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Getting laid in Oxford

So, where shall I start?..
Well, I'm a guy, studying in Oxford Uni, been here for 3 years now. Lost my virginity at 19, then broke up with my gf 6 months later and not had sex with anyone ever since.

Now - please tell me if my perception of the Oxford (Cambridge is similar, I assume) sex life is roughly close to reality.

In order to get laid on a regular basis, you must belong to one of the following categories:
1) Rugby lot. I don't belong here, unfortunately I took up rowing instead at the start, and finally switched to pentathlon.
2) Going out clubbing lots and pulling people in clubs

I am fairly outgoing and open-minded, and love meeting new people! I love travelling and do lots of extra-curricular stuff - so I'm certainly not lost for words when talking to a girl.

I'm in my final year now, and several things piss me off:
1) Everybody hangs out in groups, now impossible to get into. I belong to a few of course, but largely it's all now coupled up - whenever there's a bop/ball (hello Oxford Union)/night out, everybody ends up isolated in different corners and I, well, I end up alone :smile:
I largely stopped going to all those places for that reason, but also because I can't drink alcohol due to kidney problems (and when I could I didn't like it anyway - I don't want to get wasted in a club and then **** some drunken body - literally!) and I don't really enjoy loud music, especially whenever everyone wanders around the club with their "other halves" thus dissipating the crowd (see above)

2) This may sound selfish: I haven't pulled anyone from university.
It's not about pulling or having a one-night stand (although it would at least "end the 2-year celibacy", as one of my mates kindly put it) - I want a normal relationship - short-term, long-term - I don't particularly care now.
I know I'm a good guy, I've got enough hobbies and participate in quite a few societies (which have been exhausted in terms of search for a potential girlfriend). I know I'm interesting and have enough to offer - and I don't think it's fair that I should stay single and **** in the bathroom all the way through my youth just because I can't hang out in a company of rugby lads or go clubbing every night.

Maybe I just hang out with the wrong people, and am naturally inclined to meet unsingle/weird/really bitchy/****** up women (experience of the past 2 years), but that's an entirely different topic.

Rant over. Suggestions welcome.

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Reply 1
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Reply 2
You should just forget about all these groups/cliche things. Go out with a group of friends to a bar or something, be friendly and just chat to people who seem nice. :smile: You should stop fretting over it because eventually you will make new groups of friends and meet people who are on a similar level to you.
what do you study and what do you look like? i like smart boys, let's chat.
I think you've just scored, OP ^^
I live near Oxford and all I know is that it's where all the preps go out... soo act like an arrogant private school boy and u might pull??
hello fuzzy duck.....Statistically the club with the highest chance of getting laid in.
Anonymous
So, where shall I start?..
Well, I'm a guy, studying in Oxford Uni, been here for 3 years now. Lost my virginity at 19, then broke up with my gf 6 months later and not had sex with anyone ever since.

Now - please tell me if my perception of the Oxford (Cambridge is similar, I assume) sex life is roughly close to reality.

In order to get laid on a regular basis, you must belong to one of the following categories:
1) Rugby lot. I don't belong here, unfortunately I took up rowing instead at the start, and finally switched to pentathlon.
2) Going out clubbing lots and pulling people in clubs

I am fairly outgoing and open-minded, and love meeting new people! I love travelling and do lots of extra-curricular stuff - so I'm certainly not lost for words when talking to a girl.

I'm in my final year now, and several things piss me off:
1) Everybody hangs out in groups, now impossible to get into. I belong to a few of course, but largely it's all now coupled up - whenever there's a bop/ball (hello Oxford Union)/night out, everybody ends up isolated in different corners and I, well, I end up alone :smile:
I largely stopped going to all those places for that reason, but also because I can't drink alcohol due to kidney problems (and when I could I didn't like it anyway - I don't want to get wasted in a club and then **** some drunken body - literally!) and I don't really enjoy loud music, especially whenever everyone wanders around the club with their "other halves" thus dissipating the crowd (see above)

2) This may sound selfish: I haven't pulled anyone from university.
It's not about pulling or having a one-night stand (although it would at least "end the 2-year celibacy", as one of my mates kindly put it) - I want a normal relationship - short-term, long-term - I don't particularly care now.
I know I'm a good guy, I've got enough hobbies and participate in quite a few societies (which have been exhausted in terms of search for a potential girlfriend). I know I'm interesting and have enough to offer - and I don't think it's fair that I should stay single and **** in the bathroom all the way through my youth just because I can't hang out in a company of rugby lads or go clubbing every night.

