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    I can't get it out of my head that i'm too fat to where my stupid prom dress and go to the prom. i was ok about how i loked and didn't think i was that big (size 14) but someone spent most of the last few days pointing out that i've put on weight and "in certain light you do look kind of fat" etc. I know the only reason they are saying it (ok, aside from teh fact i now reckon they are ashamed of the way i look) is that they are genuinely concerned that i don't eat healthly and i agree, i don't.
    But i've always had issues with my weight, at my biggest i was a size 16, but wheni had my depression really bad i was down to a size 10, (mainly cos i had no appitie)
    It's bothering me so much i don't want to eat, all i can think is that i'm too fat and unhealthy and need to lose weight. and i know its not healthy to not eat but it not as bad if i'm just cutting out teh crap and eating less?
    Sorry. It's going to be my last chance to see everyone before we go our separate ways to uni etc this summer, but i don't want to be remebered as being like this. jus the thought of eating makes me feel like **** and i don't wnat to wear clothes that show any of me. like today i'm wearing the baggiest jeans i could find and a big tshirt.
    sorry this is too long, i just dont know what to do :confused:
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    (Original post by xXMessedUpXx)
    but someone spent most of the last few days pointing out that i've put on weight and "in certain light you do look kind of fat" etc. I know the only reason they are saying it (ok, aside from teh fact i now reckon they are ashamed of the way i look) is that they are genuinely concerned that i don't eat healthly and i agree, i don't.
    that person is bang out of order... ok they may be concerned for you but thy didn't need to say it like that. a 14 is hardly fat.. my mate is a size 18 and she found a lovely dress that looked gorgeous. how will you feelif you don't go to the prom? you won't have the memories everyone else will and you may regret not going. its only for one night hun and you won't be the only one feeling self-conscious. when i went o my prom, everyone was mre concerned with how they looke, than what other people looked like.
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    hey, don't listen to anyone saying that you've put on weight, when i went to my prom, everyone, including the girl that was really big, still looked beautiful, and everyone said she did. you soon forget about it, and no one cares after like the first hour because they are all having such a good time. Be proud of who you are thats the way you're friends see you, and your friends don't care whether you could be 25 stone over weight, but because of who you are. so don't let it get you down. take care
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    a size 14 is not fat!!!!!! you've got curves flaunt them hunny dont let people put ya down, just get a dress that flatters them and ya will knock them dead darlin dont ****in worry about what others think, its how you feel and how comfortable you feel, you'll be the belle of the ball xoxo
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    Don't be so vain and go. You'll enjoy yourself.
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    (Original post by xXMessedUpXx)
    I can't get it out of my head that i'm too fat to where my stupid prom dress and go to the prom. i was ok about how i loked and didn't think i was that big (size 14) but someone spent most of the last few days pointing out that i've put on weight and "in certain light you do look kind of fat" etc. I know the only reason they are saying it (ok, aside from teh fact i now reckon they are ashamed of the way i look) is that they are genuinely concerned that i don't eat healthly and i agree, i don't.
    But i've always had issues with my weight, at my biggest i was a size 16, but wheni had my depression really bad i was down to a size 10, (mainly cos i had no appitie)
    It's bothering me so much i don't want to eat, all i can think is that i'm too fat and unhealthy and need to lose weight. and i know its not healthy to not eat but it not as bad if i'm just cutting out teh crap and eating less?
    Sorry. It's going to be my last chance to see everyone before we go our separate ways to uni etc this summer, but i don't want to be remebered as being like this. jus the thought of eating makes me feel like **** and i don't wnat to wear clothes that show any of me. like today i'm wearing the baggiest jeans i could find and a big tshirt.
    sorry this is too long, i just dont know what to do :confused:
    When is your prom?
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    (Original post by xXMessedUpXx)
    I can't get it out of my head that i'm too fat to where my stupid prom dress and go to the prom. i was ok about how i loked and didn't think i was that big (size 14) but someone spent most of the last few days pointing out that i've put on weight and "in certain light you do look kind of fat" etc. I know the only reason they are saying it (ok, aside from teh fact i now reckon they are ashamed of the way i look) is that they are genuinely concerned that i don't eat healthly and i agree, i don't.
