how to convince parents to let my boyfriend stay over?

From the way they have let him stay when they are away, and that they have no problem you staying with him, it just seems they don't want to be in the house should you have sex - psychologically that can be rather weird for parents. (even if in this case it's more for logistics, which is absolutely fine). Perhaps explain that to them.

But if they say no, after you've been that candid, I would leave it. I know that can be annoying at 19, especially when you have the freedom you already possess, but it's only one night and not worth risking it if a big hoohaa were to develop.

I think it is the sex thing - which is why ive suggested sleeping with the door open, im not trying to con them, we really wont have sex, I think itd be weird for me aswell with them next door...

good advice although its tempting to make a hoohaa. lol

Hotel room?

I think the door open thing is going the right way about it. The hoohaa thing is that I've seen one or two peeps get into a tizz and all of a sudden the parents use it to justify why he can't stay with "Oh well you've proved you're not acting like an adult throwing a tantrum" etc. It may not be correct per se but if they're determined they will use it. So don't give them it.

You seem to have a very open and cordial relationship with your mum. Maybe take her aside without your dad and reiterate as bluntly as you can that you will not have sex. You're 19, you're in a stable relationship, and sleeping in the same bed does not always equate to sex; he is staying because you have things to do the following day and it makes practical sense.

Rationalise it that way and you may get some luck. But do stick to it.

If it really is the sex they're worried about, could you maybe make up a bed for him elsewhere in the house? They might feel differently if you're in separate rooms (assuming you have the space!).

yeah in my bed, ive even suggested we sleep with the door open, if they are that concerned.

I do understand that itd be weird for them, but I stay at his so often and they know hes here whenever they go away, just for practicalities sake itd make sense for him to stay!

I have quite a good relationship with my mum too, I dont know why she doesnt trust me with this.

punky rocker - I could try the 'why dont you trust me ' face.

How about the Motel, or even the Holiday Inn?

if it was just an issue of us sleeping together thatd be fine, but it doesnt make sense to me that my parents would rather have us spend money at a hotel rather than him just stay here when he has work early the next morning.

parents. *sigh*

I think I should get you to convince them!

ive just tried to speak to her again and its making me quite angry that she doesnt trust me so I just left it.

because its going to be a family thing, we'd both be downstairs all night, til my mum and dad go bed, then we'd go up to bed and sleep with the door open. They can put a baby monitor in here if they want! lol.