goin out' with one lad yet is in town today with another. I said to her how do you think the other lad is gonna feel? She said she doesn't care. BTW she was seein someone else when we were goin out, she's stuck in a rut of doin the same shiat. Also she still wants me, but I am not going to go out with a girl who is going out with a diff lad every chuffin week. She also has other lad 'friends' that phone her at night and ****.

    Anyway, not saying that's how it is with you PinkPigeon but there are some girls, like said girl, who have lots of lad friends and mess around, or make it appear that they are. And I think also most lads with female friends, and definitely those with exclusively female friends, are gay.

    Your bf, pigeon maybe needs to grow up but I find it hard if girls have lads as mates, and are a bit too pally :P
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    (Original post by eurasianfeline)
    i have many of my closest friends who are guys. in fact, sometimes i prefer talking to them because girls' *****ings, as we all know, are quite a pain in the butt, and my guy friends are lot more honest and straight-forward to me.

    strangely though, apart from 1 guy who's an year older than me, all the others are at least 10 years older. :rolleyes: i find my guy friends really mature and i get along with them really well. my ex used to be ridiculously jealous of the guy friend who's my age, and sometimes he would even get jealous of my older guy friends which made me laugh. :rofl:

    my bf hasn't said complained about my guy friends at all, and i guess it was just my ex being a butthead. :mad: :p:
    cause i trust you. nd i know you trust me enough to know i wouldnt do that either! :love:

    yeah its all about trust (for the original poster) ... ur bf is uncertain of ur friends because he is not sure whether he can trust you. try and reassure him that you wouldnt cheat on him... and mean when u say it obviously!

    i am not saying i didnt get jealous when my ex or gf, hangs out with other guys... everyone feels "threatened". its all about trusting your partner, once you've established that, things will get a lot more easier.
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    (Original post by Adarah)
    Well, I only know two guys who have only girls as friends - one of them is gay, the other is not. But she never said that these two only have girls as friends, I mean, they are friends with each other and she is just one girl... eh... see what I mean? I don't want to get into the debate on whether or not men who have platonic girl friends are very often homosexual or not, but I just don't think that with the information on their situation you could really say that they might be homosexual... because as I said, one guy I know who has nearly only female friends fancies men, but I know loads of guys who have one or two close female friends (as opposed to loads) and they are not gay.
    Yeah that's a fair point, i just mentioned it as it's a possibility, it wasn't meant to come across as though i was sure they were gay. The person who got angry was in the wrong hence my second post, that was more of a general argument against PC people than having any relevance to this thread
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    (Original post by Chris.)
    Yeah that's a fair point, i just mentioned it as it's a possibility, it wasn't meant to come across as though i was sure they were gay. The person who got angry was in the wrong hence my second post, that was more of a general argument against PC people than having any relevance to this thread
    Thats actually quite funny...one of them told me that he has a boyfriend today...what a conincidence...but Eurasianfeline is right it's not the majority of guys who have female friends because in todays society it seems to me that the majority of people have a mixed group of friends.
    Thanks for your advice everybody :tsr:
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    A dodgy situation you have here - really depends on both parties imo. Maybe sit down and talk to you boyfriend and assure him that nothing could possibly happen between you and either of your two other friends. He's probably insecure of his position in your relationship. I'm sure he doesn't want to lose you.

    I suppose you have to try and look at the situation from his viewpoint if the roles were reversed. Say if he had two female friends, like yourself, who were equally as close - how would you feel/react? Could you honestly say you'd accept it without any concerns? I can see where he's coming from, I'd presume he doesn't trust the other boys' intentions maybe, that or maybe he feels you're spending more time with them than him.

    Although you probably do spend a lot of time with your boyfriend, from his perspective it may seem like a majority of the time you're with the other two. Maybe explain the situation to your friends and plan a mini trip/holiday or some extended time with your boyfriend and really assure him that nothing'll happen.

    However, that said, if he's still acting like that after some time it might come to rethinking the two relationship scenario - if he can't trust you with other friends and people, then something has to be said.

    Hmm, I've read through most of the replies and it's pretty sad to see some limit the situation to just men - women would equally act as dominating or jealous in the situation.
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    Slightly irrelevant...

    I noticed you went to Q E Boys, Wot did you think of Dr. Wilmott??

    Cheers
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    Tell him to get off your back or you'll chuck him
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    ya, good idea - give him ultimatum so hopefully he'd get his thing outta his (or some other girl's) arse - figuratively speaking of course.
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    lol, you could always get one of your friends to hit on him to take the piss, but something tells me that won't be welcomed warmly.:P

    I mean, I could maybe see it from his POV if he knew you were attracted to him before, to an insecure person that could probably qualify them as exes even, no matter how long ago you were infatuated with them. But I mean, if he's not stopping to the point at which you feel guilty socialising with your best friends, then you've got to sort it as soon as possible. He's amking you feel bad unneccesarily, and an ultimatum is a good idea to be direct about it, no beating about the bush.

    Even if he's joking, it's affecting you badly. Good luck
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    He sounds jelous of your male friends
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    He sure does, I guess it's a matter of speaking to both parties and try to put aside some time - maybe over the summer - to spend totally with your boyfriend

    To Book, yep, just finishing QE this year - never had Wilmott as a teacher so can't really comment.
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    my bf did the sameish....although he isnt as controlling anymore
    before i got with him i had such a close relationship with one of my male mates, and it was so ahrd to change that for my bf, but if i kept it going he wouldve ended up getting really concerned (as it was a very flirty relationship)

    everythings ok now, he knows i love him and only him...

    i dont blame him for being protective, but try and make him understand that they are like brothers to you. hes going to have to accept the fact that he cannot controll EVERYTHING about ur life....

    and he needs to trust u...
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    (Original post by PinkPigeon)
    Thats actually quite funny...one of them told me that he has a boyfriend today...what a conincidence...but Eurasianfeline is right it's not the majority of guys who have female friends because in todays society it seems to me that the majority of people have a mixed group of friends.
    Thanks for your advice everybody :tsr:
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    (Original post by jbcubed3)
    He sure does, I guess it's a matter of speaking to both parties and try to put aside some time - maybe over the summer - to spend totally with your boyfriend

    To Book, yep, just finishing QE this year - never had Wilmott as a teacher so can't really comment.
    Lucky man!
 
 
 
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