Do I tell my friend or not?

saz_1989

My friend used to go out with this guy for about three months. They split up in January and he was gutted. At the same time I was going out with his friend. I was talking to the guy about our problems one night, and about my friend who had just dumped him, and he tried to kiss me a lot. I told another friend, but then a week later the guy got drunk and told everyone that we'd pulled - this wasn't the case - I'd pushed him off, repeatedly. It messed things up with my friend although my boyfriend was ok but finally it got fixed.

Since then I split up with the boyfriend and I've been going out with another guy for two months and I'm really happy.

Anyway, last night I ended up talking to him and it was really late so I wanted to go to bed. He was walking the way towards my building and he came with me and kept holding my hand (even though I kept pulling it away whenever I could). Then he followed me up to my room and came in - against my wishes, but again, I didn't want to offend him. I was really tired and drunk and trying to go to sleep and he still wouldn't leave - he wanted me to go watch the rugby, so in the end I told him he had to go because I wanted to go to sleep, and went and opened the door. Then as he walked out he grabbed my head and started trying to kiss me, basically trying to shove his tongue down my throat (*vom*). So I kept my mouth closed and kinda pushed him out and said "I'm going to bed - bye" and he just walked off. So I went and washed my mouth - he really is that gross.

One of my friends' boyfriends came round before to pick up some stuff that they'd left in my room, and he sat down for a chat and we talked about his gf and how things were going and my bf etc, and I told him about the guy - he agrees the guy is a **** and he's never liked him. I also texted my bf last night that something bad had happened and I totally plan to tell him.

The problem is my friend - do I tell her or not? Last time she was pissed off cos I didn't tell her. But we go home for summer tomorrow! What do you reckon?

Reply 1

grace

tell her! if she's not with him anyway it shouldn't really be a big deal, especially since it will just make her all the more happy she's not with such a prick anymore!

i was in a similar-ish situation where my best friend's bf started coming on to me at a party (he wasn't drunk, but i was) and telling me he's always fancied me and that i'm so much hotter than she is etc etc and then pulled me...i pushed him away and thought that should be that so didn't tell her! But i finally told her a little while later and she wasn't mad that it happened, only mad that i didnt tell her. it's always best to be open with your friends

Reply 2

-TMG-

You need to tell her.

Reply 3

Lidka

Tell her - it wasn't your fault that he was (is) a complete ****, and if you hide it and she finds out she might be hurt, if not by his behaviour then by the fact you didn't tell her. If she was angry you didn't tell her last time, then it's definitely right you should tell her this time. Good luck :smile:

Sorry you had to be hit on by somebody who's obviously a total slimeball. He can't have been that gone on your friend if he thinks it's acceptable to make advances to you!