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Is anyone lonely at university?

WildStriker

8

Is anyone here lonely at university and have no friends? I am apparently.

Reply 1

Eldop

I have many friends, but that doesn't make me any less lonely.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

*Raises hand*

I go to a university full of morons, so I isolate myself as a coping strategy. You get used to it after a while. I live at home, so it isn't so bad for me.

Reply 3

The Socialite

14

WildStriker

Is anyone here lonely at university and have no friends? I am apparently.

Do you want to make friends OP or are you happy being that way?

Reply 4

stass

Eldop

I have many friends, but that doesn't make me any less lonely.

This.

Reply 5

wanderlust.xx

18

jakeee

tbh all of that just sounds like "im a loner with no personality" sugar coated.

Agreed. Even in a university of morons, you can find a group of friends.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

*Raises hand*

I go to a university full of morons, so I isolate myself as a coping strategy. You get used to it after a while. I live at home, so it isn't so bad for me.

Same. I've made a friend in one class who I meet for lunch once or twice a week as well as the classes, but other than that I usually put my headphones in to drown out everyone else. Live at home too so I don't feel that bothered about it since I've got really good friends from back home.
Hate it when I have practical labs for one class because have to pair up with folk who keep screwing up the experiments :mad:

Reply 7

miniteen

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Eldop

I have many friends, but that doesn't make me any less lonely.

Same situation.

Reply 8

affinity89

17

I am lonely - especially at the moment. I have friends, some of whom are amazing, but they go home a lot.

I am really looking forward to going home for the holidays and seeing everyone again. Spending hours and hours alone isn't fun...

Reply 9

blinkbelle

17

I get lonely sometimes. I've gone from living with my friends to living in halls as 2 of my best friends are on years abroad. Even though I have made friends in halls and still have all my other friends at Uni who I see on a daily basis, when it gets around to the evenings I really start to miss my friends who aren't here :frown:

but they'll be back in the summer so its all good.

Probably a good thing that they're not here to distract me in my final year tbh.

Reply 10

Sabertooth

20

You're not alone. I'm second year and still haven't made any mates. :sad:

Reply 11

umop apisdn

16

I wasn't lonely at my first uni but I am at this one. I can't seem to relate to these people.

Making friends is difficult when you don't drink, have a really small course and live in a tiny flat.

Reply 12

Eljamaispa

17

If you make the effort you're going to run into people you can make friends with eventually. Remember that your friendships from high school developed over a good 5-7 years. You've only got 3-4 years at university (7 if an architecturer or medic) so you just have to make more of an effort.

Reply 13

FireDeuce

14

Most people, sadly. It's a combination of a new place with new processes and being a small fish in a very big pond.

It gets much better though, just one of things you have to ride out.

Reply 14

Doozboy

i dont like my uni.. mainly due to the people....i know there has to be some people that are sooond (lol) but where??
i dont mind anyway cos i live at home and got friends back here...plus i just listen to music which i enjoy!!! TO THE MAX!!

Reply 15

punkyrocker

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Doozboy

i dont like my uni.. mainly due to the people....i know there has to be some people that are sooond (lol) but where??
i dont mind anyway cos i live at home and got friends back here...plus i just listen to music which i enjoy!!! TO THE MAX!!

I love your signature, I saw Muse a couple of days ago and it reminded me how much I love them :smile:

OP, I sympathise with you. Just fill your time doing things you enjoy doing, and make yourself the happiest you can. You feel more confident when you're happy, and probably will find it easier to socialise with people. If you're not happy at uni, carve a life for yourself outside of it (clubs, job, events, church - if religious obviously). You'll be ok! Feel free to PM me if you need to chat :smile:

Reply 16

Raindrop87

I get lonely cos i'm a bit quiet and go to a tiny uni. Also fallen out with my hall mates which is making this oh so fun.

Yes.

Meh. I sort of was last time I went to University doing a course I didn't like too much. Apparently i'm quite selfish. I tried to be different this time around but I think i'm just hard to get on with.

Reply 19

Raindrop87

I'm quite stubborn even though i'm quiet. Thinks that where I've gone wrong with one of my friends, cos I now i'm in the right. but I think she is also quite stubborn too which doesn't help. She is also a bit of sheep, wanting to be in with the popular crowd. If being on my own rather than with people who turn on you like that is what it takes then i'll do it.

Is anyone lonely at university?

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