Competition from Friend

Well basically I like this girl & have done so for ages, were already good friends. But I decided to wait to ask her out due to exams. However now one of my friends is getting quite close to her and she seems to be going his way.

It's really annoying, always nagging at my head, possibly because I do think about her a lot.

We all know that my friend likes her and I like her and she knows that we both like her also probably, but its all on a 'psychological' level as no one has said anything yet, but people can safely assume who likes who.

Having a truce is not an option one of us must win. But the problem is he really has got the edge. For example we both went round her house last night and we left quite late and she told him to text her And at college I usually find them talking to each other.

I really don't want to give up as I dont like to lose. But I am not at all sure how to win her - we have got a 1.5 weeks of college, so this the time I have to do this in.

So what should I do? I really like her.

Reply 1

lou p lou

2

maybe ask her out? chances are she's made her choice already

lou xxx

Reply 2

grace

15

ok so is this about the girl or about you wanting to win? because if it's the latter, chances are she's picked up on it and will obviously go for the guy who's genuinely interested

Reply 3

mtbab

17

talk to her, tell her how you feel, the girl will like the fact that you have been honest and kind, but do it in private, jsut tell her mate, its the best thing to do, its hard, i know it is, but you have to do it, and tell her to her face, not on phone or text.

Reply 4

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

mtbab

talk to her, tell her how you feel, the girl will like the fact that you have been honest and kind, but do it in private, jsut tell her mate, its the best thing to do, its hard, i know it is, but you have to do it, and tell her to her face, not on phone or text.

yeah i agree best way to get her attention, and best way of makin her feel quite content :smile:

xoxo

Reply 5

GarageMc

OP

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grace

ok so is this about the girl or about you wanting to win? because if it's the latter, chances are she's picked up on it and will obviously go for the guy who's genuinely interested

Never I have always liked this girl, its just that now I have fully found the true meaning of you 'Dont know what youve got until its gone'. I'm so stupid, I'm absolutely kicking myself for waiting.

mtbab

talk to her, tell her how you feel, the girl will like the fact that you have been honest and kind, but do it in private, jsut tell her mate, its the best thing to do, its hard, i know it is, but you have to do it, and tell her to her face, not on phone or text.

Sorry but I'm not sure what you mean? I should tell her how I feel etc and tell her to make a choice?

I fear that if I do that right now, she will still go for my friend. So I need some suggestions to make her feel special for the next week. Things that I should do which will give me more of a chance and then should I tell her how I feel at the end of the week?

Reply 6

mtbab

17

dont give her an ultimatum, coz no offence but she may not feel that way about you, just tell her how you feel, if you give her an ultimatum, she will jus feel threatened and probably will choose the other guy, do little things, like buy her lunch, place little anecdotes in her books offer to carry her bag (if not a handbag, lol) etc..

Reply 7

Scipio

13

mtbab

dont give her an ultimatum, coz no offence but she may not feel that way about you, just tell her how you feel, if you give her an ultimatum, she will jus feel threatened and probably will choose the other guy, do little things, like buy her lunch, place little anecdotes in her books offer to carry her bag (if not a handbag, lol) etc..

Don't become her personal bitch though..

Reply 8

Zerforax

21

kick the crap out of your friend and blame the good old friend - alcohol...

well if you really like her you'll go for her no matter what, if theres no other guy, if there is another guy or even if she has a bf...

Reply 9

GarageMc

OP

1

Should I speak to my friend also? You know just say like 'I'm going for her also, I know you are also' then say we could end up hating each other for a while, but we should still stay friends at the end.

Reply 10

Carelesswhispers

1

god i wish i was that girl, having two guys fighting over me :frown:

Reply 11

GarageMc

OP

1

bumpys

Reply 12

mtbab

17

GarageMc

Should I speak to my friend also? You know just say like 'I'm going for her also, I know you are also' then say we could end up hating each other for a while, but we should still stay friends at the end.

no dont tell him, coz hell bump up his game too, and prob jsut tell her str8 off, or just run off and get off with her, no you need to give yourself a chance, its not a level plying field mate, life aint fair, dont help him out, lol, im not being bitchy, but if this 'friend ' knew you liked her, and is still tryin to go for it, you need to get ahead of him mate.