Maybe I just hang out with the wrong people, and am naturally inclined to meet unsingle/weird/really bitchy/****** up women (experience of the past 2 years), but that's an entirely different topic.

Rant over. Suggestions welcome.



I'm at Oxford and (as a girl) I do agree with you. I tend to find that going clubbing to bops etc is a great way to have a one night stand but it's definitely not the best place to find a proper relationship!

I don't think the college system helps because you end up really good friends with all the people of the opposite sex in your college so after first year it would seem really weird to sleep with them.

If it helps I'm single, not weird, not bitchy and not particularly f**ked up, so there are some of us around.

I don't really have any suggestions though (especially as my love life isn't any better than yours-other than considerably more one night stands!)

good luck xxx
Reply 8
Anon 1, anon 2 will meet you at Brown's at the bar at 8 on Friday night. She'll be wearing a blue jumper.

Amirite amirite? Problem solved!
Anonymous
So, where shall I start?..
Well, I'm a guy, studying in Oxford Uni, been here for 3 years now. Lost my virginity at 19, then broke up with my gf 6 months later and not had sex with anyone ever since.

Now - please tell me if my perception of the Oxford (Cambridge is similar, I assume) sex life is roughly close to reality.

In order to get laid on a regular basis, you must belong to one of the following categories:
1) Rugby lot. I don't belong here, unfortunately I took up rowing instead at the start, and finally switched to pentathlon.
2) Going out clubbing lots and pulling people in clubs

I am fairly outgoing and open-minded, and love meeting new people! I love travelling and do lots of extra-curricular stuff - so I'm certainly not lost for words when talking to a girl.

I'm in my final year now, and several things piss me off:
1) Everybody hangs out in groups, now impossible to get into. I belong to a few of course, but largely it's all now coupled up - whenever there's a bop/ball (hello Oxford Union)/night out, everybody ends up isolated in different corners and I, well, I end up alone :smile:
I largely stopped going to all those places for that reason, but also because I can't drink alcohol due to kidney problems (and when I could I didn't like it anyway - I don't want to get wasted in a club and then **** some drunken body - literally!) and I don't really enjoy loud music, especially whenever everyone wanders around the club with their "other halves" thus dissipating the crowd (see above)

2) This may sound selfish: I haven't pulled anyone from university.
It's not about pulling or having a one-night stand (although it would at least "end the 2-year celibacy", as one of my mates kindly put it) - I want a normal relationship - short-term, long-term - I don't particularly care now.
I know I'm a good guy, I've got enough hobbies and participate in quite a few societies (which have been exhausted in terms of search for a potential girlfriend). I know I'm interesting and have enough to offer - and I don't think it's fair that I should stay single and **** in the bathroom all the way through my youth just because I can't hang out in a company of rugby lads or go clubbing every night.

Maybe I just hang out with the wrong people, and am naturally inclined to meet unsingle/weird/really bitchy/****** up women (experience of the past 2 years), but that's an entirely different topic.

Rant over. Suggestions welcome.


Why did you specify the bathroom as the place you masturbate, is it the only place?

That's never usually my choice, apart from sometimes during a shower.
Helenia
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OK
Reply 11
jjarvis
Anon 1, anon 2 will meet you at Brown's at the bar at 8 on Friday night. She'll be wearing a blue jumper.

Amirite amirite? Problem solved!

:yep:
Anonymous
So, where shall I start?..
Well, I'm a guy, studying in Oxford Uni, been here for 3 years now. Lost my virginity at 19, then broke up with my gf 6 months later and not had sex with anyone ever since.

Now - please tell me if my perception of the Oxford (Cambridge is similar, I assume) sex life is roughly close to reality.

In order to get laid on a regular basis, you must belong to one of the following categories:
1) Rugby lot. I don't belong here, unfortunately I took up rowing instead at the start, and finally switched to pentathlon.
2) Going out clubbing lots and pulling people in clubs

I am fairly outgoing and open-minded, and love meeting new people! I love travelling and do lots of extra-curricular stuff - so I'm certainly not lost for words when talking to a girl.

