Friend Problem

Heya, i need some help if anyone can

heres the situation, im best mates with 2 other girls, weve always got on and tell each other everything (so i thought)

but ive just found out, that one of them (who has an on/off relationship) is back with her bf, i asked her the other day if she was back with him, n she str8 out sed she was'nt (lying thru her teeth of course) she has been 4 about a month n didnt even tell me!!!!

theres also alot of other things she lies to me about, situations with her mum (she reckons shes always arguin, and her mum always hits her) but there has never been any marks on her, she reckons once her mum actually thru a knife at her

grr im so angry with her, im gonna have it out with her tommoz, n shes in for it big style!! anyone got any good advice for me how to handle it?

Reply 1

makeshiftwings

1

You need to chill out! There's no reason stated y she didn't tell you about her bf thing, surely she wouldn't lie to you about that without reason?

Reply 2

ArtyCass

OP

there is no reason why she shudnt tell me tho, she told our other best friend, n then doesnt tell me.

Reply 3

Book

9

To be honest, I'd leave it. - It's obvious she's not as close to you as you are to her. Just treat her like any other friend, and make some new friends too. Good luck!

Reply 4

grace

15

juvenile.

Reply 5

mtbab

17

yeh you seriously have to chill, just because she isnt telling you everything that is going on in her life doesnt mean she doesnt want to be your friend, or maybe she feels that your friendship is very strained at the moment, which wouldnt surprsie me considering your quesitoning and stressing at everything shes says. maybe shes sayin those things about her mom beaitng her, to cover up something else, maybe rather than you gettin angry at you she just wants someone to be close to, just becuase you cant see any marks when shes fully clothed doesnt mean they sont exist.

Reply 6

Spenceman_

Not telling is one thing... but lying....In my opinion she should have a VERY good reason to feel the need to lie.

Reply 7

Lauren18

14

Without meaning to seem offensive, if you come across in real life the same way as you have on this thread, I'm not surprised she has kept personal matters from you whilst telling other people.

Reply 8

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

maybe she wants people to feel sympathetic towards her, because she feels she is'nt loved enough by others around her.... xoxo

Reply 9

jyuk

u need to calm down and clear ur mind a little, otherwise ur just gonna stress urself until u do something bad.

So she doesn't tell u everything, it means nothing. I don't tell the person i feel closest to everything, but i do to some other people. But it just means I don't want to trouble that person with my problems, people who arent as close to me won't stress themselves over my problems. This might be a reason.

Reply 10

Adhsur

15

I don't think you should be as angry as you are. Obviously you are hurt that she won't tell you these things but she probably has a reason for it. With the mum situation, it's probably because she is very sensitive about the matter (who wouldn't be?) and as for the bf thing - sometimes relationships with people are so complicated that you yourself can't figure out what you have properly, let alone being able to tell other people. Maybe she is just going through an unstable patch with her bf (given that it's been on-off before) and doesn't want to draw attention to it.

Reply 11

ArtyCass

OP

thanks for the help (if you can call it help from some of you)

yes i seemed touchy the other day, but i had plenty of reason, i mean how would u feel if ur best friend had been lying to you??

anyway weve sorted it out now, and no i wasnt the problem, she just said that shes sorry, and she didnt want things to be made a big deal or anythin

as for her mum ~(and other things) she admitted to exaggerating things a bit too much

Reply 12

*starry_eyed_*

14

i understand how you felt the other day about yr mate lying.. was in a similar situation myself a while ago. Itdoes hurt when you are left out of the trio, I'm glad you've talked to your mate. Do you feel better about the situation now??? *huggle*

Reply 13

ArtyCass

OP

*starry_eyed_*

i understand how you felt the other day about yr mate lying.. was in a similar situation myself a while ago. Itdoes hurt when you are left out of the trio, I'm glad you've talked to your mate. Do you feel better about the situation now??? *huggle*

Yeah thanks, im feelin alot better about it, :biggrin:

i just hate it when we're not all close, its nrly 10years weve been mates 4 now so its weird when we like grow apart. But its all good now n im happy again YAAAY *huggs back :biggrin:

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