Whats your relationship with your flatmates like?

I moved into halls late (last week) and I'm fine being away from home, I'm not overly homesick and have settled in fine but I wondered what everyone elses flatmates are like as it seems here, in my flat of 10 that during the day it is dead, only 3-4 of my flatmates emerge during the day in the kitchen, and at night its quite busy around dinner time in the kitchen then everyone drifts off.

I'm feeling a little bit paranoid I'm not making enough effort to get to know everyone, yet they never seem to be around often, I appreciate everyone has lectures/seminars and work to be getting on with but I know at any one time, half of us aren't in our rooms so I'm finding it a bit strange.

So is this the same for everyone?

Reply 1

K1W1

When you've got free time, or the kitchen is free, take your work into the kitchen and do it in there, somebodies bound to come in in that time and just strike up a conversation and get to know them, if they bugger off mid conversation then it's their problem, theres bound to at least one out of the ten that will want to stay and get to know you considering you've just moved in.

Mine:

ROOM A: Lovely girl, very talkative, always up for a laugh her and ROOM D are the people I've been closest to since I've been here and we're normally the only three that use our kitchen much. Always talk to eachother when we see eachother, stick around and have a conversation in the kitchen etc. Her and ROOM D, plus people from other flats are who we go out with.

ROOM B: Me.

ROOM C: Seems nice enough, hardly ever see her though as she has friends elsewhere and always seems to be with them, don't talk to her a great deal really.

ROOM D: Really nice girl, much like ROOM A, very nice to talk to, helps out a lot with cleaning etc., just genuinly nice, her and ROOM A are definitely the two who I can talk to comfortably. See ROOM A really.

ROOM E: Stays in his room. Comes out to cook dinner when we're all gone about 11/12 even 1amish sometimes, never know what to talk about when I do see him so it's more of a "how's your day been?, You in tomorrow?" type conversation. We each see him probably a maximum of two/three times a week and thats only for a couple of minutes. He even has squash in his room so he doesn't need to go to the kitchen unless he needs to cook food. Seems nice and polite enough, just isn't getting involved much atm.

Reply 2

samiz20891

To a certain extent yes, I mean at freshers at halls, people were hanging out more getting to know each other but since freshers the only time I see most people is during dinner or occasionally in the corridor. It is worse at the weekends as there are a lot of people gone home and you feel very isolated and that even though I am sharing a room with a roommate who is always out or sleeping... Tbh he is still sleeping, he didnt go out and missed all his lectures/tutorials... I think though you have got to make a little effort to know everyone as you have only been there a week missed freshers where people are more open and nicer and a lot of people are easier to know during that time.

Good luck, hope this helps.

Reply 3

Aranyani

I'm living in a house with my flatmates from last year :smile:

but trust me, in your first year you rarely have the same group of friends at the end of the year so get out and meet other people too (societies, sports, course etc) if your flatemates are a bit crap x

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