    But i've always had issues with my weight, at my biggest i was a size 16, but wheni had my depression really bad i was down to a size 10, (mainly cos i had no appitie)
    It's bothering me so much i don't want to eat, all i can think is that i'm too fat and unhealthy and need to lose weight. and i know its not healthy to not eat but it not as bad if i'm just cutting out teh crap and eating less?
    Sorry. It's going to be my last chance to see everyone before we go our separate ways to uni etc this summer, but i don't want to be remebered as being like this. jus the thought of eating makes me feel like **** and i don't wnat to wear clothes that show any of me. like today i'm wearing the baggiest jeans i could find and a big tshirt.
    sorry this is too long, i just dont know what to do :confused:
    I am a size 14 and I admit to being rather aprehensive about getting a prom dress. Last year was a disastor as I wore something really unflattering (as it was a great dress) so this year I have tried to get something that will hopefully show off curves and all that. I understand how important it is to feel good at prom and have a fun. I know that there will be lots of stick thin size 6 pretty little people in low cut backless dresses which if I wore I would look hideous but I hope I shall feel like great in what I wear. Honestly anyone who remembers you as being "fat" and not for the person you are is a person that doesn't even deserve to be remembered. I certainly won't be thinking back about anyone who is mean about how I look next week. Lastly and most importantly be confident. It may be difficult but if you cover up in something baggy and try to hid your figure will look worse. Try to show off your best bits and feel good about who you are. If you look confident and happy then thats what people will remember!!
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    (Original post by xXMessedUpXx)
    I can't get it out of my head that i'm too fat to where my stupid prom dress and go to the prom. i was ok about how i loked and didn't think i was that big (size 14) but someone spent most of the last few days pointing out that i've put on weight and "in certain light you do look kind of fat" etc. I know the only reason they are saying it (ok, aside from teh fact i now reckon they are ashamed of the way i look) is that they are genuinely concerned that i don't eat healthly and i agree, i don't.
    But i've always had issues with my weight, at my biggest i was a size 16, but wheni had my depression really bad i was down to a size 10, (mainly cos i had no appitie)
    It's bothering me so much i don't want to eat, all i can think is that i'm too fat and unhealthy and need to lose weight. and i know its not healthy to not eat but it not as bad if i'm just cutting out teh crap and eating less?
    Sorry. It's going to be my last chance to see everyone before we go our separate ways to uni etc this summer, but i don't want to be remebered as being like this. jus the thought of eating makes me feel like **** and i don't wnat to wear clothes that show any of me. like today i'm wearing the baggiest jeans i could find and a big tshirt.
    sorry this is too long, i just dont know what to do :confused:
    If you are concerned that your caloriphic intake may be unhealthy, then just keep a diary of everything you eat for the next seven days, and then go and see your GP with it. He/she is best placed to advise you on your diet and if any changes need to be made. IGNORE advise from unserious amaturers. - I doubt the person who said "in certain light you do look kind of fat" neither had enough medical knowledge nor knew enough about your diet to make such claims. I think it highly likely that she is simply jealous of your curvy figure. Go to the prom and show off your beautiful figure in another dress if required. Make the most of it! Have fun!
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    Going to a prom is about having a good time with all ur mates as u may not see them again for quite a while.
    You should not worry about these types of things now and u its making u less confident in urself.
    U should think right, im going to the prom and i will make it a day to remember.
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    she is size 14? she doesn't look anything like it - she looks stunning!
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    (Original post by Muz)
    she is size 14? she doesn't look anything like it - she looks stunning!
    agreed she looks very pretty but i would have said she looks bigger than a size 14?!
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    I've seen pics of girls from the prom here-- of all sizes-- and they all looked beautiful! If someone is going to make a shallow comment about how you look, it's their problem and not yours. Making fun of someone because of what they look like is pathetic and only shows how weak that person truely is.
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    when's your prom? go on a strict diet for it and you'll shed a few pounds.