I'm in my final year now, and several things piss me off:
1) Everybody hangs out in groups, now impossible to get into. I belong to a few of course, but largely it's all now coupled up - whenever there's a bop/ball (hello Oxford Union)/night out, everybody ends up isolated in different corners and I, well, I end up alone :smile:
I largely stopped going to all those places for that reason, but also because I can't drink alcohol due to kidney problems (and when I could I didn't like it anyway - I don't want to get wasted in a club and then **** some drunken body - literally!) and I don't really enjoy loud music, especially whenever everyone wanders around the club with their "other halves" thus dissipating the crowd (see above)

2) This may sound selfish: I haven't pulled anyone from university.
It's not about pulling or having a one-night stand (although it would at least "end the 2-year celibacy", as one of my mates kindly put it) - I want a normal relationship - short-term, long-term - I don't particularly care now.
I know I'm a good guy, I've got enough hobbies and participate in quite a few societies (which have been exhausted in terms of search for a potential girlfriend). I know I'm interesting and have enough to offer - and I don't think it's fair that I should stay single and **** in the bathroom all the way through my youth just because I can't hang out in a company of rugby lads or go clubbing every night.

Maybe I just hang out with the wrong people, and am naturally inclined to meet unsingle/weird/really bitchy/****** up women (experience of the past 2 years), but that's an entirely different topic.

Rant over. Suggestions welcome.

Are you regularly asking women you find attactive out?
But you're at Oxford. I'd happily chop my penis off to go to Oxford.
You're probably too fussy to be honest. Try seeing past the girls you normal look at and try for the girls you normally dismiss as not your type/not attractive/not nice/too geeky/too posh/too common etc.
issih
I live near Oxford and all I know is that it's where all the preps go out... soo act like an arrogant private school boy and u might pull??


Well it's either that or go chav-hunting in Blackbird Leys...............amirite?
Anonymous
So, where shall I start?..
Well, I'm a guy, studying in Oxford Uni, been here for 3 years now. Lost my virginity at 19, then broke up with my gf 6 months later and not had sex with anyone ever since.

Now - please tell me if my perception of the Oxford (Cambridge is similar, I assume) sex life is roughly close to reality.

In order to get laid on a regular basis, you must belong to one of the following categories:
1) Rugby lot. I don't belong here, unfortunately I took up rowing instead at the start, and finally switched to pentathlon.
2) Going out clubbing lots and pulling people in clubs

I am fairly outgoing and open-minded, and love meeting new people! I love travelling and do lots of extra-curricular stuff - so I'm certainly not lost for words when talking to a girl.

I'm in my final year now, and several things piss me off:
1) Everybody hangs out in groups, now impossible to get into. I belong to a few of course, but largely it's all now coupled up - whenever there's a bop/ball (hello Oxford Union)/night out, everybody ends up isolated in different corners and I, well, I end up alone :smile:
I largely stopped going to all those places for that reason, but also because I can't drink alcohol due to kidney problems (and when I could I didn't like it anyway - I don't want to get wasted in a club and then **** some drunken body - literally!) and I don't really enjoy loud music, especially whenever everyone wanders around the club with their "other halves" thus dissipating the crowd (see above)

2) This may sound selfish: I haven't pulled anyone from university.
It's not about pulling or having a one-night stand (although it would at least "end the 2-year celibacy", as one of my mates kindly put it) - I want a normal relationship - short-term, long-term - I don't particularly care now.
I know I'm a good guy, I've got enough hobbies and participate in quite a few societies (which have been exhausted in terms of search for a potential girlfriend). I know I'm interesting and have enough to offer - and I don't think it's fair that I should stay single and **** in the bathroom all the way through my youth just because I can't hang out in a company of rugby lads or go clubbing every night.

Maybe I just hang out with the wrong people, and am naturally inclined to meet unsingle/weird/really bitchy/****** up women (experience of the past 2 years), but that's an entirely different topic.

Rant over. Suggestions welcome.


stop looking for someone to have sex with and try focusing on finding someone who you actually want to be with.
Deinstitutionalisation
But you're at Oxford. I'd happily chop my penis off to go to Oxford.

haha..oh my...what a sight that would be! :P
Reply 18
Your more likely to get laid by an atomic bomb someone has created in the science department, theres some geniuses in oxford Ive heard.
issih
I live near Oxford and all I know is that it's where all the preps go out... soo act like an arrogant private school boy and u might pull??



I also live near Oxford. And it's just where everyone near there goes out. Just so happens that there are lots of private schools etc. Not that I am a posh little rich boy, just pointing out that not everyone is like that.