    i agree with you about the fat feeling though. my ball dress is a size 10, but i feel really fat and ugly. my hair is quite short because i dyed it too much, and last night i put all my friends hair up for them but when it came to my turn they all said "oh, i dont know how to put hair up" and i felt really ugly.

    i think you should go to it and have a good time, and lose some weight after it and then when you meet up for results everyone will be like "wow" and you can go out clubbing to celebrate and everyone will think you look doubly amazing.
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    (Original post by mousey)
    My friend is the same size as you and she looked stunning at our prom
    http://groups.msn.com/Collingwood6th...to&PhotoID=504

    She's the girl in the pink. It's all about confidence, the way you walk and the way you smile. You have no reason to feel fat, size 14 is average anyway. xx
    yeah, she looks really nice in that dress!

    I can't get it out of my head that i'm too fat to where my stupid prom dress and go to the prom. i was ok about how i loked and didn't think i was that big (size 14) but someone spent most of the last few days pointing out that i've put on weight and "in certain light you do look kind of fat" etc. I know the only reason they are saying it (ok, aside from teh fact i now reckon they are ashamed of the way i look) is that they are genuinely concerned that i don't eat healthly and i agree, i don't.
    But i've always had issues with my weight, at my biggest i was a size 16, but wheni had my depression really bad i was down to a size 10, (mainly cos i had no appitie)
    It's bothering me so much i don't want to eat, all i can think is that i'm too fat and unhealthy and need to lose weight. and i know its not healthy to not eat but it not as bad if i'm just cutting out teh crap and eating less?
    Sorry. It's going to be my last chance to see everyone before we go our separate ways to uni etc this summer, but i don't want to be remebered as being like this. jus the thought of eating makes me feel like **** and i don't wnat to wear clothes that show any of me. like today i'm wearing the baggiest jeans i could find and a big tshirt.
    sorry this is too long, i just dont know what to do
    Oh hun, just enjoy yourself and have fun. 14 is not a horrible size or anything, your friend deserves to be wacked over the head for bringing you down like that. As everyone else said, it's more important that you are confidant than what you clothes size is. Just try and forget what your friend said and be yourself and be happy - people will remember you for that, not for the size of your dress. And you really should eat something, you don't want to look unhealthy at the prom and be all tired because you have no energy. Just go and take a day off and spend it going shopping and treat yourself and you'll feel much better
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    its all about confidence...honestly...i know many people who are about size 14 and they look stunnin just because they know wat to wear, have a beautiful smile and just generally, they are confident in how they look because they have accepted themselves...
    i always used to think im fat, because people like my mum and some friends told me so...im mainly a size 10 (and sometimes a size 12) by the way ! - i used to feel down too, but i have grown to accept myself just the way iam...and iam still size 10 ! - and i dress better nowadays to flatter my best features - i have a beautiful doll's style red dress to wear at this years prom..(this comin thursday) ....i think u should do the same "messed up" ....
    and maybe the first step is to change ur TSR name !!
    take care
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    (Original post by grace)
    agreed she looks very pretty but i would have said she looks bigger than a size 14?!
    i was thinking the same thing to be honest. Maybe she carries it differently?

    i'm a size 14, but i carry it on my hips (i have a skinny top- about a ten) which is really annoying!
    i hate it, i feel like i'm really fat and when it comes to prom dresses, don't get me started! I hate shopping for them, it's a nightmare.

    i thought that was more of a14 :confused:

    http://pub.tv2.no/multimedia/TV2/arc...es_140858a.jpg (although i have to say that dress isn't really flattering! lol)

    maybe this one?
    http://us.movies1.yimg.com/movies.ya...es/goldpre.jpg
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    (Original post by Cellardore)
    i was thinking the same thing to be honest. Maybe she carries it differently?

    i'm a size 14, but i carry it on my hips (i have a skinny top- about a ten) which is really annoying!
    i hate it, i feel like i'm really fat and when it comes to prom dresses, don't get me started! I hate shopping for them, it's a nightmare.

    i thought that was more of a14 :confused:

    http://pub.tv2.no/multimedia/TV2/arc...es_140858a.jpg (although i have to say that dress isn't really flattering! lol)

    maybe this one?
    http://us.movies1.yimg.com/movies.ya...es/goldpre.jpg
    Beyonce really has a great figure, wish I had her's.
    Argh, currently reading the Italian Vogue - this magazine would make anyone feel fat I should think... so yeah, don't go and read Vogue before you go to your prom!
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    (Original post by Adarah)
    Beyonce really has a great figure, wish I had her's.
    Argh, currently reading the Italian Vogue - this magazine would make anyone feel fat I should think... so yeah, don't go and read Vogue before you go to your prom!
    lol well obviosuly i'm not as nice as beyonce :p: she carries it better for a start!

    it's not fair, it's like beyonce is a size 14 and she looks absolutely stunning, then you get to me and i just look like a fat blob
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    (Original post by Cellardore)
    lol well obviosuly i'm not as nice as beyonce :p: she carries it better for a start!

    it's not fair, it's like beyonce is a size 14 and she looks absolutely stunning, then you get to me and i just look like a fat blob
    maybe you just need her wardrobe and make up artists and hair dress etc...
    Lol, I've seen pics of Christian Aguilera (how ever you spell that name) without make up - you wouldn't look at her twice if you passed her in the street, she's very plain and bland when she's not had her team of makeup artists work on her. Celebrities have loads of money that can buy them good looks I think...

    edit: i see we had the same idea when it came to the avatar
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    i agree...

    look at this... http://www.ebaumsworld.com/celeb4.html
 
 
 
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